By
Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
You are quite aware of the fact life is fragile and can be taken away at any moment. You also are familiar with the clichés about life being short and there are no guarantees given to anyone. But what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and everything you cared about, such as your home, your family, and/or your job, were all gone? How would you respond if you lost everything but your life? What would your new reality become? Who would you turn to or would you have anyone you could ask for help?
Your life is a collection of memories, experiences, adventures, and events. It is often referred to as a "history" when in fact, a person can have many "histories" based upon the life they have experienced. If someone has been in multiple relationships, lived in numerous locales, initiated personal transformations, or brought about other forms of significant changes, there are different paths which have been followed throughout their life. This means whenever they reflect upon their past it isn't one history to draw upon and remember, it is many histories with a variety of starting and ending points.
What is prominent in the minds of most people each day is the current path and direction being followed. Most people are thinking about the events of today and how to try to cope with the demands put upon them. The daily responsibilities of a job, along with time spent commuting to and from that job, can take up most of the waking day. Yet some people will be thinking long-term about the future, trying to develop a strategy to be prepared for it, as if it can be controlled. For others, thoughts of the future can provoke fear and apprehension, when it seems as if the present cannot provide for that future. Those who are experiencing mental illness, depression, or cognitive disorders may find fear of the present and the future is part of their every day thought process.
You may find yourself reflecting on the past as a point of reference, trying to compare where you are at now to some prior point in time. The hope is that you are bettering yourself and your life as you develop jobs and a career, whether for yourself and/or your family. It can seem to be a constant struggle, referred to as "trying to make ends meet" or "trying to get ahead", as jobs come and go, within an economy which seems to constantly fluctuate. While you may believe you have the right skills and experience necessary to succeed, finding the right career path may be a challenge as you find yourself continually searching. This creates a mindset of always looking forward and back, making comparisons to where you're going and where you've been. But at the heart of it is usually a good intention, to create a better way forward and a better life.
Then as you progress over time, and you begin to learn what life can teach you, you see what a career and job means to you. There is a new understanding about the skills and experience you possess, along with how you want to leverage the background you have worked so hard to acquire. Perhaps you have a focus on earning a significant income, or you may be seeking a career which offers professional fulfillment. Either way, the longer your career evolves with time, the more you understand what it means to nurture and develop job skills and find fulfilling work. You also develop a deeper awareness and appreciation for those people who are in your life and support your hard work. You want to enjoy your life with those who are closest to you and this is all part of maturing, along with seeking greater meaning from life as you get older. In a sense, it is a growing self-awareness and a personal self-awakening which occurs over time.
As you are getting older, you begin discovering how much you value and appreciate not only your life, but the lives of those you hold close to you. For those of you who are younger and are reading this, you may not quite understand this message. When you are younger, you may only see the present and believe you have nothing but unlimited time ahead of you. It may not be possible to realize the struggles which are ahead for your life, or how many different paths you may travel on in your journey of self-discovery and self-awareness. In fact, if you look at many social media websites, you will see an endless array of photos every day of young people vying for attention, in various stages of dress and undress, trying to express themselves and gain followers. One day you will understand the futile purpose of this time spent, when it fails to produce lasting meaning and fulfillment for your life.
Even more important for awakening to life is being someone who is unique and fails to fit in with societal norms. When you watch television and movies, look at advertising, and listen to rhetoric posed by religious and political leaders, a list of societal norms becomes clear. And just because laws change does not mean those norms change either. Marriage equality will never change most religious dogma. Those who are outside of societal norms include those who are gay, bisexual, transgender, have physical characteristics which are not "normal" (being overweight, disabled), have a "particular" skin color, are of an "unacceptable" culture, and the list continues.
And so, a person can have multiple histories, struggle to develop a career, and feel out of place in society, all at the same time, and still value their life more than ever. Why? Because they want to fit in, feel normal, become accepted, and/or find love.
Assume someone has nurtured a career through high points and low, developed a loving relationship, faced rejection from living outside of societal norms, understands and cherishes the importance of life, and has done the best they can with the circumstances they are in now. What happens if they wake up one day and find they have lost everything? For example, their job was terminated, their relationship ended as a result of their job loss, their home was taken, friends turned their back on this person, and society viewed this person in the worst possible light. How does a person who loves and value life face the loss of everything they cherish when it seems as if all hope is suddenly gone? Is this the consequence of being outside of the societal norm? Is this punishment for living an alternative lifestyle?
