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Wisdom From the Universe: Discover Your Life's Purpose

By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson


Do you look at your life now and wonder how you have ever reached this point in time? Do you examine your career and see nothing but failures? Are you approaching an age when many begin to think about retirement, yet you have not had a fulfilling job? Has your life and/or career been interrupted, perhaps more than once, with unforeseen circumstances? Or have you just begun your career and believe you have no idea what it is you are supposed to do in life and you feel a sense of wandering and aimlessness?

It would seem as if these are legitimate questions for any person to ask as part of a natural self-assessment phase in their life or career. Yet these commonly asked questions are based upon the essence of self-doubt and nothing more. The problem is not a life, career, or job not being fully realized. The problem is also not knowing where to start a career or job either. The heart of the issue is a failure to understand what the true purpose of life is all about.

A universal truth is this: Man is programmed to believe life occurs in one certain manner and this indoctrination occurs at birth, continues past infancy and into childhood through stories and books, and then confirmed through institutions such as religious, educational, and governmental. These institutions all reinforce the societal expectations and norms regarding right and wrong, good and bad behaviors, and how the path is established and to be followed for becoming a productive member of society.

People find they either fit in or they do not, and those who do not then find they are at odds with society in one way or another. But the idea of just living is not part of the societal plan. A person is expected to become something, have something, and claim they have accomplished something in their life.

When a person struggles with meeting that goal, what do they think? They often question themselves, cast self-doubt, start using blame, and seek guidance. Most who seek spiritual guidance believe they are living according to someone or some other being's plan, the supreme being who created all the universe and to this being they must pray. So if a person is not successful, logic dictates they must have done something wrong and must appease this supreme being who is likely mad or testing them for some unknown reason, withholding success from them for a greater purpose.

And so the praying, pleading, begging, and bargaining begins. It is done all in an attempt to catch the attention of a being who they believe is in control of their future and how it will play out. This person believes they have no control except to please this being and hope this supreme being will in turn grant them the life they want.

Think for a moment beyond what you have been taught if you can. Does your logical mind accept this type of reality? The reality that some being, unseen to humans, controls all of human life, dictates all their futures, and controls their outcomes?

To those who have awakened, to those who are enlightened, you know there is a being we are all connected to and it is an energy source. This energy source is the source of life. We are all made of energy. We are all part of an energy field. Energy is all around us now, unseen to the human eye. This perhaps is what many would want to call God.

Awaken to the Energy Source of Life

The energy Source of Life contains all the memories, knowledge, and wisdom of mankind. It is a Collective Consciousness consisting of positive and negative energy, just as the universe is made up of positive and negative energy. This energetic Source of Life does not control but instead is a living repository of information that all humans have access to. It is where humans originate and within it, new ideas are born, new physical forms are thought of and lives are planned, and it radiates the purest form of love.

The Collective Consciousness of Mankind flows to and through each human being, as signals received and transmitted through their brain. The mind is consciously aware of these signals as thoughts, ideas, aha moments, and instinct. It is what some would also refer to as a soul. This Collective Consciousness of Mankind does not control anything or anyone. It is an energetic repository and it is an energy core, which means it can sustain life. It can sustain the universe and all living things within it. The control is an individual basis, developed by each human through a plan or blueprint established prior to arriving in a physical form.

The information, insight, and wisdom available within this Collective Consciousness is accessible to all without restrictions. The only restrictions ever placed occur when someone doubts or closes their mind to their own ability to listen. When someone believes they can trust themselves, or rely upon themselves to find answers, then wisdom and insight can flow to and through them. This is important as anyone can access this knowledge to learn of their life and what lies ahead for them.

Learning About Your Life and Your Purpose

The most important aspect of establishing an understanding of your life, and what you are meant to do, is awakening to the realization your life is not tied to anyone else. This is especially important when you want to make comparisons to other people and what they have seemed to accomplish or gained that you have not yet achieved. Your place in life is not determined by society. Your life is not controlled by a supreme being who holds a master plan. This may seem troubling for some to read at first, but if you are reading this to begin with there is already something within you that is telling you there are greater truths available that you have yet to find.

What is expected of you as a human being can be summed up as follows: Live Your Life.

This is the only true way to experience life, by living it and experiencing it fully. If you feel a sense of failure, it is only because society wants everything a person does in their career, along with every job they have held, labeled as a success or failure. But even if you have a job and it "fails", does this mean you have failed to live your life in some manner? Are you not living your true purpose? The challenge for asking questions about having a purpose is that it sounds as if there must be something special or extraordinary accomplished with your life. In other words, you must succeed in everything you do. Every job and every task in your life must be a big win or big accomplishment.

