By Paula Eder
Getting your project -- even a large one -- off to a successful and quick beginning is a major key to success.
So, here's some help. Read on for 4 tips to help you move your project into the "Fail Safe" zone. As you use your skills and power to think ahead, your results can far surpass what a traditional approach to project management offers.
1. Open to new possibilities for structuring your project.
Start by clearly defining your desired outcome, and then build around it. Beginning with your goal stimulates your creativity and moves you away from automatically following a standard protocol. Let fresh ideas bubble up.
2. Refine the image of your goal. Make it comprehensive and specific.
Keep working at your project definition. Having a crystal clear image of your desired outcome before you begin helps in lots of ways. For one thing, it's motivating. And vague descriptions may result in confusion for those who need to understand your project or those whose help you may need in order to be successful. The clarity of your goal will also help you strategize more effectively when you're structuring your action steps.
3. What about the scope and complexity of your desired outcome? If you've bitten off more than you can chew, remember that you hold the power to make your project manageable.
Realistic planning at the outset greatly reduces your chances of having to scale back your original goal. A doctoral dissertation or strategic plan without a feasible-to-achieve outcome can easily become a project that is impossible to manage. Learn to marshal your resources by simplifying.
4. Work backward.
Start from your outcome and work back. This helps you identify each necessary action step. When you do this, you're more likely to maintain a realistic pace and scale throughout the project.
In contrast, beginning at the beginning can mire you in too much detail or overwhelm you with the enormity of your task.
It's deeply rewarding to plan a project effectively when first starting out. You will proceed with more confidence and develop a stronger base of support.
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Monday 3 December 2018
Sunday 2 December 2018
Wisdom From the Universe: Finding Transformation, Acceptance, and Love
By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
Do you find that you are accepted by all of society? Are you someone who fits in and is loved for who you are? Or do you constantly struggle and live with internal turmoil?
Within society there is division. People are not always viewed just as people. They are divided by race, class, status, income, culture, appearance, location, political affiliation, sexual orientation, and so many other factors. There are stereotypes, genders, the "haves and have nots", those who are viewed as normal and those who are the outcasts, and the list continues. When people are viewed as different from one another in society, this sense of division creates tension among groups and can escalate to the point that clashes become stunning headlines on the news.
Then religions insert dictates of morals based upon a sacred text that is never allowed to be questioned, even though the basis of the text itself is a highly edited and outdated set of documents that was cobbled together to control groups of people in a different time period, making much of it irrelevant for human existence today. Without that sacred book religious leaders would not have justification for the division their dogma creates. Religious affiliation furthers intensifies the divide among people in society, especially when it is used to justify hatred, exclusion, intolerance, and mistreatment towards any other human beings.
Every human being is connected to the Collective Consciousness of Mankind through the power of their mind, which is a transmitter and receiver. When anyone or any institution attempts to dictate how any person is to feel about their connection to this Source of Life Energy, and the wisdom that is naturally available to them at any time, it is meant to do so for the purpose of control, exclusion, and division. If a person allows this to happen, to believe they are excluded from "God's love" or "Source" or "the Universe" or similar phrasing, this creates a mental barrier which in turn cuts off the flow of wisdom from the Collective Consciousness or Source of Life Energy.
With the feeling of exclusion so ever present in society for so many individuals, it can be challenging for some to feel as if they fit in or belong, as the definition of normal is so narrowly established. In fact, normal can vary from one competing group to another. Anyone who does not fit into the right set of categories and classifications may soon find themselves feeling as if they are sitting on the sidelines, excluded from the benefits afforded to those deemed perfect, normal, and acceptable.