Religious leaders will tell this person to pray, and yet praying and pleading your case to a supreme being is not the answer. Mankind is not controlled by a figure in the sky, who is collecting individual souls to wander around streets of gold for all of eternity. Those were metaphors made up as part of the stories created to develop rhetoric for control purposes. The only way to enforce a set of morals is to create a supreme being who is the ultimate judge of man's behavior. Yet there is a source of life and it is an energy source, not a being. The Energy Source of Life is not a person, it is the Collective Consciousness of Mankind or the memories of all humans. This energy source is all around humans, flowing to and through everyone, nurturing and giving life to all the universe. This Energy Source of Life gives sustenance to all living beings, from humans to animals and planets. Through each human's mind they can access the wisdom of this Collective Consciousness for guidance on how to live their lives. This is what man refers to as God, yet it is not a person or a being, but a source of energy which guides all life.
When someone is faced with the loss of all they hold dear, and they discover that praying is not the answer for the situation, what then can they do to help alleviate their pain and create a new outcome? How does someone access the Collective Consciousness of Mankind when their mind is so overwhelmed with thoughts of despair and grief?
A universal truth is this: Humans have established the word "loss" as a powerful emotion to signify tragic events and significant occurrences. In doing so, humans develop strong emotional attachments to each other and to physical objects. The idea of "losing" another human, or a cherished personal belonging, evokes powerful negative emotions within a person. Words such as grief and sorrow are used to express those emotions to one another.
These sentiments have been passed down from one generation to the next. When someone or something has been declared to be gone, there are platitudes offered, usually in the form of an expression which begins with "our thoughts and prayers", as if those words hold any true value to the sender or provide comfort to the receiver. Those expressions have become so over-utilized they almost seem trite, to the point it would almost be more meaningful to acknowledge another person's feelings with no words than state something cliché.
The Mark of an Ending
When a person or cherished personal belonging is no longer with someone, it usually marks an ending and this is why negative emotions are elicited during this time period. When someone dies, the requirement is to attend a service and wear all black, to signify the beginning of a period of mourning. The focus is put on the absence of the person and the memories which were established with them over time, or the history built with them. When something of value cannot be found, there will likely be a search made, sentiments may be involved, and feelings of nostalgia expressed.
In both situations, it is a time of looking back, feeling a mix of positive and negative energy, and experiencing a sense of being off-balance, as if the world is slightly different now because a thing or person of value is no longer present. Depending upon the circumstances, it can create an emotional and mental setback.
Developing a Mental Setback
A setback occurs from a mental perspective when someone becomes so focused on the absence of what has been lost, they are unable to think clearly about their present life. This often occurs when someone has been involved in a long-term relationship and has established a significant history with this person who is now gone, as a partner, spouse, family member, or someone else who was deeply connected. Their mutually shared view and perception of the world is now altered, seemingly a permanent state, and somehow the person who is "left behind" must think for themselves, make their own decisions, establish new routines, create new habits, and possibly live in the place where the memories with the person who is now gone were made.
Other Forms of Loss
There are many other forms of unexpected loss which can create a mental setback. This can include a gay person who has been kicked out of their house, someone who has been evicted from their home or apartment for a variety of reasons, a person who has lost their job, and/or a person who becomes severely ill and loses part or all of their bodily functions. The feeling that everything is gone or has been taken from you is not confined to just a person or personal object being absent. It can also occur if you have lost the basis of support for your life and it seems as if there is no hope for the future.
The feelings which result are due to the strong attachments developed to what is perceived as "normal" conditions. This includes having a sense of security that you can survive and your basic needs will be met. You can go home and expect you will have your home. You go to work and expect to still have your job. Your body functions as it should and you expect each day that it will do so for you. But then one day, when something changes and you lose any aspect of your normal life, suddenly everything is different and it can feel as if your world has been turned upside down.
Yet the most challenging situation any person can imagine facing is the loss of everything they value, everything but their life. This would the worst-case scenario come true, something no one would ever imagine happening to them. Yet it does happen for many people, often in a domino effect, where it starts with one aspect of their life being upended and the others follow. Perhaps a relationship ends and then the person's health deteriorates. Or a person's job ends and then their house is taken away. There are endless possible combinations for how a person can witness an entire life being taken away, sometime by events which are seemingly beyond their control.
How You Transform Yourself
When negative events begin to occur in a person's life, the natural response is often one of a fight or flight nature. It may be natural to try to fight back in anger, or run away from whatever it is which is causing the emotional turmoil. Neither method brings long-term relief. Trying to figure out what happened, examining the past, looking at decisions made, and checking for clues within the history established to determine if anything could have been done to prevent what occurred; none of these methods will bring answers or resolution. This is especially true within relationships which have reached a conclusion, when one person tries to evaluate the other person's state of mind and how the relationship reached this point, and determine if it could have been avoided. While all of these reactions are natural, they are not restorative in nature.
