By
Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
You are quite aware of the fact life is fragile and can be taken away at any moment. You also are familiar with the clichés about life being short and there are no guarantees given to anyone. But what would you do if you woke up tomorrow and everything you cared about, such as your home, your family, and/or your job, were all gone? How would you respond if you lost everything but your life? What would your new reality become? Who would you turn to or would you have anyone you could ask for help?
Your life is a collection of memories, experiences, adventures, and events. It is often referred to as a "history" when in fact, a person can have many "histories" based upon the life they have experienced. If someone has been in multiple relationships, lived in numerous locales, initiated personal transformations, or brought about other forms of significant changes, there are different paths which have been followed throughout their life. This means whenever they reflect upon their past it isn't one history to draw upon and remember, it is many histories with a variety of starting and ending points.
What is prominent in the minds of most people each day is the current path and direction being followed. Most people are thinking about the events of today and how to try to cope with the demands put upon them. The daily responsibilities of a job, along with time spent commuting to and from that job, can take up most of the waking day. Yet some people will be thinking long-term about the future, trying to develop a strategy to be prepared for it, as if it can be controlled. For others, thoughts of the future can provoke fear and apprehension, when it seems as if the present cannot provide for that future. Those who are experiencing mental illness, depression, or cognitive disorders may find fear of the present and the future is part of their every day thought process.
You may find yourself reflecting on the past as a point of reference, trying to compare where you are at now to some prior point in time. The hope is that you are bettering yourself and your life as you develop jobs and a career, whether for yourself and/or your family. It can seem to be a constant struggle, referred to as "trying to make ends meet" or "trying to get ahead", as jobs come and go, within an economy which seems to constantly fluctuate. While you may believe you have the right skills and experience necessary to succeed, finding the right career path may be a challenge as you find yourself continually searching. This creates a mindset of always looking forward and back, making comparisons to where you're going and where you've been. But at the heart of it is usually a good intention, to create a better way forward and a better life.
Then as you progress over time, and you begin to learn what life can teach you, you see what a career and job means to you. There is a new understanding about the skills and experience you possess, along with how you want to leverage the background you have worked so hard to acquire. Perhaps you have a focus on earning a significant income, or you may be seeking a career which offers professional fulfillment. Either way, the longer your career evolves with time, the more you understand what it means to nurture and develop job skills and find fulfilling work. You also develop a deeper awareness and appreciation for those people who are in your life and support your hard work. You want to enjoy your life with those who are closest to you and this is all part of maturing, along with seeking greater meaning from life as you get older. In a sense, it is a growing self-awareness and a personal self-awakening which occurs over time.
As you are getting older, you begin discovering how much you value and appreciate not only your life, but the lives of those you hold close to you. For those of you who are younger and are reading this, you may not quite understand this message. When you are younger, you may only see the present and believe you have nothing but unlimited time ahead of you. It may not be possible to realize the struggles which are ahead for your life, or how many different paths you may travel on in your journey of self-discovery and self-awareness. In fact, if you look at many social media websites, you will see an endless array of photos every day of young people vying for attention, in various stages of dress and undress, trying to express themselves and gain followers. One day you will understand the futile purpose of this time spent, when it fails to produce lasting meaning and fulfillment for your life.
Even more important for awakening to life is being someone who is unique and fails to fit in with societal norms. When you watch television and movies, look at advertising, and listen to rhetoric posed by religious and political leaders, a list of societal norms becomes clear. And just because laws change does not mean those norms change either. Marriage equality will never change most religious dogma. Those who are outside of societal norms include those who are gay, bisexual, transgender, have physical characteristics which are not "normal" (being overweight, disabled), have a "particular" skin color, are of an "unacceptable" culture, and the list continues.
And so, a person can have multiple histories, struggle to develop a career, and feel out of place in society, all at the same time, and still value their life more than ever. Why? Because they want to fit in, feel normal, become accepted, and/or find love.
Assume someone has nurtured a career through high points and low, developed a loving relationship, faced rejection from living outside of societal norms, understands and cherishes the importance of life, and has done the best they can with the circumstances they are in now. What happens if they wake up one day and find they have lost everything? For example, their job was terminated, their relationship ended as a result of their job loss, their home was taken, friends turned their back on this person, and society viewed this person in the worst possible light. How does a person who loves and value life face the loss of everything they cherish when it seems as if all hope is suddenly gone? Is this the consequence of being outside of the societal norm? Is this punishment for living an alternative lifestyle?
Religious leaders will tell this person to pray, and yet praying and pleading your case to a supreme being is not the answer. Mankind is not controlled by a figure in the sky, who is collecting individual souls to wander around streets of gold for all of eternity. Those were metaphors made up as part of the stories created to develop rhetoric for control purposes. The only way to enforce a set of morals is to create a supreme being who is the ultimate judge of man's behavior. Yet there is a source of life and it is an energy source, not a being. The Energy Source of Life is not a person, it is the Collective Consciousness of Mankind or the memories of all humans. This energy source is all around humans, flowing to and through everyone, nurturing and giving life to all the universe. This Energy Source of Life gives sustenance to all living beings, from humans to animals and planets. Through each human's mind they can access the wisdom of this Collective Consciousness for guidance on how to live their lives. This is what man refers to as God, yet it is not a person or a being, but a source of energy which guides all life.
When someone is faced with the loss of all they hold dear, and they discover that praying is not the answer for the situation, what then can they do to help alleviate their pain and create a new outcome? How does someone access the Collective Consciousness of Mankind when their mind is so overwhelmed with thoughts of despair and grief?
A universal truth is this: Humans have established the word "loss" as a powerful emotion to signify tragic events and significant occurrences. In doing so, humans develop strong emotional attachments to each other and to physical objects. The idea of "losing" another human, or a cherished personal belonging, evokes powerful negative emotions within a person. Words such as grief and sorrow are used to express those emotions to one another.
These sentiments have been passed down from one generation to the next. When someone or something has been declared to be gone, there are platitudes offered, usually in the form of an expression which begins with "our thoughts and prayers", as if those words hold any true value to the sender or provide comfort to the receiver. Those expressions have become so over-utilized they almost seem trite, to the point it would almost be more meaningful to acknowledge another person's feelings with no words than state something cliché.
The Mark of an Ending
When a person or cherished personal belonging is no longer with someone, it usually marks an ending and this is why negative emotions are elicited during this time period. When someone dies, the requirement is to attend a service and wear all black, to signify the beginning of a period of mourning. The focus is put on the absence of the person and the memories which were established with them over time, or the history built with them. When something of value cannot be found, there will likely be a search made, sentiments may be involved, and feelings of nostalgia expressed.