The option for anyone who does not fit in is to join in with in with "normal" society, if it can be determined how to properly convert, change, give in, adapt, and then be willing to deny any or all of who they are. Some people will attempt to convert or hide their true identity in order to avoid their true nature being "found out" by society. But this risk of exposure can weigh heavy on the person's mind and heart. Many will eventually reach a point in their life when they come out of hiding and reveal who they truly are and for once feel a sense of freedom, realizing that there is no real "normal" in life. Others who find themselves to be outcasts may remain on the fringe and live the role of the person who is always "less than" according to society, always out of the reach of the best that society can offer to those who are accepted. But there is always a sense of conflict that will reside within, whether it is acknowledged or not.
An alternative to giving in or giving up, to resolve the internal conflict felt, is to find personal transformation and acceptance from within, through a connection to the Collective Consciousness of Mankind, and love from the Source of Life Energy.
A universal truth is this: The essence of all life is energy and as energetic beings there is no separation, no division, and no sense of not belonging. All of humans are connected to the Source of Life Energy and through this connection it is possible to receive and transmit information to and from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. An energetic being is a pure, positive state of happiness and love, balanced by a flow of unhappiness that is negative energy.
It is the duality which creates all of life, including all of the universe. But the pure essence of a human is the energy that makes up the living body, a glowing field of moving particles unseen to the eye, directing bodily functions and sustaining necessary organs. This energy source knows no sense of division or categorization and it flows the same to every living being without any need for approval.
To understand the essence of a human is to know the real you, or the living part of your body. You may be focused on the exterior of your human body and how you fit in with others around you, yet what creates the person who is you is born from the life essence within you. It comprises the heart of your being, from which your characteristics and qualities emerge, along with your personality, talents, and skills.
Being a Target of Society
It is possible to have the seemingly perfect exterior, with a feeling you fit in with the popular groups, but your interior self is filled full of turmoil as you are so caught up on appearances you forgot to pay attention to how you feel inside. It can be easy to get fixated on trying to fit in, conform, adapt, or even hide, especially if you are a target of verbal attacks, bullying, abuse, or anything else derogatory in nature. Often this happens to young children when they are perceived as different and it may follow them into their adulthood. The longer this turmoil goes on, the worse a person feels about their ability to belong as a contributing member of society.
Being on the fringe of society, the outcast, the one who doesn't fit in, the loner, or the person who exhibits any quality or characteristic deemed unacceptable, unnatural, or unnormal can be stressful. It can lead to mental health issues and worse. Rarely does someone who fails to fit in find complete happiness in life or a feeling of being loved for who they are as a person, unless they find someone who is of a similar nature and can relate to their outer struggle and still see the inner qualities they possess. For many, they may even find themselves resorting to self-denial, even trying to hide, in an attempt to blend in with society.
Many believe that the passage of rights and laws will change how society behaves towards those who are marked different. But equality laws do not change how religious institutions treat those of a sexual orientation deemed abnormal and never will. Workplace rights will never change how employees treat those who are overweight. Civil rights will never completely erase the racial tensions in this country. A person who is seeking peace must not look to the laws to find it. They must look within.
Learn About Personal Transformation
The good news is that transformation can occur at any point in time and for anyone. For those who have been victimized, traumatized, and even hospitalized, the healing and reform will take time. For those who experience daily abuse, threats, harassment, taunting, or bullying, this is not to state this will stop that behavior. But transformation begins by refusing to listen to those who want to harm you. You don't listen to religious leaders who try to define groups or twist words from an outdated text to harm you.
You do not allow words of others to determine your status, worth, or place in society. It may sound like something that is too easy to believe, but a turning point has to begin in your life if you want change to begin and it has to start with you. It has to start with you tuning out the sound of the people who are influencing you and telling you who you are. Only you know who you are and only you get to decide what to believe. No one else.
Transformation continues when you accept yourself as a perfect human being. There are no mistakes. You designed this life and you planned it before you came. You do not have to accept or believe that now. You only need to believe what resonates with your inner being at this time. You are a perfectly balanced energetic being who is connected to the greatest source of knowledge and wisdom.