To transform yourself from any period in your life when something has come to an end, whether a person or physical object is no longer with you, you have to let the transition occur without resistance. This is true for deaths, relationships ending, pets passing on, job losses, home losses, friendships ending, cherished treasures breaking or disappearing, or anything else close to you which is now considered to be gone, even if it is all of these at once. You have to acknowledge this is a time of transition, even if this happens more than once. You cannot stop it and you cannot control it. The more you fight it, the more you become plugged into negative emotions, the more adversely your health will be affected and it will take much longer to mend, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. You must breathe in the occurrence and breathe out the negativity you are feeling, every time you feel it within you.
The Collective Consciousness of Mankind is available for you and flows to you and through you. It is now within you as you are reading these words. It is sustaining your body and it is responsible for providing sustenance to the entire universe. Go outside and feel the wind on your body. That is the energy of life around you. Breathe in this life and feel how powerful it is. This is the energy you have access to now. Just because the worst events in life have happened to you does not change who you are or what you have access to, and you need not pray or plead or beg your case to anyone. What you need do is be kind to yourself and remember you are an energy source, part of the source of the purest form of love. There is no fiery pit waiting to consume you. Once your body is no longer active on this Earth, your connection to the Energy Source of Life continues, but as a memory in the Collective Consciousness of Mankind.
If you can allow yourself to relax, even for just a few minutes during the storm and the time of many transitions going on around you, you can begin to listen within. You need no one else, just the ability of your own mind to listen for insight. It will not be someone talking to you, rather it will be ideas, insight, and "aha" moments which come to you. The longer you practice being quiet, the more comfortable you will become with listening for these insights, which is accessed directly from the Higher Order Wisdom of the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. This is a source of pure love. Yes, there is a negative energy stream flowing through you, as energy requires both positive and negative energy to remain balanced. But if you can stay focused on the positive energy stream, any happy memory you can find, you will then tap into the wisdom and insight available to you. The happy memory can be your ability to now trust yourself to be calm and wade through the waters of transition. You are still a good person, you are loved, and you are never alone as you are connected to the Source of Life Energy.
Doesn't this sound like an amazing life you have now? Yes, the worst that can possibility happen may in fact happen, from a physical human perspective. And yes, it will take time for you to mentally, emotionally, and spiritually process it to ensure you do not experience a setback. But when you realize the source of strength and love you have available at any time, why would you ever worry that any transition is the final say for your life? You need never be sad either that someone is gone from your life when you believe someone is "dead" as a passing is merely a transition from the physical form to the higher form, which means this person is now part of the Collective Consciousness you have access to, and you can listen for their insight and wisdom with time and practice. It is up to you and what you can believe yourself capable of learning.
Your life will be challenging, there is no question. But remember the love which flows through you from the Source of Life Energy and when you do, your life's transitions will heal much quicker and in this love you will find your strength and peace of mind. You are beautiful, perfect, and loved. While you may lose everything around you as you live on this Earth, you will never and can never lose your connection to the Source of all Life.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10056497
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Wednesday, 30 January 2019
You Want It More Than Anything Why Can't You Have It?
By
Joan Silva
Over the years I have wanted, desired, sought after and pursued so many ideas, endeavors, careers, things, and lifestyles that it's quite mind boggling.
Did I get most of them? Heck no.
Did I suffer or agonize over not having, getting, or achieving these things? Oh my gosh, yes!
There were times the angst over not getting what I thought I wanted would stay with me for months, if not years. They would flavor all that I did, color my decisions, and often stop me from something even better.
I would use the disappointment to hold me back or to convince myself to not even try.
I also used these painful experiences as lessons to learn and guidance to grow.
But, honestly, who the heck wants another growth opportunity? Can't life just be simple and easy?
What's up with the whole idea that we get itches we can never seem to scratch?
You want it more than anything
why can't you have it?
It's like that itch in the middle of your back that no matter how you twist or turn, you can't reach to scratch it.
It plagues you. Wakes you from a dead sleep. Drives you simply batty.
Where is that dang back scratcher tool when you need it?
And, just like that itch you can't reach, many wants and desires in life never get scratched.
It seems, don't you think, if we want it bad enough, somehow we'd find a way to have it. After all, we are creative human beings with tremendous talents and connections.
Yet, many things in life go unfulfilled and not attained. Or, if achieved, they suddenly are not satisfying.