But ask yourself this: Isn't it enough to do a good job and know you performed your best? Isn't it enough to know you lived your life as best you could each day?

Every person is living. Every person is experiencing life. But to just have a steady life with jobs, no jobs, ups, downs, successes, and failures, seems too ordinary for many people. To "do something with your life" means you have accomplished something extraordinary, and you likely live a certain lifestyle to show for it. You've built a career, climbed a corporate ladder, gained promotions, and acquired material possessions.

Learn the Secret to Life

Here is the secret to life: Your life's master plan requires no advanced planning on your part. What you have to do is accept your life now and listen for the wisdom, insight, and knowledge that is available to you through the power of your own mind. Your purpose is to live and experience life.

What can get in the way of fulfilling this goal of living in harmony with your own life? There are powerful internal and external forces which can disrupt your happiness. The first internal force is self-doubt or believing you have to be chasing after something. This is not to state that having goals is not useful. But to constantly wish for a future and then make comparisons to where you are now can be a destructive force. The opposite is true as well, when you are constantly looking back and remain stuck in past memories, reminding yourself of decisions made or not made, trying to understand why, and assessing the past, as if this can or will ever change it.

Another powerful interruption occurs whenever you give into doubt or despair, or turn control of your life over to the belief someone else is in charge. You will then find yourself stuck in a cycle of pain, frustration, and anxiety. This comes from the powerful external forces that want you to believe you are not in control of your future and must appease a supreme being in the hope you can have the life you want. When you remember you created this life and your life's plan is already set, you become resistant to those forces.

Welcome life as it is now. Your life is going to have bumps in the road so to speak, physical and emotional bruises, physical and emotional pain, joy and happiness, sorrows and loss, and so much more as part of daily living. This is part of being human. Yet this is not to say you are helpless either. You do have control as you have access to the wisdom of the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. As you learn to listen for this wisdom, you will know what actions to take and when.

You will know when you are following the right path and when to take action or make changes. You will soon discover that the need for measuring success and failure is not as important as it used to be as your fulfillment comes from a different source. It is personal fulfillment or living the life you have planned for yourself. This is how you can live your life with a sense of balance and well-being. No longer will you ask questions about where you have been or where you are going as you have established an internal sense of peace. This is what is means to discover and live your life's purpose.


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The 5 LESSONS In Life People Learn TOO LATE

You Want It More Than Anything Why Can't You Have It?

By Joan Silva

Over the years I have wanted, desired, sought after and pursued so many ideas, endeavors, careers, things, and lifestyles that it's quite mind boggling.

Did I get most of them? Heck no.

Did I suffer or agonize over not having, getting, or achieving these things? Oh my gosh, yes!

There were times the angst over not getting what I thought I wanted would stay with me for months, if not years. They would flavor all that I did, color my decisions, and often stop me from something even better.

I would use the disappointment to hold me back or to convince myself to not even try.

I also used these painful experiences as lessons to learn and guidance to grow.

But, honestly, who the heck wants another growth opportunity? Can't life just be simple and easy?

What's up with the whole idea that we get itches we can never seem to scratch?

You want it more than anything
why can't you have it?

It's like that itch in the middle of your back that no matter how you twist or turn, you can't reach to scratch it.

It plagues you. Wakes you from a dead sleep. Drives you simply batty.

Where is that dang back scratcher tool when you need it?

And, just like that itch you can't reach, many wants and desires in life never get scratched.

It seems, don't you think, if we want it bad enough, somehow we'd find a way to have it. After all, we are creative human beings with tremendous talents and connections.

Yet, many things in life go unfulfilled and not attained. Or, if achieved, they suddenly are not satisfying.

I know! Frustrating and maddening, sometimes depressing, isn't it?

But, are we meant to have everything we desire, want, or go after?

I think not.

Let's use cravings as an example.

I swear my body wants Cheetos. You know, those orange, disgustingly gross snacks that somehow you can't stop at just a handful? You open the bag and before you can say, I think I've had enough, the bag is empty.

You did say you wanted them, remember? You wanted them bad enough that you hauled your butt into the car, drove to the store and bought them. And, then you ate them.

So, you got what you wanted, right? Indeed you did. And, yet, was it truly a want that was wise to fulfill?

A good friend of mine said the other day that she was learning to trust her body and its messages -- to discern emotional messages (Must have Cheetos now or my life is over!) from body messages (eGads, Cheetos, you've got to be kidding, ick!).

Just like those cravings, we must learn to discern the difference between healthy and not so healthy ones.