Acceptance comes from you, not from others. If you like yourself, you will feel better, even if you are being bullied. You must accept that you are who you are, without hiding or denying, along with how you look, is worthy of love. Every human being is worthy of love, without condition. It comes from the Source of Life Energy, the purest form of love. But you as a person need to accept your worthiness even if you see what you believe to be flaws or imperfections.
When you do, when you accept your own worthiness, you open the mental pathway to receive pure energetic strength, perseverance, support, and love from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind. This is a transformative experience, to shield yourself from the talk of others and instead focus on acceptance of yourself. You will find you are drawing upon an internal source of strength you never knew you had before and that is your energetic connection growing strong.
You need never feel separated or divided from life. Look within when others would have you focus on your exterior and there you will find your true source of power. You are accepted and loved by the Source of Life, the energy of life which is flowing to you and through you, the purest form of love available. As you draw upon this love and this source of power, you will no longer be concerned about where to fit in or how to adapt to a highly divided society. You will learn to find your own way and follow your own path. You will live your true destiny and in time, develop a lasting sense of peace.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10040423
Saturday 1 December 2018
Letting Go Of The Fear And Trusting Again After A Serious Heartbreak
By Rosemarie Sumalinog Gonzales
At some point of our lives, we experience hurt that we fear to trust again. Our fear of betrayal. Take baby steps day by day to become open and trusting within the very little things. The more we think over our past heartbreak, the more it lingers in our hearts. But if we just let it go naturally, our pain will heal naturally and will barely leave a scar.
We trust somebody in terms of perceiving that in spite of appearance they're decent persons with good intentions and with integrity. However, look can be very deceiving. Our previous experience affect our current relationship if we let our negative experiences destroy our reserve until such time when we become open enough to be vulnerable and trust once more.
We appreciate that every now and then things are going to be powerful. That's life and that we are going to be tested. However, keep in mind that our emotional heartbreak is not the end of the world. We need to let go of the past and move on forward. Our past won't define our future. It does not mean that if we are hurt in the past, we will also have a similar experience in the future. In other words, we've been hurt once doesn't mean that it's likely to happen once more.
What you pay most of it slow wondering becomes your reality... the very fact that it's laborious to trust someone? If it keeps happening to you, stop and reflect where did you go wrong, Love yourself foremost. When we love ourselves, it begets love. Knowing that no matter what happens we need to bounce back from our failures. That what resilient people do.
Yes, in fact we're invariably stricken by rejection because it happens as a part of life. We have a tendency to didn't get what we wished. But what's important, to learn from that negative experience to prevent us falling taken with once more.
Use rejection as a springboard to search out more about yourself, what you learned, why you are feeling the method you are doing, what you're permitting to urge within the method, wherever you're maybe sabotaging yourself. Use it to explore your values and what you actually wish in life.
Learning to trust somebody once more once is very troublesome... however, it's not possible.Your past doesn't equal your future. I learned this idea from the people I met in my field of work from different walks of life. It's not because we've been hurt within the past doesn't suggest we will get hurt once more.
So, let go of your fears and start trusting once more. This is actually the key to make a relationship work. No two people are the same. Just trust in your own judgment. However, if you retain distrusting yourself, you may keep distrusting others, that creates a positive feedback.
Part of building your confidence is to seem once yourself and understand that simply because you understand that somebody has done one thing nasty to you, you'll be okay. You'll cope on your own.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9992831
At some point of our lives, we experience hurt that we fear to trust again. Our fear of betrayal. Take baby steps day by day to become open and trusting within the very little things. The more we think over our past heartbreak, the more it lingers in our hearts. But if we just let it go naturally, our pain will heal naturally and will barely leave a scar.
We trust somebody in terms of perceiving that in spite of appearance they're decent persons with good intentions and with integrity. However, look can be very deceiving. Our previous experience affect our current relationship if we let our negative experiences destroy our reserve until such time when we become open enough to be vulnerable and trust once more.