I know! Frustrating and maddening, sometimes depressing, isn't it?
But, are we meant to have everything we desire, want, or go after?
I think not.
Let's use cravings as an example.
I swear my body wants Cheetos. You know, those orange, disgustingly gross snacks that somehow you can't stop at just a handful? You open the bag and before you can say, I think I've had enough, the bag is empty.
You did say you wanted them, remember? You wanted them bad enough that you hauled your butt into the car, drove to the store and bought them. And, then you ate them.
So, you got what you wanted, right? Indeed you did. And, yet, was it truly a want that was wise to fulfill?
A good friend of mine said the other day that she was learning to trust her body and its messages -- to discern emotional messages (Must have Cheetos now or my life is over!) from body messages (eGads, Cheetos, you've got to be kidding, ick!).
Just like those cravings, we must learn to discern the difference between healthy and not so healthy ones.
Not so easy, is it? The voice that WANTS is loud and insistent. It nags at and pulls on you like a whining child in a grocery story who demands candy! It refuses to budge until you satisfy it. In fact, it'll throw itself on the floor and kick and scream.
Most of us would either satisfy the child or simply step over them and keep on shopping!
What if there was another way? What if you were to be kind to it, acknowledge its deep desire, and sit quietly with it?
In other words, love it. Because it, too, has a deep message for you. Push aside the temper tantrum and notice what the deeper meaning is in the unfulfilled desire. Give it a hug...
And, walk away.
Not all things we desire are meant to be had. Many are just stepping stones to the real thing we are meant to have.
Maybe, just maybe, they are there for only one purpose -- to bring enjoyment to our human journey, our earthly road trip.
No road map needed or available.
From Clutter to Tidy Strategy Session One Focus at a time Let's work on that together • Single session focus - 30 minutes • Get clarity on your a single area • Establish a plan of action • Support and accountability • Face-to-face session via Zoom • Only $49 No matter what you desire to master, make 2018 be the year you say YES to it and stick to it until success.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10002101
Over the years I have wanted, desired, sought after and pursued so many ideas, endeavors, careers, things, and lifestyles that it's quite mind boggling.
Did I get most of them? Heck no.
Did I suffer or agonize over not having, getting, or achieving these things? Oh my gosh, yes!
There were times the angst over not getting what I thought I wanted would stay with me for months, if not years. They would flavor all that I did, color my decisions, and often stop me from something even better.
I would use the disappointment to hold me back or to convince myself to not even try.
I also used these painful experiences as lessons to learn and guidance to grow.
But, honestly, who the heck wants another growth opportunity? Can't life just be simple and easy?
What's up with the whole idea that we get itches we can never seem to scratch?
You want it more than anything
why can't you have it?
It's like that itch in the middle of your back that no matter how you twist or turn, you can't reach to scratch it.
It plagues you. Wakes you from a dead sleep. Drives you simply batty.
Where is that dang back scratcher tool when you need it?
And, just like that itch you can't reach, many wants and desires in life never get scratched.
It seems, don't you think, if we want it bad enough, somehow we'd find a way to have it. After all, we are creative human beings with tremendous talents and connections.
Yet, many things in life go unfulfilled and not attained. Or, if achieved, they suddenly are not satisfying.
I know! Frustrating and maddening, sometimes depressing, isn't it?
But, are we meant to have everything we desire, want, or go after?
I think not.
Let's use cravings as an example.
I swear my body wants Cheetos. You know, those orange, disgustingly gross snacks that somehow you can't stop at just a handful? You open the bag and before you can say, I think I've had enough, the bag is empty.
You did say you wanted them, remember? You wanted them bad enough that you hauled your butt into the car, drove to the store and bought them. And, then you ate them.
So, you got what you wanted, right? Indeed you did. And, yet, was it truly a want that was wise to fulfill?
A good friend of mine said the other day that she was learning to trust her body and its messages -- to discern emotional messages (Must have Cheetos now or my life is over!) from body messages (eGads, Cheetos, you've got to be kidding, ick!).
Just like those cravings, we must learn to discern the difference between healthy and not so healthy ones.
Not so easy, is it? The voice that WANTS is loud and insistent. It nags at and pulls on you like a whining child in a grocery story who demands candy! It refuses to budge until you satisfy it. In fact, it'll throw itself on the floor and kick and scream.
Most of us would either satisfy the child or simply step over them and keep on shopping!
What if there was another way? What if you were to be kind to it, acknowledge its deep desire, and sit quietly with it?
In other words, love it. Because it, too, has a deep message for you. Push aside the temper tantrum and notice what the deeper meaning is in the unfulfilled desire. Give it a hug...