Not so easy, is it? The voice that WANTS is loud and insistent. It nags at and pulls on you like a whining child in a grocery story who demands candy! It refuses to budge until you satisfy it. In fact, it'll throw itself on the floor and kick and scream.

Most of us would either satisfy the child or simply step over them and keep on shopping!

What if there was another way? What if you were to be kind to it, acknowledge its deep desire, and sit quietly with it?

In other words, love it. Because it, too, has a deep message for you. Push aside the temper tantrum and notice what the deeper meaning is in the unfulfilled desire. Give it a hug...

And, walk away.

Not all things we desire are meant to be had. Many are just stepping stones to the real thing we are meant to have.

Maybe, just maybe, they are there for only one purpose -- to bring enjoyment to our human journey, our earthly road trip.

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Wisdom of the Universe: Do You Wish You Could Have a Different Life?

By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson 

Have you ever looked in the mirror, or looked around at your present circumstances, and wished you could be someone else or somewhere else altogether?

Do you ever think of going back to a specific point in time, make a different decision based upon what you know now, and alter the course of your life, hopefully for the better?

Does your job, or life without a job, seem so mundane, hopeless, unfulfilling, or lacking you believe you were meant to be living another life?

Whenever there is a life of struggle, pain, loss, suffering, stagnation, and lack of fulfillment, it is a natural reaction to wish for better outcomes and see an improved or different future. For the person who lives outside the norms of society, who feels they are an outcast, is bullied, picked on, abused, or worse, the dreams of escape and living another way can preoccupy all their waking thoughts. Even those who seem to have everything in life may still feel restlessness within, wanting to become someone different, when they find a life of excess can leave emptiness deep within.

From those who have the seemingly worst life, to those who appear to have it all, the number of people who wish for a different life is always quite high. It is a form of mental escapism. Would someone actually go back in time to try to course-correct a decision they have already made? If given an opportunity to do so, there are likely some people who might attempt to do so, and it is generally those who are suffering the most and feel they have nothing left to lose. As to changing lives and becoming someone else completely, this again is another form of mental escapism.

Within the field of New Age spirituality, there is a popular speaker who has developed a cult-like following over the years, someone who tells her followers they are putting their desires into a vibrational vortex, and most people store enough to last them for several lifetimes. She does this for two reasons. First, it is a pat answer given when answers are sought to questions about life and how to deal with the desire for changes. Second, and most important, she offers it as an answer when followers come back later, after discovering their questions are still not answered by learning about a vibrational vortex.

When people seek her advice, it is quite similar to the popular book about Law of Attraction, which unfortunately, is one over-utilized law of many Laws of the Universe. Most people come to realize, generally the hard way, you cannot think your way into getting everything you want in life. There are many more Laws of the Universe, not just one which helps a person when they want to make changes or improvements. People keep seeking her out because they become dependent upon her, never learning what they are capable of actually doing to help themselves, which is the basis of organized religion. When you attend a church service, you are taught to pray, to beg and plead, follow a prescribed set of rules, and if you do not anger the supreme being, you may have your prayers or wishes granted. You never realize your own ability to be in control of your outcomes and therefore you must keep coming back, be reminded of the rules, find out what might anger the supreme being, determine what that church wants you to believe and how you are supposed to live, and perhaps one day you will be rewarded.

Then there are other spiritual teachers who tell you the "universe" is in control, which is never really explained either. Who exactly is the "universe" when someone states "the universe has your back"? This is always an interesting statement to read or hear from a spiritual teacher. When a religious teacher speaks of a supreme being, this gives a person something to focus upon. There are images which have been developed over time to depict this being, for this very purpose. But to state the "universe" is the one controlling human lives makes matters even more mysterious. How do you contact the "universe"? How do you communicate with the "universe"? Do you pray? It seems to be a very mysterious concept and one used when no real answers can be provided.

So now you are back to square one, so to speak. You have sought out religion and perhaps New Age spiritual teachers. Yet perhaps your life, relationships, job, career, health, finances, and/or any other personal factors are causing you extreme distress, to the point you are fantasizing about living as someone else and/or living somewhere else. You are almost to the point you cannot seem to focus on the day as you are waiting for some answer to come to you, something or someone to show you the way. You are imaging the ability to go back in time, hoping if you think hard enough about it, perhaps it will actually come true.

Would it be possible to trade your life or alter the course of your life?

The only way to answer this question is as follows: How would you know if you did swap or alter your timeline? How would you remember this event occurred?

Even more important is this: What if you are asking the wrong questions and focusing your thoughts in the wrong direction?