We appreciate that every now and then things are going to be powerful. That's life and that we are going to be tested. However, keep in mind that our emotional heartbreak is not the end of the world. We need to let go of the past and move on forward. Our past won't define our future. It does not mean that if we are hurt in the past, we will also have a similar experience in the future. In other words, we've been hurt once doesn't mean that it's likely to happen once more.
What you pay most of it slow wondering becomes your reality... the very fact that it's laborious to trust someone? If it keeps happening to you, stop and reflect where did you go wrong, Love yourself foremost. When we love ourselves, it begets love. Knowing that no matter what happens we need to bounce back from our failures. That what resilient people do.
Yes, in fact we're invariably stricken by rejection because it happens as a part of life. We have a tendency to didn't get what we wished. But what's important, to learn from that negative experience to prevent us falling taken with once more.
Use rejection as a springboard to search out more about yourself, what you learned, why you are feeling the method you are doing, what you're permitting to urge within the method, wherever you're maybe sabotaging yourself. Use it to explore your values and what you actually wish in life.
Learning to trust somebody once more once is very troublesome... however, it's not possible.Your past doesn't equal your future. I learned this idea from the people I met in my field of work from different walks of life. It's not because we've been hurt within the past doesn't suggest we will get hurt once more.
So, let go of your fears and start trusting once more. This is actually the key to make a relationship work. No two people are the same. Just trust in your own judgment. However, if you retain distrusting yourself, you may keep distrusting others, that creates a positive feedback.
Part of building your confidence is to seem once yourself and understand that simply because you understand that somebody has done one thing nasty to you, you'll be okay. You'll cope on your own.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9992831
Friday 30 November 2018
Success: Why Do Some People Sabotage Their Own Success?
By Oliver JR Cooper
When someone holds themselves back in life, there are at least two things that can take place. If one is not aware of the fact that they are holding themselves back, they can come to see themselves as a victim.
On the other hand, if one is aware of the fact that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they will be able to take a deeper look into why this is. By taking this approach, they will be able to liberate themselves over time.
The First Outcome
If someone is not aware of why they are holding themselves back, and is only aware of what they have been doing to move forward in life, they could believe that there is no way that they are playing a part in all this. One could reflect on some of the things that they have done over the years, seeing how hard they have worked.
Perhaps they get up in the early hours most days and only go to bed once they have ticked off everything that they needed to do. There will then be absolutely no doubt about how committed they are to their own growth.
Plenty of Evidence
Along with what they generally do on each day of their life, there can be all the courses that they have been on. They may go on a few courses a year, or maybe they go on at least one course a month.
In addition to this, there can be all the books that they have read on success and achievement. As far as they are concerned, every part of them will want to move forward and to go to the next level.
An Indivisible Barrier
But, no matter what they do to move forward, they will find that they can only get so far. Now, there may be times when they are able to make a breakthrough, but before long, they may soon return to where they were.
It is then going to be a case of one or two steps forward and one or two steps back. When this happens, one could come to believe that a certain person or a certain group of people are holding them back.
More Force
Their mental and emotional state could radically change after one of these moments, only for them to rise up again shortly after; this will then prove how resilient they are. This is also likely to show that one will be using a lot of willpower.
Living in this way is most likely going to cause them to experience a fair amount of pressure, pressure that could knock them down from time to time. If another person was to suggest that they may be the ones who are holding themselves back, one may end up being consumed by anger or find what has been said amusing.
One Direction
One could believe that this person doesn't know what they are talking about, seeing them as someone who just wants to pull them down or hasn't got a clue what they are talking about. One will be out there working hard, not waiting for anything to fall into their lap.
What could make it ever harder for them to handle what is going on is if they come across someone who is making clear progress, even though they don't appear to be working very hard. It may seem as though someone like this has something that they themselves don't have.
One Solution
During times like these, one may believe that this shows that they need to try another approach. Nonetheless, what they may find is that changing their approach doesn't really do anything.
One of the things that they may have learned at one point in time was that they were being held back by low self-esteem. Yet, even after they had worked on this, their life still didn't change.