And, walk away.
Not all things we desire are meant to be had. Many are just stepping stones to the real thing we are meant to have.
Maybe, just maybe, they are there for only one purpose -- to bring enjoyment to our human journey, our earthly road trip.
No road map needed or available.
From Clutter to Tidy Strategy Session One Focus at a time Let's work on that together • Single session focus - 30 minutes • Get clarity on your a single area • Establish a plan of action • Support and accountability • Face-to-face session via Zoom • Only $49 No matter what you desire to master, make 2018 be the year you say YES to it and stick to it until success.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10002101
Monday, 28 January 2019
Saturday, 1 December 2018
Letting Go Of The Fear And Trusting Again After A Serious Heartbreak
By Rosemarie Sumalinog Gonzales
At some point of our lives, we experience hurt that we fear to trust again. Our fear of betrayal. Take baby steps day by day to become open and trusting within the very little things. The more we think over our past heartbreak, the more it lingers in our hearts. But if we just let it go naturally, our pain will heal naturally and will barely leave a scar.
We trust somebody in terms of perceiving that in spite of appearance they're decent persons with good intentions and with integrity. However, look can be very deceiving. Our previous experience affect our current relationship if we let our negative experiences destroy our reserve until such time when we become open enough to be vulnerable and trust once more.
We appreciate that every now and then things are going to be powerful. That's life and that we are going to be tested. However, keep in mind that our emotional heartbreak is not the end of the world. We need to let go of the past and move on forward. Our past won't define our future. It does not mean that if we are hurt in the past, we will also have a similar experience in the future. In other words, we've been hurt once doesn't mean that it's likely to happen once more.
What you pay most of it slow wondering becomes your reality... the very fact that it's laborious to trust someone? If it keeps happening to you, stop and reflect where did you go wrong, Love yourself foremost. When we love ourselves, it begets love. Knowing that no matter what happens we need to bounce back from our failures. That what resilient people do.
Yes, in fact we're invariably stricken by rejection because it happens as a part of life. We have a tendency to didn't get what we wished. But what's important, to learn from that negative experience to prevent us falling taken with once more.
Use rejection as a springboard to search out more about yourself, what you learned, why you are feeling the method you are doing, what you're permitting to urge within the method, wherever you're maybe sabotaging yourself. Use it to explore your values and what you actually wish in life.
Learning to trust somebody once more once is very troublesome... however, it's not possible.Your past doesn't equal your future. I learned this idea from the people I met in my field of work from different walks of life. It's not because we've been hurt within the past doesn't suggest we will get hurt once more.
So, let go of your fears and start trusting once more. This is actually the key to make a relationship work. No two people are the same. Just trust in your own judgment. However, if you retain distrusting yourself, you may keep distrusting others, that creates a positive feedback.
Part of building your confidence is to seem once yourself and understand that simply because you understand that somebody has done one thing nasty to you, you'll be okay. You'll cope on your own.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9992831
At some point of our lives, we experience hurt that we fear to trust again. Our fear of betrayal. Take baby steps day by day to become open and trusting within the very little things. The more we think over our past heartbreak, the more it lingers in our hearts. But if we just let it go naturally, our pain will heal naturally and will barely leave a scar.
We trust somebody in terms of perceiving that in spite of appearance they're decent persons with good intentions and with integrity. However, look can be very deceiving. Our previous experience affect our current relationship if we let our negative experiences destroy our reserve until such time when we become open enough to be vulnerable and trust once more.
We appreciate that every now and then things are going to be powerful. That's life and that we are going to be tested. However, keep in mind that our emotional heartbreak is not the end of the world. We need to let go of the past and move on forward. Our past won't define our future. It does not mean that if we are hurt in the past, we will also have a similar experience in the future. In other words, we've been hurt once doesn't mean that it's likely to happen once more.
What you pay most of it slow wondering becomes your reality... the very fact that it's laborious to trust someone? If it keeps happening to you, stop and reflect where did you go wrong, Love yourself foremost. When we love ourselves, it begets love. Knowing that no matter what happens we need to bounce back from our failures. That what resilient people do.
Yes, in fact we're invariably stricken by rejection because it happens as a part of life. We have a tendency to didn't get what we wished. But what's important, to learn from that negative experience to prevent us falling taken with once more.
Use rejection as a springboard to search out more about yourself, what you learned, why you are feeling the method you are doing, what you're permitting to urge within the method, wherever you're maybe sabotaging yourself. Use it to explore your values and what you actually wish in life.