A universal truth is this: The person you are today is a cumulative result of every action, reaction, inaction, decision, non-decision, success, and failure. There is no other combination which could have created the person you have become now. There were no shortcuts to take along the way, and no one else could have lived this life for you.

When You Do Not Like the Person Today

The basis of wanting to become someone else, be somewhere else, or change past decisions to influence who you are today, is an underlying desire of feeling helpless in your present situation. This is deeply rooted in a genuine dislike for the person you are or believe yourself to be now. As if this isn't challenging enough to overcome, man teaches man to believe that help exists outside of their own abilities and control. When a person is in a state of dislike, and is told someone or some other being decides their fate, the internal turmoil and conflict only deepens. If a person prays and nothing changes, they may feel guilty, as if they have done something wrong. If a person waits on "the universe" or "source" or some other entity for assistance, and it does not arrive, negative internal feelings can worsen.

It comes down to a dislike of self and it is a result of external circumstances, whether or not there was any involvement in the cause of what led up to this point in time. There was either one event or series of events, occurring short-term or over the long-term, which led you to this point in time, even if the root cause cannot be determined.

Does it matter how many failures have occurred in comparison to successes, how many times you lost when you wanted to win, or how little you may possess in terms of money or belongings as compared to others around you? If you are at a point now where you only believe that evolving into another life, or trying to go back and correct your past, is the only method of relief - then you have decided you really do not like the person you are right now.

And this dislike can show up in other ways as well, without dreaming of escape and becoming another person or assuming another person's life. Typically when a person feels their existence is nothing but a series of ongoing mistakes and problems, their mind thinks of escape and begins to feel gloom. When someone feels despair, the creative energy of imagination, or the dreaming of another life, for as little help as it can provide temporarily, is now gone. This is when depression, feelings of hopelessness, and mental darkness sets in. It is a time when a person believes there will never be help available, they are completely powerless, and their life will never get better no matter what anyone might say to them. The longer this attitude continues, the more likely it will result in a tragic ending.

Discovering Your Own Power

The true source of unhappiness can be found in the many teachings that man teaches man. Religious institutions teach dependency on a supreme being who has already created a plan for their life. Some New Age spiritual teachers also teach dependency on their doctrines or connection to a "source". Their followers must await words to be received and translated for them. Then they must rely on a "source" or the "universe" to guide them. Rarely are people taught the power they have available right now.

The author of this post is mentally attuned to the Collective Consciousness of Mankind and has practiced tuning out other thoughts. It has taken time and practice to accomplish this goal, along with writing in journals, to learn to listen for wisdom. To access the Collective Consciousness and Higher Order Wisdom, he visualizes walking into a library and seeking knowledge to share with others. He often starts with a question about life or something he believes others may find helpful. He wants others to know they can do this as well as we are all connected to the Collective Consciousness, the Source of Life Energy. If you are willing to believe in your ability to receive insight and wisdom, you too could begin to start tuning into the endless Wisdom of the Universe. You begin by teaching yourself to tune out daily thoughts, then listen for insight, inspiration, and moments when flashes of new knowledge come to you.

How to Love the Person Today

It is important for you to know right now:

You are beautiful.

You are perfect.

You are loved. Always.

It is time for you to awaken and discover the restorative power you possess.

To love yourself now, you need to turn your focus inward.

When so many events are going on in your life, especially negative situations, the natural reaction is to focus your attention on those events. Then when there have been too many occurrences, which finally push you to the point you begin to fantasize about living another life, you are still thinking externally. You have not really dealt with the emotional and spiritual reactions going on within you.

It is natural to feel this way if you believe someone, something, or some being is in charge. But here is a truth: This is your life. You planned it prior to arrival and you can only delay or interrupt that design through your doubt and disbelief. When you decide all hope is lost, you tune out the positive energy flowing through you.

Every living being is made of positive and negative energy. If you want to begin to change your life, start to pay attention to your thoughts and course-correct yourself by focusing on the positive energy within you. This means looking for something good within your life, whether it is a distant memory or the very fact you are alive right now.

As you shift your focus, you no longer need to be dependent on anyone, anything, or any being for your happiness. Soon you will realize that external events can change. More importantly, it is through your focus on positive energy that you will strengthen your connection to the Collective Consciousness. This will give you the wisdom needed to start new goals for your life, pick yourself up, and get going again.

You can then begin to rediscover who you are and the strengths you possess. The feelings of frustration, darkness, and anxiety will lift away from you in time. It will be a period of transformation and renewal. This will also be a time when you grow to love yourself all over again. More importantly, this is how you become someone else and live a different life, by transforming from the inside out.