In both situations, it is a time of looking back, feeling a mix of positive and negative energy, and experiencing a sense of being off-balance, as if the world is slightly different now because a thing or person of value is no longer present. Depending upon the circumstances, it can create an emotional and mental setback.
Developing a Mental Setback
A setback occurs from a mental perspective when someone becomes so focused on the absence of what has been lost, they are unable to think clearly about their present life. This often occurs when someone has been involved in a long-term relationship and has established a significant history with this person who is now gone, as a partner, spouse, family member, or someone else who was deeply connected. Their mutually shared view and perception of the world is now altered, seemingly a permanent state, and somehow the person who is "left behind" must think for themselves, make their own decisions, establish new routines, create new habits, and possibly live in the place where the memories with the person who is now gone were made.
Other Forms of Loss
There are many other forms of unexpected loss which can create a mental setback. This can include a gay person who has been kicked out of their house, someone who has been evicted from their home or apartment for a variety of reasons, a person who has lost their job, and/or a person who becomes severely ill and loses part or all of their bodily functions. The feeling that everything is gone or has been taken from you is not confined to just a person or personal object being absent. It can also occur if you have lost the basis of support for your life and it seems as if there is no hope for the future.
The feelings which result are due to the strong attachments developed to what is perceived as "normal" conditions. This includes having a sense of security that you can survive and your basic needs will be met. You can go home and expect you will have your home. You go to work and expect to still have your job. Your body functions as it should and you expect each day that it will do so for you. But then one day, when something changes and you lose any aspect of your normal life, suddenly everything is different and it can feel as if your world has been turned upside down.
Yet the most challenging situation any person can imagine facing is the loss of everything they value, everything but their life. This would the worst-case scenario come true, something no one would ever imagine happening to them. Yet it does happen for many people, often in a domino effect, where it starts with one aspect of their life being upended and the others follow. Perhaps a relationship ends and then the person's health deteriorates. Or a person's job ends and then their house is taken away. There are endless possible combinations for how a person can witness an entire life being taken away, sometime by events which are seemingly beyond their control.
How You Transform Yourself
When negative events begin to occur in a person's life, the natural response is often one of a fight or flight nature. It may be natural to try to fight back in anger, or run away from whatever it is which is causing the emotional turmoil. Neither method brings long-term relief. Trying to figure out what happened, examining the past, looking at decisions made, and checking for clues within the history established to determine if anything could have been done to prevent what occurred; none of these methods will bring answers or resolution. This is especially true within relationships which have reached a conclusion, when one person tries to evaluate the other person's state of mind and how the relationship reached this point, and determine if it could have been avoided. While all of these reactions are natural, they are not restorative in nature.
To transform yourself from any period in your life when something has come to an end, whether a person or physical object is no longer with you, you have to let the transition occur without resistance. This is true for deaths, relationships ending, pets passing on, job losses, home losses, friendships ending, cherished treasures breaking or disappearing, or anything else close to you which is now considered to be gone, even if it is all of these at once. You have to acknowledge this is a time of transition, even if this happens more than once. You cannot stop it and you cannot control it. The more you fight it, the more you become plugged into negative emotions, the more adversely your health will be affected and it will take much longer to mend, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. You must breathe in the occurrence and breathe out the negativity you are feeling, every time you feel it within you.
The Collective Consciousness of Mankind is available for you and flows to you and through you. It is now within you as you are reading these words. It is sustaining your body and it is responsible for providing sustenance to the entire universe. Go outside and feel the wind on your body. That is the energy of life around you. Breathe in this life and feel how powerful it is. This is the energy you have access to now. Just because the worst events in life have happened to you does not change who you are or what you have access to, and you need not pray or plead or beg your case to anyone. What you need do is be kind to yourself and remember you are an energy source, part of the source of the purest form of love. There is no fiery pit waiting to consume you. Once your body is no longer active on this Earth, your connection to the Energy Source of Life continues, but as a memory in the Collective Consciousness of Mankind.
If you can allow yourself to relax, even for just a few minutes during the storm and the time of many transitions going on around you, you can begin to listen within. You need no one else, just the ability of your own mind to listen for insight. It will not be someone talking to you, rather it will be ideas, insight, and "aha" moments which come to you. The longer you practice being quiet, the more comfortable you will become with listening for these insights, which is accessed directly from the Higher Order Wisdom of the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. This is a source of pure love. Yes, there is a negative energy stream flowing through you, as energy requires both positive and negative energy to remain balanced. But if you can stay focused on the positive energy stream, any happy memory you can find, you will then tap into the wisdom and insight available to you. The happy memory can be your ability to now trust yourself to be calm and wade through the waters of transition. You are still a good person, you are loved, and you are never alone as you are connected to the Source of Life Energy.
Doesn't this sound like an amazing life you have now? Yes, the worst that can possibility happen may in fact happen, from a physical human perspective. And yes, it will take time for you to mentally, emotionally, and spiritually process it to ensure you do not experience a setback. But when you realize the source of strength and love you have available at any time, why would you ever worry that any transition is the final say for your life? You need never be sad either that someone is gone from your life when you believe someone is "dead" as a passing is merely a transition from the physical form to the higher form, which means this person is now part of the Collective Consciousness you have access to, and you can listen for their insight and wisdom with time and practice. It is up to you and what you can believe yourself capable of learning.
Your life will be challenging, there is no question. But remember the love which flows through you from the Source of Life Energy and when you do, your life's transitions will heal much quicker and in this love you will find your strength and peace of mind. You are beautiful, perfect, and loved. While you may lose everything around you as you live on this Earth, you will never and can never lose your connection to the Source of all Life.
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Thursday, 31 January 2019
Wisdom From the Universe: Discover Your Life's Purpose
By
Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
Do you look at your life now and wonder how you have ever reached this point in time? Do you examine your career and see nothing but failures? Are you approaching an age when many begin to think about retirement, yet you have not had a fulfilling job? Has your life and/or career been interrupted, perhaps more than once, with unforeseen circumstances? Or have you just begun your career and believe you have no idea what it is you are supposed to do in life and you feel a sense of wandering and aimlessness?
It would seem as if these are legitimate questions for any person to ask as part of a natural self-assessment phase in their life or career. Yet these commonly asked questions are based upon the essence of self-doubt and nothing more. The problem is not a life, career, or job not being fully realized. The problem is also not knowing where to start a career or job either. The heart of the issue is a failure to understand what the true purpose of life is all about.