A Closer Look
Due to how they experience life, there are likely to be a number of negative feelings that they are used to experiencing - that is, of course, if they don't have the tendency to repress these feelings. They can feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, trapped, and worthless during the moments when they reflect on how they life is or if they experience a setback.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they only experience these feelings because of what in taking place in their life. Thus, if their life was to change, they would no longer experience these feelings.
Emotionally Attached
Another way of looking at this would be to say that feelings these feelings is what feels comfortable. And, only does it feel comfortable, these feelings are a big part of their identity.
Clearly, feeling this way is not what feels comfortable at a conscious level; yet, unconsciously, feeling this way can be familiar and, therefore, what feels safe. Taking this into account, their conscious mind will want something that is seen as threat to their unconscious mind, which is why it is so hard for them to change their life.
One Need
The reason why feeling this way feels comfortable can be the result of what took place at the beginning of their life. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, for instance.
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Feeling this way would have gradually become what felt comfortable and these feelings have become part of their identity. The trouble is that as the years passed, different defences would have been put in place, causing one to gradually lose touch with the information that would allow them to realise why they sabotage their own life.
Awareness
What this emphasises is how important self-awareness and self-knowledge is when it comes to being able to grow and develop. When one doesn't have self-awareness and self-knowledge, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel like a victim.
If one can see that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they may need to reach out for external support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10037162
When someone holds themselves back in life, there are at least two things that can take place. If one is not aware of the fact that they are holding themselves back, they can come to see themselves as a victim.
On the other hand, if one is aware of the fact that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they will be able to take a deeper look into why this is. By taking this approach, they will be able to liberate themselves over time.
The First Outcome
If someone is not aware of why they are holding themselves back, and is only aware of what they have been doing to move forward in life, they could believe that there is no way that they are playing a part in all this. One could reflect on some of the things that they have done over the years, seeing how hard they have worked.
Perhaps they get up in the early hours most days and only go to bed once they have ticked off everything that they needed to do. There will then be absolutely no doubt about how committed they are to their own growth.
Plenty of Evidence
Along with what they generally do on each day of their life, there can be all the courses that they have been on. They may go on a few courses a year, or maybe they go on at least one course a month.
In addition to this, there can be all the books that they have read on success and achievement. As far as they are concerned, every part of them will want to move forward and to go to the next level.
An Indivisible Barrier
But, no matter what they do to move forward, they will find that they can only get so far. Now, there may be times when they are able to make a breakthrough, but before long, they may soon return to where they were.
It is then going to be a case of one or two steps forward and one or two steps back. When this happens, one could come to believe that a certain person or a certain group of people are holding them back.
More Force
Their mental and emotional state could radically change after one of these moments, only for them to rise up again shortly after; this will then prove how resilient they are. This is also likely to show that one will be using a lot of willpower.
Living in this way is most likely going to cause them to experience a fair amount of pressure, pressure that could knock them down from time to time. If another person was to suggest that they may be the ones who are holding themselves back, one may end up being consumed by anger or find what has been said amusing.
One Direction
One could believe that this person doesn't know what they are talking about, seeing them as someone who just wants to pull them down or hasn't got a clue what they are talking about. One will be out there working hard, not waiting for anything to fall into their lap.
What could make it ever harder for them to handle what is going on is if they come across someone who is making clear progress, even though they don't appear to be working very hard. It may seem as though someone like this has something that they themselves don't have.
One Solution
During times like these, one may believe that this shows that they need to try another approach. Nonetheless, what they may find is that changing their approach doesn't really do anything.
One of the things that they may have learned at one point in time was that they were being held back by low self-esteem. Yet, even after they had worked on this, their life still didn't change.
A Closer Look
Due to how they experience life, there are likely to be a number of negative feelings that they are used to experiencing - that is, of course, if they don't have the tendency to repress these feelings. They can feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, trapped, and worthless during the moments when they reflect on how they life is or if they experience a setback.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they only experience these feelings because of what in taking place in their life. Thus, if their life was to change, they would no longer experience these feelings.