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The Aggregation Of Small Habits Leads To Greatness

Do you realise your best is yet to come? How do you feel when you read that statement? Do you think: "My best is behind me"? But what if you don't know what you're capable of unless you continue to move forward towards your goals and dreams? Let me give you an example. When Michael Jordan failed making his high school basketball team, do you think his career was over? Perhaps he thought so at the time because not making the team might have seemed like the end of the road for him, but it wasn't. It was the beginning of his career as one of the greatest basketballers of all time. Why? Jordan loved to play basketball and spent hours practicing and fine tuning his skills. The setbacks and defeats he experienced were part of the process to achieve greatness. They were inflection points in his career and why your best is yet to come, as long as you continue moving towards your goals. Warning: you must believe your best is still to come and keep taking the right course of action.

Your best will come from your habits, practice, growth, setbacks, victories and knowledge gained over the years. To prepare for a better tomorrow, we must commit to the tasks of today that lay the foundation for tomorrow. Nothing good can come of delaying that which we must attend to now. Whilst many of our daily tasks or habits can be tedious and time-consuming, with the right mindset they will transform our efforts into achievement. We must do our best whatever that looks like, knowing the aggregation of small habits leads to greatness. This is the essence of what motivational author and speaker Brendon Burchard refers to in High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way where he writes: "Being on your A game means that you are giving your best effort with full focus on the singular task at hand. To get it, you need to stoke the internal and external demands of necessity. Specifically, you assume the identity of a high performer and you set up situations that require full immersion." How does this idea appeal to you? Is this something you're prepared to invest in or are you already taking inspired action in your life? Whatever the case, investing in ourselves means committing to that which makes our hopes and dreams come alive.

Focus On Priorities That Make You Come Alive

We are the vessel upon which our tomorrow is created or conversely, one in which we will live with regret. Either way, regret is nothing more than ineffective action because we have squandered our time on things that don't matter. To be your best today, requires bringing your whole self to every situation. What do I mean by whole self? I mean the entirety of your being, including your mind, body and spirit. The person who brings their whole self to their task is inspired by a greater purpose for their life. A person who brings their whole self to their undertakings unites with their deeper intent, so each action is purposefully guided and emanates from passion and direct intention. We are the habits of our yesterdays and the victors of our tomorrows. What we plant in our mind and sow into our hearts becomes the seeds of greatness tomorrow.

So what are you committed to? What actions are delivering you tangible results? We must be clear whether our labour compels us to move forward or keeps us stationary. Stagnancy is a misdirected purpose in the form of resistance because we are frightened by the success of tomorrow. Yet, this is the purpose of daily actions and habits: to sharpen the saw as the late Dr. Stephen Covey wrote in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It is the opportunity to refine, review and reward ourselves for actions we undertake that bring our hopes and dreams alive.

Nothing good can come of setting aside that which can be completed now because what we put off for tomorrow compounds and soon enough we face yet another fear. Our task is to minimise fear from our lives, so we can focus on our highest objectives through purposeful action. We ought to pursue things that make us come alive, not make us feel weary and uninspired. We must do away with commitments and obligations that hinder our progress or better still, delegate them to others so we can focus on that which makes us come alive. We must bring forth the song within our heart because this is the song that touches those whom associate with our work. So I ask you: what are you putting off today that may inhibit your tomorrow? Can you commit to the smallest task, even when you feel less inclined to? Without doubt, if we are inspired by some greater purpose, then the smaller tasks will fuel our actions because a better tomorrow is possible when we commit to be our best today.

By Tony Fahkry

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8 Tips To Cope With Very Bad News

It's not easy. It's never easy. And nothing can really help you forget the situation. But there are a few little tricks that might somehow soothe you or make you find some extra strength and there are some other things that you should try and avoid in order to not feel even worse.

Let me try and summarize a few tips for you. Remember, this is not about your sick loved ones now, but about you...

Think up two or three positive thoughts or recall two happy or better yet, funny memories and keep them ready to tell your loved one if the moment arises. You have to think of them when you're alone because life tends to get busy or overwhelming when near a sick person. Grab the opportunities to give them little gifts of happiness throughout the day. Have some stories, anecdotes or memories ready at all times. Be ready to force a change of subject in the conversation when you feel that you and the patient are going in circles around the same old themes. That will act as a flush of fresh, invigorating breeze.