A universal truth is this: Man is programmed to believe life occurs in one certain manner and this indoctrination occurs at birth, continues past infancy and into childhood through stories and books, and then confirmed through institutions such as religious, educational, and governmental. These institutions all reinforce the societal expectations and norms regarding right and wrong, good and bad behaviors, and how the path is established and to be followed for becoming a productive member of society.
People find they either fit in or they do not, and those who do not then find they are at odds with society in one way or another. But the idea of just living is not part of the societal plan. A person is expected to become something, have something, and claim they have accomplished something in their life.
When a person struggles with meeting that goal, what do they think? They often question themselves, cast self-doubt, start using blame, and seek guidance. Most who seek spiritual guidance believe they are living according to someone or some other being's plan, the supreme being who created all the universe and to this being they must pray. So if a person is not successful, logic dictates they must have done something wrong and must appease this supreme being who is likely mad or testing them for some unknown reason, withholding success from them for a greater purpose.
And so the praying, pleading, begging, and bargaining begins. It is done all in an attempt to catch the attention of a being who they believe is in control of their future and how it will play out. This person believes they have no control except to please this being and hope this supreme being will in turn grant them the life they want.
Think for a moment beyond what you have been taught if you can. Does your logical mind accept this type of reality? The reality that some being, unseen to humans, controls all of human life, dictates all their futures, and controls their outcomes?
To those who have awakened, to those who are enlightened, you know there is a being we are all connected to and it is an energy source. This energy source is the source of life. We are all made of energy. We are all part of an energy field. Energy is all around us now, unseen to the human eye. This perhaps is what many would want to call God.
Awaken to the Energy Source of Life
The energy Source of Life contains all the memories, knowledge, and wisdom of mankind. It is a Collective Consciousness consisting of positive and negative energy, just as the universe is made up of positive and negative energy. This energetic Source of Life does not control but instead is a living repository of information that all humans have access to. It is where humans originate and within it, new ideas are born, new physical forms are thought of and lives are planned, and it radiates the purest form of love.
The Collective Consciousness of Mankind flows to and through each human being, as signals received and transmitted through their brain. The mind is consciously aware of these signals as thoughts, ideas, aha moments, and instinct. It is what some would also refer to as a soul. This Collective Consciousness of Mankind does not control anything or anyone. It is an energetic repository and it is an energy core, which means it can sustain life. It can sustain the universe and all living things within it. The control is an individual basis, developed by each human through a plan or blueprint established prior to arriving in a physical form.
The information, insight, and wisdom available within this Collective Consciousness is accessible to all without restrictions. The only restrictions ever placed occur when someone doubts or closes their mind to their own ability to listen. When someone believes they can trust themselves, or rely upon themselves to find answers, then wisdom and insight can flow to and through them. This is important as anyone can access this knowledge to learn of their life and what lies ahead for them.
Learning About Your Life and Your Purpose
The most important aspect of establishing an understanding of your life, and what you are meant to do, is awakening to the realization your life is not tied to anyone else. This is especially important when you want to make comparisons to other people and what they have seemed to accomplish or gained that you have not yet achieved. Your place in life is not determined by society. Your life is not controlled by a supreme being who holds a master plan. This may seem troubling for some to read at first, but if you are reading this to begin with there is already something within you that is telling you there are greater truths available that you have yet to find.
What is expected of you as a human being can be summed up as follows: Live Your Life.
This is the only true way to experience life, by living it and experiencing it fully. If you feel a sense of failure, it is only because society wants everything a person does in their career, along with every job they have held, labeled as a success or failure. But even if you have a job and it "fails", does this mean you have failed to live your life in some manner? Are you not living your true purpose? The challenge for asking questions about having a purpose is that it sounds as if there must be something special or extraordinary accomplished with your life. In other words, you must succeed in everything you do. Every job and every task in your life must be a big win or big accomplishment.
But ask yourself this: Isn't it enough to do a good job and know you performed your best? Isn't it enough to know you lived your life as best you could each day?
Every person is living. Every person is experiencing life. But to just have a steady life with jobs, no jobs, ups, downs, successes, and failures, seems too ordinary for many people. To "do something with your life" means you have accomplished something extraordinary, and you likely live a certain lifestyle to show for it. You've built a career, climbed a corporate ladder, gained promotions, and acquired material possessions.
Learn the Secret to Life
Here is the secret to life: Your life's master plan requires no advanced planning on your part. What you have to do is accept your life now and listen for the wisdom, insight, and knowledge that is available to you through the power of your own mind. Your purpose is to live and experience life.
What can get in the way of fulfilling this goal of living in harmony with your own life? There are powerful internal and external forces which can disrupt your happiness. The first internal force is self-doubt or believing you have to be chasing after something. This is not to state that having goals is not useful. But to constantly wish for a future and then make comparisons to where you are now can be a destructive force. The opposite is true as well, when you are constantly looking back and remain stuck in past memories, reminding yourself of decisions made or not made, trying to understand why, and assessing the past, as if this can or will ever change it.
Another powerful interruption occurs whenever you give into doubt or despair, or turn control of your life over to the belief someone else is in charge. You will then find yourself stuck in a cycle of pain, frustration, and anxiety. This comes from the powerful external forces that want you to believe you are not in control of your future and must appease a supreme being in the hope you can have the life you want. When you remember you created this life and your life's plan is already set, you become resistant to those forces.
Welcome life as it is now. Your life is going to have bumps in the road so to speak, physical and emotional bruises, physical and emotional pain, joy and happiness, sorrows and loss, and so much more as part of daily living. This is part of being human. Yet this is not to say you are helpless either. You do have control as you have access to the wisdom of the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. As you learn to listen for this wisdom, you will know what actions to take and when.
You will know when you are following the right path and when to take action or make changes. You will soon discover that the need for measuring success and failure is not as important as it used to be as your fulfillment comes from a different source. It is personal fulfillment or living the life you have planned for yourself. This is how you can live your life with a sense of balance and well-being. No longer will you ask questions about where you have been or where you are going as you have established an internal sense of peace. This is what is means to discover and live your life's purpose.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10047731
Do you look at your life now and wonder how you have ever reached this point in time? Do you examine your career and see nothing but failures? Are you approaching an age when many begin to think about retirement, yet you have not had a fulfilling job? Has your life and/or career been interrupted, perhaps more than once, with unforeseen circumstances? Or have you just begun your career and believe you have no idea what it is you are supposed to do in life and you feel a sense of wandering and aimlessness?
It would seem as if these are legitimate questions for any person to ask as part of a natural self-assessment phase in their life or career. Yet these commonly asked questions are based upon the essence of self-doubt and nothing more. The problem is not a life, career, or job not being fully realized. The problem is also not knowing where to start a career or job either. The heart of the issue is a failure to understand what the true purpose of life is all about.