Learning to trust somebody once more once is very troublesome... however, it's not possible.Your past doesn't equal your future. I learned this idea from the people I met in my field of work from different walks of life. It's not because we've been hurt within the past doesn't suggest we will get hurt once more.
So, let go of your fears and start trusting once more. This is actually the key to make a relationship work. No two people are the same. Just trust in your own judgment. However, if you retain distrusting yourself, you may keep distrusting others, that creates a positive feedback.
Part of building your confidence is to seem once yourself and understand that simply because you understand that somebody has done one thing nasty to you, you'll be okay. You'll cope on your own.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9992831
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Wisdom From the Universe: Can I Make Better Decisions?
A person's life is a series of decisions made, some decisions occurring daily, and others happening over the course of months and years. It isn't until a person has reached the midpoint of their life, or even later in life, when they realize the culminating effect those decisions have had on their life. Now looking back, every significant personal, relational, and career choice faced has presented an option in a pathway of life which could result in a number of possible outcomes.
The times when a person asks "what if" or states "if only" means they are currently at a place in life they do not wish to be and they are now reflecting back on what other possible outcomes might have occurred if different decisions were made or better options were available when choices were presented. And all of this is predicated on believing there is any productive benefit to reflecting back and coming up with numerous scenarios of the different possible outcomes.
Then people of a religious perspective try to rationalize it as being part of a divine plan, not wanting to accept they are the divine. They are part of the Source Energy of Life, connected always, disconnected never, and when they can believe in their own ability and power to listen through their own mind, and with a future focus, they can gain the wisdom necessary to make the best possible decisions as they are following their own life's plan.
A universal truth is this: Choices are not happenstance and neither is life, nor are humans merely pawns in a divine supreme being's plan to control and manipulate them at will, the same being who is supposedly known for being easily angered.
This is not how life works. The Source of Life Energy is pure and positive energy of glowing bright love, radiating through all beings. It nurtures, sustains, and generates life. Only when humans focus on negative energy do they feel a sense of being cut off, as if they are being punished. But the love from the Source of Life remains with them, in them, and flowing through them, and it is always available.
Choosing Your Point of Focus
Free will means having a choice as to your point of focus. You can choose to focus on negativity and live a life deemed evil, or focus on positive energy and live a balanced life. Now does a focus on positive energy ensure the best outcomes in life? It does not as each person has their own life's blueprint. A person can be surrounded in positive energy and still have a body with illness and disease. But the state of mind determines how a person lives their life.
With a focus on positive energy, there is a knowing that when situations arise, any decision made can be done by relying on their own internal sense of knowing, a gut instinct or insight from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. Even without the best outcome, the need to look back in despair is minimized as the positivity draws in peace, harmony, and hope. A life of struggle, a life filled with all the wrong decisions, and a life spent looking back in regret can be turned around by using the power of their own mind.
Be Willing to Listen and Trust
When a person decides to turn within, and not plead or pray to someone or something else, they can begin to listen. Not to someone, but to the Collective Consciousness of Mankind, the memories of all of mankind which creates an energy source that in turns creates and sustains all of life. The "universe" is simply a life force that originates from the Source of Life energy, extending from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind.
Within this Collective Consciousness is a higher consciousness, a Higher Order Wisdom, which provides the knowledge necessary to help guide anyone who is willing to listen. It is a matter of learning to trust yourself and your inner voice. The most important decision you can make now is to start trusting yourself, to start finding time to listen quietly for wisdom, and find happiness in positive memories.
Then decide that from this day forward your future matters more than your past. Believe you have a part in this future and be willing to accept life where you find yourself at now. This may take practice and time to accept, believe, and embrace, but the longer you continue, the more you will come to realize that every step forward in life was needed to reach today and today is right where you belong.
By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10025759
The times when a person asks "what if" or states "if only" means they are currently at a place in life they do not wish to be and they are now reflecting back on what other possible outcomes might have occurred if different decisions were made or better options were available when choices were presented. And all of this is predicated on believing there is any productive benefit to reflecting back and coming up with numerous scenarios of the different possible outcomes.
Then people of a religious perspective try to rationalize it as being part of a divine plan, not wanting to accept they are the divine. They are part of the Source Energy of Life, connected always, disconnected never, and when they can believe in their own ability and power to listen through their own mind, and with a future focus, they can gain the wisdom necessary to make the best possible decisions as they are following their own life's plan.
A universal truth is this: Choices are not happenstance and neither is life, nor are humans merely pawns in a divine supreme being's plan to control and manipulate them at will, the same being who is supposedly known for being easily angered.