Whenever you're with your loved sick ones, focus all your attention on them and try not to think about your pain. It can never match theirs. And don't let mental digressions divert you from your real chore which is keeping yourself strong enough to help the person you love. It's easy to ask oneself "why us, why me?" It's in fact an unavoidable question. But it's a question that has no answer and looking for one obsessively will not solve the problem and will deduct from your energy reserves. When that question (or similar ones) pop into your head, look at it squarely for a couple of seconds and then let your thoughts tell it to leave you alone. Turn your attention to more fruitful endeavors.

Keep busy. Don't sit around letting questions attack you. Don't stay in bed if you're awake doing nothing; grab a book or get up to bake some cookies. Anything is better than letting destructive or depressive thoughts and tortuous questions engulf you. One of my favorites is writing something for my loved ones when my mind doesn't seem to find any peace. The mere act of sitting at the computer or holding the pen in my hand helps me focus and fight negative ideas. Another favorite one of mine is, of course, reading. Reading soothes my mind so much! It helps me run away from my reality for a little while and has proven to be a great way to reduce stress. But whatever you read must be of interest to you. Don't try to take any book laying around in your house. Choose something that has meaning and you really want to know about.

Meet up with friends who can support you too. Find moments to vent your anger and sadness away from your sick loved one but supported by friends or others who care for you. Let others share your pain and comfort you, too. Don't play hero all day long; it's exhausting and you need to save up your energy.

If not with friends, try to vent your anger and distress by running, exercising, walking or practicing any sport you like or engaging in any manual activity of your choice. Doing something physical helps the mind focus. It's OK to feel angry and frustrated, it's only natural. And crying is also good. But no matter what you do, don't let the anger and frustration accumulate inside you. Those two are very destructive forces that will only lead to more sadness. Feel them, face them and understand that what you are feeling is a natural reaction. Then vent away any unacceptable or excessive accumulations by doing something physical.

Plan little actions for each day. Some of them you will undertake, others will remain just planned. Have things to do at all times: rent a movie, order a book, organize a small reunion with friends over drinks, decide what to cook for dinner... even if your days seem completely full and overfilled, still plan ahead. Planning daily things to do with or without the patient will give you a sense of normalcy that will help bear the hours. Some of those plans you can design together with your loved one: discuss the details, talk about the choices... as you would do under any other circumstances.

There will be times when your mind and your soul will ask for quiet and peace, for silence and inactivity. Take a break. Give yourself some moments alone and don't feel guilty for taking them. Let your thoughts and raw feelings rest a bit. But make sure those times don't turn into self-punishment. If you feel that your mind is starting to go in circles around unanswerable questions again, put a stop to it. One thing is enjoying a quiet moment; something else is letting depression catch up with you.

And finally, let your loved one know that you are there, that you are the same old you and that you're together in this. Sometimes, when the pain is big, we withdraw from our loved ones because it's too much to bear. Try not to do that. Sail the ride together. Let the love you share hold you together. It's OK to show them that you are sad or even angry, as long as you can also show them that you are hopeful and that you still cherish these moments together. A happy moment treasured now is worth more than many, less meaningful others shared before.

Life is sometimes unbearably hard, you're right. And we should never pretend it's not. But it's our task to look for the small, good things around us to help those who are sick. Use these little tips to help you go through your dark days.

Enjoy life, yes, even under these terrible circumstances, enjoy the good moments in life.


By Jessica J Lockhart

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Being Content: How to Not Let Others Affect You

Ever wondered how to be content and happy without letting others affect you? How is it possible? Is it at all possible? This article answers these questions.

Let others' presence not bother you. You do your stuff all by yourself whatever you can. If you need co-ordination or help, ask for it. In break time, have fun and cut jokes and be happy. When you return to your work, do it coolly and be happy. You will cover many milestones this way. Stay in slow and steady mode - after all, you are the person who will win at it. Perseverance and determination always count.

Let others' words not sting at you. Make it go through one ear and out through the other ear. You may not allow what others say hurt you. Be firm and strong and speak boldly. Everything will work out and you do not have to be a people pleaser.

Let how others behave not bother you. You cannot expect everyone to be perfect and up to your standard. Nevertheless talk normally and accept them but don't let them hamper your thoughts or work.

Let how other people dress not bother you. If there is a dress code at work and someone violates it, they will have to pay for it. So you don't bother and sweat. If you don't like the way someone is dressed at a party or reunion, don't bother to say anything. Just keep your distance and mix with the people you are comfortable with and stay contented.

It's not your job to fix anyone. Let others do what they like, talk, behave or wear anything they like. You don't bother about these things unless it's your own family and would like to suggest something more rational or positive.