A universal truth is this: Man is programmed to believe life occurs in one certain manner and this indoctrination occurs at birth, continues past infancy and into childhood through stories and books, and then confirmed through institutions such as religious, educational, and governmental. These institutions all reinforce the societal expectations and norms regarding right and wrong, good and bad behaviors, and how the path is established and to be followed for becoming a productive member of society.
People find they either fit in or they do not, and those who do not then find they are at odds with society in one way or another. But the idea of just living is not part of the societal plan. A person is expected to become something, have something, and claim they have accomplished something in their life.
When a person struggles with meeting that goal, what do they think? They often question themselves, cast self-doubt, start using blame, and seek guidance. Most who seek spiritual guidance believe they are living according to someone or some other being's plan, the supreme being who created all the universe and to this being they must pray. So if a person is not successful, logic dictates they must have done something wrong and must appease this supreme being who is likely mad or testing them for some unknown reason, withholding success from them for a greater purpose.
And so the praying, pleading, begging, and bargaining begins. It is done all in an attempt to catch the attention of a being who they believe is in control of their future and how it will play out. This person believes they have no control except to please this being and hope this supreme being will in turn grant them the life they want.
Think for a moment beyond what you have been taught if you can. Does your logical mind accept this type of reality? The reality that some being, unseen to humans, controls all of human life, dictates all their futures, and controls their outcomes?
To those who have awakened, to those who are enlightened, you know there is a being we are all connected to and it is an energy source. This energy source is the source of life. We are all made of energy. We are all part of an energy field. Energy is all around us now, unseen to the human eye. This perhaps is what many would want to call God.
Awaken to the Energy Source of Life
The energy Source of Life contains all the memories, knowledge, and wisdom of mankind. It is a Collective Consciousness consisting of positive and negative energy, just as the universe is made up of positive and negative energy. This energetic Source of Life does not control but instead is a living repository of information that all humans have access to. It is where humans originate and within it, new ideas are born, new physical forms are thought of and lives are planned, and it radiates the purest form of love.
The Collective Consciousness of Mankind flows to and through each human being, as signals received and transmitted through their brain. The mind is consciously aware of these signals as thoughts, ideas, aha moments, and instinct. It is what some would also refer to as a soul. This Collective Consciousness of Mankind does not control anything or anyone. It is an energetic repository and it is an energy core, which means it can sustain life. It can sustain the universe and all living things within it. The control is an individual basis, developed by each human through a plan or blueprint established prior to arriving in a physical form.
The information, insight, and wisdom available within this Collective Consciousness is accessible to all without restrictions. The only restrictions ever placed occur when someone doubts or closes their mind to their own ability to listen. When someone believes they can trust themselves, or rely upon themselves to find answers, then wisdom and insight can flow to and through them. This is important as anyone can access this knowledge to learn of their life and what lies ahead for them.
Learning About Your Life and Your Purpose
The most important aspect of establishing an understanding of your life, and what you are meant to do, is awakening to the realization your life is not tied to anyone else. This is especially important when you want to make comparisons to other people and what they have seemed to accomplish or gained that you have not yet achieved. Your place in life is not determined by society. Your life is not controlled by a supreme being who holds a master plan. This may seem troubling for some to read at first, but if you are reading this to begin with there is already something within you that is telling you there are greater truths available that you have yet to find.
What is expected of you as a human being can be summed up as follows: Live Your Life.
This is the only true way to experience life, by living it and experiencing it fully. If you feel a sense of failure, it is only because society wants everything a person does in their career, along with every job they have held, labeled as a success or failure. But even if you have a job and it "fails", does this mean you have failed to live your life in some manner? Are you not living your true purpose? The challenge for asking questions about having a purpose is that it sounds as if there must be something special or extraordinary accomplished with your life. In other words, you must succeed in everything you do. Every job and every task in your life must be a big win or big accomplishment.
But ask yourself this: Isn't it enough to do a good job and know you performed your best? Isn't it enough to know you lived your life as best you could each day?
Every person is living. Every person is experiencing life. But to just have a steady life with jobs, no jobs, ups, downs, successes, and failures, seems too ordinary for many people. To "do something with your life" means you have accomplished something extraordinary, and you likely live a certain lifestyle to show for it. You've built a career, climbed a corporate ladder, gained promotions, and acquired material possessions.
Learn the Secret to Life
Here is the secret to life: Your life's master plan requires no advanced planning on your part. What you have to do is accept your life now and listen for the wisdom, insight, and knowledge that is available to you through the power of your own mind. Your purpose is to live and experience life.
What can get in the way of fulfilling this goal of living in harmony with your own life? There are powerful internal and external forces which can disrupt your happiness. The first internal force is self-doubt or believing you have to be chasing after something. This is not to state that having goals is not useful. But to constantly wish for a future and then make comparisons to where you are now can be a destructive force. The opposite is true as well, when you are constantly looking back and remain stuck in past memories, reminding yourself of decisions made or not made, trying to understand why, and assessing the past, as if this can or will ever change it.
Another powerful interruption occurs whenever you give into doubt or despair, or turn control of your life over to the belief someone else is in charge. You will then find yourself stuck in a cycle of pain, frustration, and anxiety. This comes from the powerful external forces that want you to believe you are not in control of your future and must appease a supreme being in the hope you can have the life you want. When you remember you created this life and your life's plan is already set, you become resistant to those forces.
Welcome life as it is now. Your life is going to have bumps in the road so to speak, physical and emotional bruises, physical and emotional pain, joy and happiness, sorrows and loss, and so much more as part of daily living. This is part of being human. Yet this is not to say you are helpless either. You do have control as you have access to the wisdom of the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. As you learn to listen for this wisdom, you will know what actions to take and when.
You will know when you are following the right path and when to take action or make changes. You will soon discover that the need for measuring success and failure is not as important as it used to be as your fulfillment comes from a different source. It is personal fulfillment or living the life you have planned for yourself. This is how you can live your life with a sense of balance and well-being. No longer will you ask questions about where you have been or where you are going as you have established an internal sense of peace. This is what is means to discover and live your life's purpose.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10047731
Wednesday, 30 January 2019
You Want It More Than Anything Why Can't You Have It?
By
Joan Silva
Over the years I have wanted, desired, sought after and pursued so many ideas, endeavors, careers, things, and lifestyles that it's quite mind boggling.
Did I get most of them? Heck no.
Did I suffer or agonize over not having, getting, or achieving these things? Oh my gosh, yes!
There were times the angst over not getting what I thought I wanted would stay with me for months, if not years. They would flavor all that I did, color my decisions, and often stop me from something even better.