This is not how life works. The Source of Life Energy is pure and positive energy of glowing bright love, radiating through all beings. It nurtures, sustains, and generates life. Only when humans focus on negative energy do they feel a sense of being cut off, as if they are being punished. But the love from the Source of Life remains with them, in them, and flowing through them, and it is always available.
Choosing Your Point of Focus
Free will means having a choice as to your point of focus. You can choose to focus on negativity and live a life deemed evil, or focus on positive energy and live a balanced life. Now does a focus on positive energy ensure the best outcomes in life? It does not as each person has their own life's blueprint. A person can be surrounded in positive energy and still have a body with illness and disease. But the state of mind determines how a person lives their life.
With a focus on positive energy, there is a knowing that when situations arise, any decision made can be done by relying on their own internal sense of knowing, a gut instinct or insight from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. Even without the best outcome, the need to look back in despair is minimized as the positivity draws in peace, harmony, and hope. A life of struggle, a life filled with all the wrong decisions, and a life spent looking back in regret can be turned around by using the power of their own mind.
Be Willing to Listen and Trust
When a person decides to turn within, and not plead or pray to someone or something else, they can begin to listen. Not to someone, but to the Collective Consciousness of Mankind, the memories of all of mankind which creates an energy source that in turns creates and sustains all of life. The "universe" is simply a life force that originates from the Source of Life energy, extending from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind.
Within this Collective Consciousness is a higher consciousness, a Higher Order Wisdom, which provides the knowledge necessary to help guide anyone who is willing to listen. It is a matter of learning to trust yourself and your inner voice. The most important decision you can make now is to start trusting yourself, to start finding time to listen quietly for wisdom, and find happiness in positive memories.
Then decide that from this day forward your future matters more than your past. Believe you have a part in this future and be willing to accept life where you find yourself at now. This may take practice and time to accept, believe, and embrace, but the longer you continue, the more you will come to realize that every step forward in life was needed to reach today and today is right where you belong.
By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
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Sunday, 11 November 2018
Thursday, 8 November 2018
The Importance of Having a Good Perspective on Life
How many times have we had an opinion on something, been convinced that we were right, only to have someone else turn up with previously unconsidered information or introduce a different viewpoint, thus prompting a whole new way of thinking? Being ready to listen to another perspective is important. It keeps our minds flexible and adaptable and is an important part of staying youthful and tolerant of what else is happening in the world.
When we share how we feel about something and discuss our approach we're expanding all our minds. We're giving an indication of how our thinking works, our perspective on life. Some people's automatic default is negative. They're convinced that things are bound to go wrong, seem to always anticipate the worst. Others think differently and are more positive and optimistic. Our outlook pre-determines how much we let external factors influence us. That's why having a good perspective is so important.
- If we regard something as scary then we're bound to behave in a more measured, cautious, apprehensive way. Feeling nervous or afraid can deter us from trying too hard. We protect ourselves by not stepping too far from our safe place. Yet we could instead treat setbacks as minor hurdles or learning points, which will often result in us hardly noticing them. We won't think twice as our concentration flows into looking for options or solutions in order to keep going.
When we feel confident and hopeful about a situation we're more relaxed and focussed on a positive outcome. There's a saying that if you expect something to be good or bad, hard or easy, guess what - you're right! We set in place a framework based on how we see things working out.
- Our mindset automatically seeps into our approach to life and influences how we handle relationships, what we expect from people, what we anticipate happening. That mindset then impacts on how others treat us. Eleanor Roosevelt reportedly said, 'we teach people how to treat us'. Our expectations can alter the dynamics of a relationship. A winning philosophy generates the best chance of a good experience.
- If we're feeling happy or sad, that too can colour our interpretation of a situation. For example, seeing several people we know chatting and laughing can be viewed in two completely different ways, dependent on how we're feeling at the time. On a bad day we may be sensitive and feel uneasy, convinced that they're talking and laughing about us. We may already be feeling embarrassed, unhappy and witnessing their laughter reinforces our already fragile mindset.
On a good day we may not even notice those people, or we may simply think that they're having a pleasant time. Our perspective is influenced by our personal circumstances and inner dialogue. It affects how we interpret their behaviour. The right perspective makes all the difference and is a huge factor in how we then choose to respond.
- Taking time to ask questions, being genuinely interested in the answers and caring enough to try to understand what's being said is also relevant in supporting us having a good perspective. Knowledge, interest, information and genuine discussion gives us a forum in which to explore other viewpoints and opinions. Mental growth occurs grow when we're happy to respectfully question and understand other peoples' attitudes, ideas and views. Patience and tolerance are part of this approach.