Learn to be content with your stuff in your place at work or home. Don't let anybody affect your peace of mind. You may sit in a garden for sometime or spend your time at a home library. Time will pass peacefully. If you crave for someone's company, let him or her know that and let them spend time with you for the time being and be content and happy.

Summing up, please don't let others' odd presence or behavior affect you. You may be in for a shock or surprise but it is totally their business. Control yourself and stay cool and at peace with yourself. That way you don't lose your temper or your peace of mind. Instead, tranquility surrounds you in your environment and you are left with your thoughts and work to enjoy and be content.



By Rosina S Khan

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What Is "Prosperity" Thinking and How Do I Think That Way?

The Google dictionary definition of prosperity is "the state of being prosperous". Synonyms listed with the definition include profitability, affluence, wealth, opulence, luxury, the good life, milk, and honey, (good) fortune, ease, plenty, comfort, security, well-being, for example, "she deserves all the prosperity she now enjoys."

While the definitions and many in society use "prosperity" as a reference to financial riches and gains. There is a related school of thought that widens the framework of prosperity to not just be "prosperous" financially, but to include a way of being, called "prosperity thinking or mindset". This is talking about the ability to view your whole life through a lens of prosperity in your thinking. This is significant because research has shown a great majority of a humans thought is negative, which is the opposite of prosperity thinking. There is a variety of research showing negative thinking is more natural to the human being, which would mean prosperity/positive thinking and thought is not natural to the human being.

- 80% human thoughts per day are negative (2)
- our attitudes are more heavily influenced by bad news than good news (3)
- in the English dictionary, 62% are negative emotional words vs. only 32% positive words (4)
- 75-98% of mental and physical illnesses come from our thought life! (1)

In my years of study, learning and working in personal growth and development, psychology, counseling and coaching, there are a few concepts that come to the top to help you shift your thinking to a more prosperous mind. The value of this is not only positive to your mood and inner wellbeing but affects you physically and ripples into the rest of your life (actions and attraction). Some might find the topic of positive psychology to feel "fluffy", "rosy thinking" or unrealistic, however, when people find themselves surrounded by negativity, depressed, stuck and constantly fighting "funks", these simple practices can change their life.

While simple, on one hand, these are multifaceted "practices" to develop and master in your life. There are books that dive deeper into the topic, but for the sake of introduction, here are three components I have found to be key to developing and growing your prosperous mind.

1. Growth or Fixed Thinking. To have a prosperous mind - you want to have GROWTH THINKING vs. FIXED THINKING. This concept is more commonly taught in the academic and education world, however, it is a foundation of learning and a core way of thinking, learning and growing that applies to our entire life. Mindsetworks is a site that explains the origin of this concept. Dr. Carol Dweck, a Stanford professor, studied thousands of children and coined the term "fixed" and "growth" mindset to describe the underlying beliefs people have about learning and intelligence. When students were encouraged in growth thinking ("learning is my goal" "effort makes me stronger") their scores and results improved. In contrast, those who have fixed thinking, focus on their limitations and can even be a victim of the skills and talents they believe they do or do not have without any control to make themselves better. This is a great YouTube to explain how it works: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75GFzikmRY0

2. Abundance vs. Scarcity. To have a Prosperity Mindset, look at what IS POSSIBLE vs. what IS NOT POSSIBLE. Abundance says there is enough and there is plenty, it trusts that whatever is has perfection to it. It creates contentment and confidence of acceptance to see the value and benefit of what is. Scarcity focuses on what we do not have and that there is not enough. It creates a fear of the lack and generates a panic to take or get because there will not be enough or I might not have enough. Because of our negative natural human wiring, it is natural to see the world and life from a sacristy perspective. For example, two children are sharing and think, if I don't get the toy I want now, I might not get it. As an adult, if you don't get a job you apply for, scarcity worries, I won't get a job or did poorly. The difference is an abundance mindset, which has similarities or overlaps with the growth mindset sees it differently. Abundance knows I will have time with the toy sometime. Abundance knows if I keep trying I will get the right job at the right time. To me, abundance vs scarcity is about trust vs. fear.

3. Unattachment vs. attachment. Lastly, unattachment is the ability to let something go and if it is meant to be it will come back. Attachment is one way of seeing, thinking and doing something. Usually, attachment is being attached to my way. I have a preconceived idea of how it has to go and look and if it does not happen that way, I see it as failure. Unattachment sets goals and has visions but is open to how things might evolve or unfold. That does not mean getting off course or ten directions, it just means being flexible to possibilities and opportunities as they present themselves and being open enough to recognize them even though they might not have been what you expected. For example, you really want a job at Apple, but do not get it. You are given the opportunity to volunteer at the high school and help with the tech club, which would be an opportunity to do something connected to your goal and create connections that would help you achieve your goal in the future. Often even better opportunities than we can imagine present themselves. This is about your attitude.