I would use the disappointment to hold me back or to convince myself to not even try.
I also used these painful experiences as lessons to learn and guidance to grow.
But, honestly, who the heck wants another growth opportunity? Can't life just be simple and easy?
What's up with the whole idea that we get itches we can never seem to scratch?
You want it more than anything
why can't you have it?
It's like that itch in the middle of your back that no matter how you twist or turn, you can't reach to scratch it.
It plagues you. Wakes you from a dead sleep. Drives you simply batty.
Where is that dang back scratcher tool when you need it?
And, just like that itch you can't reach, many wants and desires in life never get scratched.
It seems, don't you think, if we want it bad enough, somehow we'd find a way to have it. After all, we are creative human beings with tremendous talents and connections.
Yet, many things in life go unfulfilled and not attained. Or, if achieved, they suddenly are not satisfying.
I know! Frustrating and maddening, sometimes depressing, isn't it?
But, are we meant to have everything we desire, want, or go after?
I think not.
Let's use cravings as an example.
I swear my body wants Cheetos. You know, those orange, disgustingly gross snacks that somehow you can't stop at just a handful? You open the bag and before you can say, I think I've had enough, the bag is empty.
You did say you wanted them, remember? You wanted them bad enough that you hauled your butt into the car, drove to the store and bought them. And, then you ate them.
So, you got what you wanted, right? Indeed you did. And, yet, was it truly a want that was wise to fulfill?
A good friend of mine said the other day that she was learning to trust her body and its messages -- to discern emotional messages (Must have Cheetos now or my life is over!) from body messages (eGads, Cheetos, you've got to be kidding, ick!).
Just like those cravings, we must learn to discern the difference between healthy and not so healthy ones.
Not so easy, is it? The voice that WANTS is loud and insistent. It nags at and pulls on you like a whining child in a grocery story who demands candy! It refuses to budge until you satisfy it. In fact, it'll throw itself on the floor and kick and scream.
Most of us would either satisfy the child or simply step over them and keep on shopping!
What if there was another way? What if you were to be kind to it, acknowledge its deep desire, and sit quietly with it?
In other words, love it. Because it, too, has a deep message for you. Push aside the temper tantrum and notice what the deeper meaning is in the unfulfilled desire. Give it a hug...
And, walk away.
Not all things we desire are meant to be had. Many are just stepping stones to the real thing we are meant to have.
Maybe, just maybe, they are there for only one purpose -- to bring enjoyment to our human journey, our earthly road trip.
No road map needed or available.
From Clutter to Tidy Strategy Session One Focus at a time Let's work on that together • Single session focus - 30 minutes • Get clarity on your a single area • Establish a plan of action • Support and accountability • Face-to-face session via Zoom • Only $49 No matter what you desire to master, make 2018 be the year you say YES to it and stick to it until success.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10002101
Over the years I have wanted, desired, sought after and pursued so many ideas, endeavors, careers, things, and lifestyles that it's quite mind boggling.
Did I get most of them? Heck no.
Did I suffer or agonize over not having, getting, or achieving these things? Oh my gosh, yes!
There were times the angst over not getting what I thought I wanted would stay with me for months, if not years. They would flavor all that I did, color my decisions, and often stop me from something even better.
I would use the disappointment to hold me back or to convince myself to not even try.
I also used these painful experiences as lessons to learn and guidance to grow.
But, honestly, who the heck wants another growth opportunity? Can't life just be simple and easy?
What's up with the whole idea that we get itches we can never seem to scratch?
You want it more than anything
why can't you have it?
It's like that itch in the middle of your back that no matter how you twist or turn, you can't reach to scratch it.
It plagues you. Wakes you from a dead sleep. Drives you simply batty.
Where is that dang back scratcher tool when you need it?
And, just like that itch you can't reach, many wants and desires in life never get scratched.
It seems, don't you think, if we want it bad enough, somehow we'd find a way to have it. After all, we are creative human beings with tremendous talents and connections.
Yet, many things in life go unfulfilled and not attained. Or, if achieved, they suddenly are not satisfying.
I know! Frustrating and maddening, sometimes depressing, isn't it?
But, are we meant to have everything we desire, want, or go after?
I think not.
Let's use cravings as an example.
I swear my body wants Cheetos. You know, those orange, disgustingly gross snacks that somehow you can't stop at just a handful? You open the bag and before you can say, I think I've had enough, the bag is empty.
You did say you wanted them, remember? You wanted them bad enough that you hauled your butt into the car, drove to the store and bought them. And, then you ate them.
So, you got what you wanted, right? Indeed you did. And, yet, was it truly a want that was wise to fulfill?
A good friend of mine said the other day that she was learning to trust her body and its messages -- to discern emotional messages (Must have Cheetos now or my life is over!) from body messages (eGads, Cheetos, you've got to be kidding, ick!).
Just like those cravings, we must learn to discern the difference between healthy and not so healthy ones.
Not so easy, is it? The voice that WANTS is loud and insistent. It nags at and pulls on you like a whining child in a grocery story who demands candy! It refuses to budge until you satisfy it. In fact, it'll throw itself on the floor and kick and scream.
Most of us would either satisfy the child or simply step over them and keep on shopping!
What if there was another way? What if you were to be kind to it, acknowledge its deep desire, and sit quietly with it?
In other words, love it. Because it, too, has a deep message for you. Push aside the temper tantrum and notice what the deeper meaning is in the unfulfilled desire. Give it a hug...
And, walk away.
Not all things we desire are meant to be had. Many are just stepping stones to the real thing we are meant to have.
Maybe, just maybe, they are there for only one purpose -- to bring enjoyment to our human journey, our earthly road trip.
No road map needed or available.
From Clutter to Tidy Strategy Session One Focus at a time Let's work on that together • Single session focus - 30 minutes • Get clarity on your a single area • Establish a plan of action • Support and accountability • Face-to-face session via Zoom • Only $49 No matter what you desire to master, make 2018 be the year you say YES to it and stick to it until success.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10002101
Friday, 25 January 2019
Thursday, 24 January 2019
Self-Knowledge: Can Someone Feel Like A Victim If They're Out Of Touch With Their Unconscious Mind?
By Oliver JR Cooper
In both mainstream society and the self-development world, it is not uncommon for the focus to be on the conscious mind. In both of these areas, what is taking place in this part of ones being can be the only thing that matters.
For example, let's say that someone wanted to improve their life; they could end up being told that this shows that they need to believe in themselves. This could then end up being a time when they will start to change their thinking, in order to have more positive thoughts.