Emotionally Attached
Another way of looking at this would be to say that feelings these feelings is what feels comfortable. And, only does it feel comfortable, these feelings are a big part of their identity.
Clearly, feeling this way is not what feels comfortable at a conscious level; yet, unconsciously, feeling this way can be familiar and, therefore, what feels safe. Taking this into account, their conscious mind will want something that is seen as threat to their unconscious mind, which is why it is so hard for them to change their life.
One Need
The reason why feeling this way feels comfortable can be the result of what took place at the beginning of their life. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, for instance.
​
Feeling this way would have gradually become what felt comfortable and these feelings have become part of their identity. The trouble is that as the years passed, different defences would have been put in place, causing one to gradually lose touch with the information that would allow them to realise why they sabotage their own life.
Awareness
What this emphasises is how important self-awareness and self-knowledge is when it comes to being able to grow and develop. When one doesn't have self-awareness and self-knowledge, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel like a victim.
If one can see that they are the ones who are holding themselves back, they may need to reach out for external support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10037162
Thursday 29 November 2018
Anger: Do Some People Use Anger To Avoid How They Feel?
By Oliver JR Cooper
There are people in today's world who have trouble with their anger, with this being something that has taken over their life. But, while there are people like this who reach out for support, there are others who don't.
If someone in this position was to reach out for assistance and ended up changing their behaviour, it would make their life a lot easier. Through doing this, it would also mean that the people in their life would no longer need to experience this behaviour.
A Force for Good
It will then be a lot easier for the people in their life to settle down and to relax in their presence. In the past, some of the people in their life may have been on edge, in preparation for their next outburst.
If there were people in their life who have kept their distance, some of these people might be more receptive to them. Ones health is also likely to benefit from them being able to keep their cool, as opposed to getting worked up so often.
Business as Usual
If someone in this position doesn't reach out for support, their life will continue to go down the same trajectory. The people in their life will also continue to be on the receiving end up their outbursts.
Yet, although some of these people will stay around, they may find that as time goes by, a number of people cut their ties with them. This will be a way for these people to look after their own wellbeing, and it can be a way for them to encourage one to change their behaviour.
How So?
Some of the people can believe that if one notices what is taking place, it might finally become clear to them how destructive their behaviour is. Telling this person directly won't have worked, so maybe an indirect approach will work.
It then won't be direct, but there is the chance that it will have more of an effect on one than simple staying around them, hoping that they will change. Another person could believe that staying around them is just validating their behaviour; whereas cutting their ties will send them a clear message.
A Mountain Out of Mole Hill
During the moments when one gets angry, it could be something that takes place when something doesn't go as expected or if someone tells them that they haven't done something right. Straight after this, or shortly after, they could become consumed with anger.
Their ability to behave in a rational manner is then going to disappear, with them coming across as though they have absolutely no-self control. One minute they can be clam and then next minute they can explode.
One Angle
One way of looking at this would be to say that this shows that they are somewhat of a perfectionist. Out of their need to get everything right and to do their best, it is a real shock to their system when something isn't in alignment with their high standards.
Not meeting their high standards then causes them to feel angry about how they have fallen short. If this is the case, it will be vital for them to realise that it is not possible for them to get everything right.
Anger Management
But, regardless of whether one can relate to this or not, they may be told that they need to learn how to manage their anger. Thus, in the same way that someone who is overweight will need to manage their hunger pangs, one will need to regain control of their anger.
One could then end up going down the behavioural therapy route, focusing on the thoughts that they have before they get angry. By no longer getting caught up in these thoughts and breathing deeply, for instance, their behaviour may gradually change.
A Band-Aid
However, while this person's anger could be seen as the real problem, it could be said that their anger is just a defence. What they may find, that's if they were to put their anger to one side, is that they feel worthless and helpless, amongst other things.