Prosperity Thinking = Growth Mindset + Prosperity Perspective + Unattachment (what can I learn and how can I grow + what is possible and what can I do + open to what happens without rules, limits or demands on how that evolves).

A good way to test your thinking is to write your goals and then 5 thoughts about your goals. Put them through the filter and make sure they are growth-minded, have a prosperity perspective and surrender attachments. If the thoughts are more fixed, scarcity and attached, make a T chart and write the positive perspective on the other side. You can begin to train your thinking and shift the way you believe, think and respond to the world. The benefits will not only bring more joy and energy to your life, but the impact you have on others will be noticeable and significant as well.


By Christy Geiger

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The Importance of Having a Good Perspective on Life

How many times have we had an opinion on something, been convinced that we were right, only to have someone else turn up with previously unconsidered information or introduce a different viewpoint, thus prompting a whole new way of thinking? Being ready to listen to another perspective is important. It keeps our minds flexible and adaptable and is an important part of staying youthful and tolerant of what else is happening in the world.

When we share how we feel about something and discuss our approach we're expanding all our minds. We're giving an indication of how our thinking works, our perspective on life. Some people's automatic default is negative. They're convinced that things are bound to go wrong, seem to always anticipate the worst. Others think differently and are more positive and optimistic. Our outlook pre-determines how much we let external factors influence us. That's why having a good perspective is so important.

- If we regard something as scary then we're bound to behave in a more measured, cautious, apprehensive way. Feeling nervous or afraid can deter us from trying too hard. We protect ourselves by not stepping too far from our safe place. Yet we could instead treat setbacks as minor hurdles or learning points, which will often result in us hardly noticing them. We won't think twice as our concentration flows into looking for options or solutions in order to keep going.

When we feel confident and hopeful about a situation we're more relaxed and focussed on a positive outcome. There's a saying that if you expect something to be good or bad, hard or easy, guess what - you're right! We set in place a framework based on how we see things working out.

- Our mindset automatically seeps into our approach to life and influences how we handle relationships, what we expect from people, what we anticipate happening. That mindset then impacts on how others treat us. Eleanor Roosevelt reportedly said, 'we teach people how to treat us'. Our expectations can alter the dynamics of a relationship. A winning philosophy generates the best chance of a good experience.

- If we're feeling happy or sad, that too can colour our interpretation of a situation. For example, seeing several people we know chatting and laughing can be viewed in two completely different ways, dependent on how we're feeling at the time. On a bad day we may be sensitive and feel uneasy, convinced that they're talking and laughing about us. We may already be feeling embarrassed, unhappy and witnessing their laughter reinforces our already fragile mindset.

On a good day we may not even notice those people, or we may simply think that they're having a pleasant time. Our perspective is influenced by our personal circumstances and inner dialogue. It affects how we interpret their behaviour. The right perspective makes all the difference and is a huge factor in how we then choose to respond.

- Taking time to ask questions, being genuinely interested in the answers and caring enough to try to understand what's being said is also relevant in supporting us having a good perspective. Knowledge, interest, information and genuine discussion gives us a forum in which to explore other viewpoints and opinions. Mental growth occurs grow when we're happy to respectfully question and understand other peoples' attitudes, ideas and views. Patience and tolerance are part of this approach.

- Our background, parents and schooling, how we've been raised, all have a massive bearing on our perspective on life. We may have clear views, for example, on the role of men and women, what constitutes a good marriage, the importance of looks and material possessions. We may feel incredulous that other people have different viewpoints, that the things that matter to us are of little significance to them. Understanding or at least being able to respect and defend their right to their opinions is an important part of forming successful adult relationships.

- Communication should be a two-way activity and sharing our opinions helps us negotiate ways to comfortably live together, helps others understand where we're coming from, why we feel the way we do and then perhaps be able to refine our perspectives. Just as we may feel strongly about how other people should behave, so others may also hold their own definite views, views that are diametrically opposed to ours.

And they will, no doubt, have valid, justifiable reasons for having those views. Sharing and learning about their reasoning may enable us to moderate or modify our perspective and help us become more tolerant and flexible. Listening provides an opportunity for reflection and then to evolve with each other.

Having the right perspective on life helps us improve our outlook, have a more vibrant, upbeat approach to life and oil the wheels of our interactions with others. Everyone benefits when we have a good, open-minded perspective on life.



By Susan Leigh


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