A Similar Outlook
Therefore, regardless of whether one looks towards mainstream society for guidance and ends up working with a cognitive behavioural therapist, for instance, or goes a different route and ends up working with a self-development coach who uses positive thinking and affirmations, for instance, one approach won't be radically different to the other.
Through getting their head right, one can believe that their life will start to move in the right direction. Now, there is also the chance that this approach will lead them to their desired destination.
Another Outcome
Then again, one could try this approach and find that their life doesn't really change. Or if it does, they might only be able to get so far and, before long, their life could go back to how it was before.
Consequently, one will be doing what they can to change their life, but it can be as though they are wasting their life. If one felt powerless and as though they had no control over their life before they tried to change their life, this experience could return once again.
A Slightly Different Scenario
Alternatively, could just find that one area of their life is not going as they want it to but they might not look for guidance. For example, someone could be clear about what kind of person they want to be in a relationship with, yet this might not happen.
Instead, they could have the tendency to attract people who are not a good match for them, and they may even be abusive. There will be the kind of person who they want to be with and then there will be the kind of person who they actually end up with.
No Control
As a result of this, it can be normal for them to come to the conclusion that they are unlucky. If this is something that has been going on for quite some time, one could even see themselves as a victim.
In their mind, they will be clear about what they want, and they may have even done what they could to make sure their external appearance is up to scratch. They may even come into contact with people who are surprised that they can't find a decent mate, adding even more weight to their view - if they have this view - that they are a victim.
An Analogy
One way of looking at these two scenarios above would be to say that they have a lot in common with an engineer who tries to fix a computer by focusing on the screen. In this case, it will be clear that the engineer needs to stop focusing on the screen and to look into what is taking place below the screen - the computer itself.
The screen will show that there is something wrong down below, which is why this part will need to be fixed. Trying to fix what is taking place above will just be a waste of time.
A Big Difference
However, while this is something that is going to be clear, the same can't be said it comes to looking at what is taking place at a deeper level of a human being. What is taking place down below is something that is often overlooked in both mainstream society and the self-development world.
It is then as though there is no such thing as an unconscious mind, with someone's life being a reflection of what is taking place in their conscious mind. The part of someone that has the biggest effect on how they behave is then going to be completely overlooked.
The Answers
What someone is likely to find, if they get in touch with what is taking place at a deeper level, is why they are experiencing life in a certain way. But, without the knowledge that is within them, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel like a victim.
It will seem as though the external world is victimising them; when in reality, they will most likely be the ones who are victimising themselves. Now, when it comes to their unconscious mind (body), this is typically the part of them that contains the painful feelings and memories that they are not willing to face.
Out of Mind, But Not Out Of Sight
These feelings and memories will have been forgotten about by their conscious mind, but the unconscious mind will be fully aware of them. And, as their conscious mind is not willing to face these aspects directly, the unconscious mind will have to reveal them to them indirectly and in a symbolic manner.
This part of them can communicate with them in a variety of different ways such as: through dreams, the people who they attract and are drawn to, how their body responds to different food and environments. The trouble is that if one is not aware of these sings, they won't be able to take advantage of them.
Awareness
There is a quote by Carl Jung that is highly relevant here, "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." When someone's starts to work through the trauma that is in their body, they will most likely find that their life gradually starts to change.
The assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance, may be needed here.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10065002
In both mainstream society and the self-development world, it is not uncommon for the focus to be on the conscious mind. In both of these areas, what is taking place in this part of ones being can be the only thing that matters.
For example, let's say that someone wanted to improve their life; they could end up being told that this shows that they need to believe in themselves. This could then end up being a time when they will start to change their thinking, in order to have more positive thoughts.
A Similar Outlook
Therefore, regardless of whether one looks towards mainstream society for guidance and ends up working with a cognitive behavioural therapist, for instance, or goes a different route and ends up working with a self-development coach who uses positive thinking and affirmations, for instance, one approach won't be radically different to the other.
Through getting their head right, one can believe that their life will start to move in the right direction. Now, there is also the chance that this approach will lead them to their desired destination.
Another Outcome
Then again, one could try this approach and find that their life doesn't really change. Or if it does, they might only be able to get so far and, before long, their life could go back to how it was before.
Consequently, one will be doing what they can to change their life, but it can be as though they are wasting their life. If one felt powerless and as though they had no control over their life before they tried to change their life, this experience could return once again.
A Slightly Different Scenario
Alternatively, could just find that one area of their life is not going as they want it to but they might not look for guidance. For example, someone could be clear about what kind of person they want to be in a relationship with, yet this might not happen.
Instead, they could have the tendency to attract people who are not a good match for them, and they may even be abusive. There will be the kind of person who they want to be with and then there will be the kind of person who they actually end up with.
No Control
As a result of this, it can be normal for them to come to the conclusion that they are unlucky. If this is something that has been going on for quite some time, one could even see themselves as a victim.
In their mind, they will be clear about what they want, and they may have even done what they could to make sure their external appearance is up to scratch. They may even come into contact with people who are surprised that they can't find a decent mate, adding even more weight to their view - if they have this view - that they are a victim.
An Analogy
One way of looking at these two scenarios above would be to say that they have a lot in common with an engineer who tries to fix a computer by focusing on the screen. In this case, it will be clear that the engineer needs to stop focusing on the screen and to look into what is taking place below the screen - the computer itself.
The screen will show that there is something wrong down below, which is why this part will need to be fixed. Trying to fix what is taking place above will just be a waste of time.
A Big Difference
However, while this is something that is going to be clear, the same can't be said it comes to looking at what is taking place at a deeper level of a human being. What is taking place down below is something that is often overlooked in both mainstream society and the self-development world.
It is then as though there is no such thing as an unconscious mind, with someone's life being a reflection of what is taking place in their conscious mind. The part of someone that has the biggest effect on how they behave is then going to be completely overlooked.
The Answers
What someone is likely to find, if they get in touch with what is taking place at a deeper level, is why they are experiencing life in a certain way. But, without the knowledge that is within them, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel like a victim.
It will seem as though the external world is victimising them; when in reality, they will most likely be the ones who are victimising themselves. Now, when it comes to their unconscious mind (body), this is typically the part of them that contains the painful feelings and memories that they are not willing to face.
Out of Mind, But Not Out Of Sight
These feelings and memories will have been forgotten about by their conscious mind, but the unconscious mind will be fully aware of them. And, as their conscious mind is not willing to face these aspects directly, the unconscious mind will have to reveal them to them indirectly and in a symbolic manner.
This part of them can communicate with them in a variety of different ways such as: through dreams, the people who they attract and are drawn to, how their body responds to different food and environments. The trouble is that if one is not aware of these sings, they won't be able to take advantage of them.