Therefore, if they no longer felt worthless deep down, they would no longer need to use this defence. With this in mind, focusing purely on their anger is not going to resolve the real issue - the only thing it will do is manage a symptom.
A Closer Look
When one is out of touch with how they feel at a deeper level, and is only aware of how they feel at a surface level, they can create the impression that they don't want to feel worthless. This is then why they are getting angry when something doesn't go as expected or when they do something wrong, for instance.
Even so, although they are consciously trying to resist how they feel deep down by getting angry, they are unconsciously attached to feeling worthless. So, if one is only aware of what is going on at the first level, they can deceive themselves into believing that they are not attached to what is taking place deep down.
A Big Part of Them
At a deeper level, feeling worthless and helpless, amongst other things, will be what is familiar and, therefore, what feels safe. Feeling this way will be a big part of their identity.
If they were not emotionally attached to feeling this way, they would have no reason to get so worked up. Getting angry can be seen as a sign that they don't want to feel bad, when in reality; it is a sign that this is what feels comfortable.
Self-Knowledge
What this illustrates is that there is what is taking place consciously and what is taking place at a deeper level (or unconsciously), and, without this understanding, it can create all kinds of difficulties. There is a strong chance that they felt worthless and helpless during their early years, and that this gradually become what felt comfortable as time went by.
But as the years passed, they would have ended up losing touch with what took place. Different defences would have built up over the years, disconnecting them from themselves in the process.
Awareness
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10037336
There are people in today's world who have trouble with their anger, with this being something that has taken over their life. But, while there are people like this who reach out for support, there are others who don't.
If someone in this position was to reach out for assistance and ended up changing their behaviour, it would make their life a lot easier. Through doing this, it would also mean that the people in their life would no longer need to experience this behaviour.
A Force for Good
It will then be a lot easier for the people in their life to settle down and to relax in their presence. In the past, some of the people in their life may have been on edge, in preparation for their next outburst.
If there were people in their life who have kept their distance, some of these people might be more receptive to them. Ones health is also likely to benefit from them being able to keep their cool, as opposed to getting worked up so often.
Business as Usual
If someone in this position doesn't reach out for support, their life will continue to go down the same trajectory. The people in their life will also continue to be on the receiving end up their outbursts.
Yet, although some of these people will stay around, they may find that as time goes by, a number of people cut their ties with them. This will be a way for these people to look after their own wellbeing, and it can be a way for them to encourage one to change their behaviour.
How So?
Some of the people can believe that if one notices what is taking place, it might finally become clear to them how destructive their behaviour is. Telling this person directly won't have worked, so maybe an indirect approach will work.
It then won't be direct, but there is the chance that it will have more of an effect on one than simple staying around them, hoping that they will change. Another person could believe that staying around them is just validating their behaviour; whereas cutting their ties will send them a clear message.
A Mountain Out of Mole Hill
During the moments when one gets angry, it could be something that takes place when something doesn't go as expected or if someone tells them that they haven't done something right. Straight after this, or shortly after, they could become consumed with anger.
Their ability to behave in a rational manner is then going to disappear, with them coming across as though they have absolutely no-self control. One minute they can be clam and then next minute they can explode.
One Angle
One way of looking at this would be to say that this shows that they are somewhat of a perfectionist. Out of their need to get everything right and to do their best, it is a real shock to their system when something isn't in alignment with their high standards.
Not meeting their high standards then causes them to feel angry about how they have fallen short. If this is the case, it will be vital for them to realise that it is not possible for them to get everything right.
Anger Management
But, regardless of whether one can relate to this or not, they may be told that they need to learn how to manage their anger. Thus, in the same way that someone who is overweight will need to manage their hunger pangs, one will need to regain control of their anger.
One could then end up going down the behavioural therapy route, focusing on the thoughts that they have before they get angry. By no longer getting caught up in these thoughts and breathing deeply, for instance, their behaviour may gradually change.