- Our background, parents and schooling, how we've been raised, all have a massive bearing on our perspective on life. We may have clear views, for example, on the role of men and women, what constitutes a good marriage, the importance of looks and material possessions. We may feel incredulous that other people have different viewpoints, that the things that matter to us are of little significance to them. Understanding or at least being able to respect and defend their right to their opinions is an important part of forming successful adult relationships.
- Communication should be a two-way activity and sharing our opinions helps us negotiate ways to comfortably live together, helps others understand where we're coming from, why we feel the way we do and then perhaps be able to refine our perspectives. Just as we may feel strongly about how other people should behave, so others may also hold their own definite views, views that are diametrically opposed to ours.
And they will, no doubt, have valid, justifiable reasons for having those views. Sharing and learning about their reasoning may enable us to moderate or modify our perspective and help us become more tolerant and flexible. Listening provides an opportunity for reflection and then to evolve with each other.
Having the right perspective on life helps us improve our outlook, have a more vibrant, upbeat approach to life and oil the wheels of our interactions with others. Everyone benefits when we have a good, open-minded perspective on life.
By Susan Leigh
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6465821
When we share how we feel about something and discuss our approach we're expanding all our minds. We're giving an indication of how our thinking works, our perspective on life. Some people's automatic default is negative. They're convinced that things are bound to go wrong, seem to always anticipate the worst. Others think differently and are more positive and optimistic. Our outlook pre-determines how much we let external factors influence us. That's why having a good perspective is so important.
- If we regard something as scary then we're bound to behave in a more measured, cautious, apprehensive way. Feeling nervous or afraid can deter us from trying too hard. We protect ourselves by not stepping too far from our safe place. Yet we could instead treat setbacks as minor hurdles or learning points, which will often result in us hardly noticing them. We won't think twice as our concentration flows into looking for options or solutions in order to keep going.
When we feel confident and hopeful about a situation we're more relaxed and focussed on a positive outcome. There's a saying that if you expect something to be good or bad, hard or easy, guess what - you're right! We set in place a framework based on how we see things working out.
- Our mindset automatically seeps into our approach to life and influences how we handle relationships, what we expect from people, what we anticipate happening. That mindset then impacts on how others treat us. Eleanor Roosevelt reportedly said, 'we teach people how to treat us'. Our expectations can alter the dynamics of a relationship. A winning philosophy generates the best chance of a good experience.
- If we're feeling happy or sad, that too can colour our interpretation of a situation. For example, seeing several people we know chatting and laughing can be viewed in two completely different ways, dependent on how we're feeling at the time. On a bad day we may be sensitive and feel uneasy, convinced that they're talking and laughing about us. We may already be feeling embarrassed, unhappy and witnessing their laughter reinforces our already fragile mindset.
On a good day we may not even notice those people, or we may simply think that they're having a pleasant time. Our perspective is influenced by our personal circumstances and inner dialogue. It affects how we interpret their behaviour. The right perspective makes all the difference and is a huge factor in how we then choose to respond.
- Taking time to ask questions, being genuinely interested in the answers and caring enough to try to understand what's being said is also relevant in supporting us having a good perspective. Knowledge, interest, information and genuine discussion gives us a forum in which to explore other viewpoints and opinions. Mental growth occurs grow when we're happy to respectfully question and understand other peoples' attitudes, ideas and views. Patience and tolerance are part of this approach.
- Our background, parents and schooling, how we've been raised, all have a massive bearing on our perspective on life. We may have clear views, for example, on the role of men and women, what constitutes a good marriage, the importance of looks and material possessions. We may feel incredulous that other people have different viewpoints, that the things that matter to us are of little significance to them. Understanding or at least being able to respect and defend their right to their opinions is an important part of forming successful adult relationships.
- Communication should be a two-way activity and sharing our opinions helps us negotiate ways to comfortably live together, helps others understand where we're coming from, why we feel the way we do and then perhaps be able to refine our perspectives. Just as we may feel strongly about how other people should behave, so others may also hold their own definite views, views that are diametrically opposed to ours.
And they will, no doubt, have valid, justifiable reasons for having those views. Sharing and learning about their reasoning may enable us to moderate or modify our perspective and help us become more tolerant and flexible. Listening provides an opportunity for reflection and then to evolve with each other.
Having the right perspective on life helps us improve our outlook, have a more vibrant, upbeat approach to life and oil the wheels of our interactions with others. Everyone benefits when we have a good, open-minded perspective on life.
By Susan Leigh
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6465821
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