Awareness
There is a quote by Carl Jung that is highly relevant here, "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." When someone's starts to work through the trauma that is in their body, they will most likely find that their life gradually starts to change.
The assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance, may be needed here.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10065002
Friday, 30 November 2018
Success: Why Do Some People Sabotage Their Own Success?
By Oliver JR Cooper
When someone holds themselves back in life, there are at least two things that can take place. If one is not aware of the fact that they are holding themselves back, they can come to see themselves as a victim.
On the other hand, if one is aware of the fact that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they will be able to take a deeper look into why this is. By taking this approach, they will be able to liberate themselves over time.
The First Outcome
If someone is not aware of why they are holding themselves back, and is only aware of what they have been doing to move forward in life, they could believe that there is no way that they are playing a part in all this. One could reflect on some of the things that they have done over the years, seeing how hard they have worked.
Perhaps they get up in the early hours most days and only go to bed once they have ticked off everything that they needed to do. There will then be absolutely no doubt about how committed they are to their own growth.
Plenty of Evidence
Along with what they generally do on each day of their life, there can be all the courses that they have been on. They may go on a few courses a year, or maybe they go on at least one course a month.
In addition to this, there can be all the books that they have read on success and achievement. As far as they are concerned, every part of them will want to move forward and to go to the next level.
An Indivisible Barrier
But, no matter what they do to move forward, they will find that they can only get so far. Now, there may be times when they are able to make a breakthrough, but before long, they may soon return to where they were.
It is then going to be a case of one or two steps forward and one or two steps back. When this happens, one could come to believe that a certain person or a certain group of people are holding them back.
More Force
Their mental and emotional state could radically change after one of these moments, only for them to rise up again shortly after; this will then prove how resilient they are. This is also likely to show that one will be using a lot of willpower.
Living in this way is most likely going to cause them to experience a fair amount of pressure, pressure that could knock them down from time to time. If another person was to suggest that they may be the ones who are holding themselves back, one may end up being consumed by anger or find what has been said amusing.
One Direction
One could believe that this person doesn't know what they are talking about, seeing them as someone who just wants to pull them down or hasn't got a clue what they are talking about. One will be out there working hard, not waiting for anything to fall into their lap.
What could make it ever harder for them to handle what is going on is if they come across someone who is making clear progress, even though they don't appear to be working very hard. It may seem as though someone like this has something that they themselves don't have.
One Solution
During times like these, one may believe that this shows that they need to try another approach. Nonetheless, what they may find is that changing their approach doesn't really do anything.
One of the things that they may have learned at one point in time was that they were being held back by low self-esteem. Yet, even after they had worked on this, their life still didn't change.
A Closer Look
Due to how they experience life, there are likely to be a number of negative feelings that they are used to experiencing - that is, of course, if they don't have the tendency to repress these feelings. They can feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, trapped, and worthless during the moments when they reflect on how they life is or if they experience a setback.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they only experience these feelings because of what in taking place in their life. Thus, if their life was to change, they would no longer experience these feelings.
Emotionally Attached
Another way of looking at this would be to say that feelings these feelings is what feels comfortable. And, only does it feel comfortable, these feelings are a big part of their identity.
Clearly, feeling this way is not what feels comfortable at a conscious level; yet, unconsciously, feeling this way can be familiar and, therefore, what feels safe. Taking this into account, their conscious mind will want something that is seen as threat to their unconscious mind, which is why it is so hard for them to change their life.
One Need
The reason why feeling this way feels comfortable can be the result of what took place at the beginning of their life. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, for instance.
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Feeling this way would have gradually become what felt comfortable and these feelings have become part of their identity. The trouble is that as the years passed, different defences would have been put in place, causing one to gradually lose touch with the information that would allow them to realise why they sabotage their own life.
Awareness
What this emphasises is how important self-awareness and self-knowledge is when it comes to being able to grow and develop. When one doesn't have self-awareness and self-knowledge, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel like a victim.
If one can see that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they may need to reach out for external support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10037162
When someone holds themselves back in life, there are at least two things that can take place. If one is not aware of the fact that they are holding themselves back, they can come to see themselves as a victim.
On the other hand, if one is aware of the fact that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they will be able to take a deeper look into why this is. By taking this approach, they will be able to liberate themselves over time.
The First Outcome
If someone is not aware of why they are holding themselves back, and is only aware of what they have been doing to move forward in life, they could believe that there is no way that they are playing a part in all this. One could reflect on some of the things that they have done over the years, seeing how hard they have worked.
Perhaps they get up in the early hours most days and only go to bed once they have ticked off everything that they needed to do. There will then be absolutely no doubt about how committed they are to their own growth.
Plenty of Evidence
Along with what they generally do on each day of their life, there can be all the courses that they have been on. They may go on a few courses a year, or maybe they go on at least one course a month.
In addition to this, there can be all the books that they have read on success and achievement. As far as they are concerned, every part of them will want to move forward and to go to the next level.
An Indivisible Barrier
But, no matter what they do to move forward, they will find that they can only get so far. Now, there may be times when they are able to make a breakthrough, but before long, they may soon return to where they were.
It is then going to be a case of one or two steps forward and one or two steps back. When this happens, one could come to believe that a certain person or a certain group of people are holding them back.
More Force
Their mental and emotional state could radically change after one of these moments, only for them to rise up again shortly after; this will then prove how resilient they are. This is also likely to show that one will be using a lot of willpower.
Living in this way is most likely going to cause them to experience a fair amount of pressure, pressure that could knock them down from time to time. If another person was to suggest that they may be the ones who are holding themselves back, one may end up being consumed by anger or find what has been said amusing.
One Direction
One could believe that this person doesn't know what they are talking about, seeing them as someone who just wants to pull them down or hasn't got a clue what they are talking about. One will be out there working hard, not waiting for anything to fall into their lap.
What could make it ever harder for them to handle what is going on is if they come across someone who is making clear progress, even though they don't appear to be working very hard. It may seem as though someone like this has something that they themselves don't have.
One Solution
During times like these, one may believe that this shows that they need to try another approach. Nonetheless, what they may find is that changing their approach doesn't really do anything.
One of the things that they may have learned at one point in time was that they were being held back by low self-esteem. Yet, even after they had worked on this, their life still didn't change.
A Closer Look
Due to how they experience life, there are likely to be a number of negative feelings that they are used to experiencing - that is, of course, if they don't have the tendency to repress these feelings. They can feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, trapped, and worthless during the moments when they reflect on how they life is or if they experience a setback.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they only experience these feelings because of what in taking place in their life. Thus, if their life was to change, they would no longer experience these feelings.
Emotionally Attached
Another way of looking at this would be to say that feelings these feelings is what feels comfortable. And, only does it feel comfortable, these feelings are a big part of their identity.
Clearly, feeling this way is not what feels comfortable at a conscious level; yet, unconsciously, feeling this way can be familiar and, therefore, what feels safe. Taking this into account, their conscious mind will want something that is seen as threat to their unconscious mind, which is why it is so hard for them to change their life.
One Need
The reason why feeling this way feels comfortable can be the result of what took place at the beginning of their life. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, for instance.
​
Feeling this way would have gradually become what felt comfortable and these feelings have become part of their identity. The trouble is that as the years passed, different defences would have been put in place, causing one to gradually lose touch with the information that would allow them to realise why they sabotage their own life.
Awareness
What this emphasises is how important self-awareness and self-knowledge is when it comes to being able to grow and develop. When one doesn't have self-awareness and self-knowledge, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel like a victim.
If one can see that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they may need to reach out for external support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10037162
Wednesday, 28 November 2018
Victim Mentality: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Like A Victim?
By Oliver JR Cooper
If someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won't have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won't see themselves as an empowered human being.
What this illustrates is that one can't be both; they are either one or the other. At the same time, even if one does see themselves as an empowered human being, it doesn't mean that they won't feel like a victim from time to time.
Back On Track
For example, something could take place in their life that wipes them out, with them feeling as though the world is against them. Still, it might not be long until they come to their senses and realise that this is not the case.
One could see this as just their mind playing tricks on them, and, as they are feeling a bit under the weather, it will have been easier for their mind to exert its influence. Like an intruder, it will have noticed an opening and pounced.
A Choice
Generally, they are going to believe that they are someone who has control over their life. There will be what they can do and there will be how they can respond to what happens to them.
In other words, even if one can't do anything to change something, they still have control over what takes place in their own head. This will stop them from getting sucked into things that are out of their control.
Emotional Experience
One may find that they have the tendency to feel not only empowered, but to also feel capable, at peace, connected, and grateful. Being thankful for what they have, as opposed to getting worked up about what they don't have or what is not going their way, will undoubtedly have a positive effect on their wellbeing.
It will also be a lot easier for other people to be around them; whereas if they had an entitlement mentality, it would be a different story. Their energy will be far more appealing to others as a result.
A Fulfilling Existence
Another benefit of living in this way is that one is going to have the right mentality to meet their needs and to achieve their goals. When it comes to their career, for instance, they may be doing something that is deeply rewarding.
This area of their like could be backed up by the relationships that they have with other people, with them having a number of people in their life who they can be themselves around. They may also be in intimate relationship with someone who they appreciate, or have been with someone like this not too long ago.
Another Reality
So, when someone has a victim mentality, it is not going to be possible for them to feel like an empowered human being. Or, if they do end up feeling empowered, it won't be long until they return to how they usually feel.
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In their eyes, the world, along with most of people in it, will be out to hold them back in any way that they can. As a result of this, there are likely to be a number of negative feelings that they are used to experiencing.
Emotional Experience
At times, they may feel angry, frustrated and full of rage, while at other times, they could feel powerless, helpless, and hopeless. When they feel angry and even rageful, they will most likely feel strong but, when they feel helpless, they will most likely feel weak.
There may even be times when they feel as though they are morally superior to others; as unlike others, they are not keeping anyone down in life. This might be the only way that they are able to experience positive feelings.
Held Back
Due to feeling as though they are being kept down by others, they could have an entitlement mentality. They are not going to be able to fulfil their needs and to achieve their goals because of these people, so these people will have a duty to give them things.
After all, it won't be as if one is choosing to experience life in this way; it is something that is out of their hands. And, what will prove this is how angry they are about how they are experiencing life.
Clear Resistance
If they were comfortable with what is taking place, and happy with not being able to fulfil their needs, they wouldn't be getting angry. However, even though part of them doesn't want to experience life in this way, it doesn't mean that a bigger part of them wants their life to change.
What they may find is that experiencing life in this way is what feels comfortable at a deeper level. Consciously, then, one will want their life to change but, unconsciously, this can be what feels safe.
A Closer Look
It might be hard for them to comprehend how feeling powerless and helpless, for instance, can feel safe; especially as its causing them lead a miserable existence and to experience so much pain. The thing about their ego is that it can end up feeling comfortable with anything; the only thing that matters is that it is familiar.
To this part of them, what is familiar is associated as what is safe, and, the reason why experiencing these feelings can be what feels safe, can be due to what took place at the beginning of their life. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, setting them up to gradually become emotionally attached to feeling this way.
Awareness
When one doesn't understand how what is taking place at a deeper level is influencing their life, it will be normal for them to feel like a victim. It will appear as though other people are victimising them, even though they are the ones who are victimising themselves.
If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
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Tuesday, 27 November 2018
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Message From the Universe: Time for Its Manifestation
By Daniel A Amzallag
"If you were able to look back at your most brilliant successes, stunning comebacks, amazing catches, and smokin' ideas, and you were to find that virtually all of them seemed to materialize out of thin air, when you least expected them, and that they had exceeded even your greatest expectations at the time, how excited would you be about the new year and whatever else I've got up my sleeve?
Hubba, hubba -
The Universe"
As we are halfway into 2018, we tend to look at our accomplishment and determine what is left to do until year end. We look into the good and the bad, and some regret many decision made. Focusing on what is really important to tackle for the remainder of 2018 and take a step forward to make things happen. The reality is that all what you do today will seem little to you, but looking one year into the future, the changes are pretty massive. The key is to continuously taking these small steps as it is much easier to just give up. Make sure that giving up shouldn't ever be a part of your thoughts, at any given time.
Life isn't easy and no one really knows what's in store for them from now till the end of your existence. You may work your butt off but feel like you are walking backwards. Others may feel like they haven't really done much in this year but yet have advanced dramatically into their personal and professional life. It is not about how much you work, it is about how smart you work. Oh yes, let's not forget the "Being Lucky" part of the equation as well. Yes. I know not many like to hear the word lucky, and that is because many have had any luck in their life, so if they have to depend on it, they will certainly feel miserable for eternity. Luck is definitely an important ingredient that can change your present or future without you having any control. It is certainly very crucial for you to accept that fact and not fight it, just like trying to control human nature. Work on adapting, embracing the changes that come into your life and be grateful that it wasn't worst. There is a lot of great opportunities in store for you, and the key is to always keep moving forward, no matter what happens.
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Wednesday, 21 November 2018
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