A Band-Aid
However, while this person's anger could be seen as the real problem, it could be said that their anger is just a defence. What they may find, that's if they were to put their anger to one side, is that they feel worthless and helpless, amongst other things.
Therefore, if they no longer felt worthless deep down, they would no longer need to use this defence. With this in mind, focusing purely on their anger is not going to resolve the real issue - the only thing it will do is manage a symptom.
A Closer Look
When one is out of touch with how they feel at a deeper level, and is only aware of how they feel at a surface level, they can create the impression that they don't want to feel worthless. This is then why they are getting angry when something doesn't go as expected or when they do something wrong, for instance.
Even so, although they are consciously trying to resist how they feel deep down by getting angry, they are unconsciously attached to feeling worthless. So, if one is only aware of what is going on at the first level, they can deceive themselves into believing that they are not attached to what is taking place deep down.
A Big Part of Them
At a deeper level, feeling worthless and helpless, amongst other things, will be what is familiar and, therefore, what feels safe. Feeling this way will be a big part of their identity.
If they were not emotionally attached to feeling this way, they would have no reason to get so worked up. Getting angry can be seen as a sign that they don't want to feel bad, when in reality; it is a sign that this is what feels comfortable.
Self-Knowledge
What this illustrates is that there is what is taking place consciously and what is taking place at a deeper level (or unconsciously), and, without this understanding, it can create all kinds of difficulties. There is a strong chance that they felt worthless and helpless during their early years, and that this gradually become what felt comfortable as time went by.
But as the years passed, they would have ended up losing touch with what took place. Different defences would have built up over the years, disconnecting them from themselves in the process.
Awareness
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10037336
Wednesday 28 November 2018
Victim Mentality: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Like A Victim?
By Oliver JR Cooper
If someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won't have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won't see themselves as an empowered human being.
What this illustrates is that one can't be both; they are either one or the other. At the same time, even if one does see themselves as an empowered human being, it doesn't mean that they won't feel like a victim from time to time.
Back On Track
For example, something could take place in their life that wipes them out, with them feeling as though the world is against them. Still, it might not be long until they come to their senses and realise that this is not the case.
One could see this as just their mind playing tricks on them, and, as they are feeling a bit under the weather, it will have been easier for their mind to exert its influence. Like an intruder, it will have noticed an opening and pounced.
A Choice
Generally, they are going to believe that they are someone who has control over their life. There will be what they can do and there will be how they can respond to what happens to them.
In other words, even if one can't do anything to change something, they still have control over what takes place in their own head. This will stop them from getting sucked into things that are out of their control.
Emotional Experience
One may find that they have the tendency to feel not only empowered, but to also feel capable, at peace, connected, and grateful. Being thankful for what they have, as opposed to getting worked up about what they don't have or what is not going their way, will undoubtedly have a positive effect on their wellbeing.
It will also be a lot easier for other people to be around them; whereas if they had an entitlement mentality, it would be a different story. Their energy will be far more appealing to others as a result.
A Fulfilling Existence
Another benefit of living in this way is that one is going to have the right mentality to meet their needs and to achieve their goals. When it comes to their career, for instance, they may be doing something that is deeply rewarding.
This area of their like could be backed up by the relationships that they have with other people, with them having a number of people in their life who they can be themselves around. They may also be in intimate relationship with someone who they appreciate, or have been with someone like this not too long ago.
Another Reality
So, when someone has a victim mentality, it is not going to be possible for them to feel like an empowered human being. Or, if they do end up feeling empowered, it won't be long until they return to how they usually feel.
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In their eyes, the world, along with most of people in it, will be out to hold them back in any way that they can. As a result of this, there are likely to be a number of negative feelings that they are used to experiencing.
Emotional Experience
At times, they may feel angry, frustrated and full of rage, while at other times, they could feel powerless, helpless, and hopeless. When they feel angry and even rageful, they will most likely feel strong but, when they feel helpless, they will most likely feel weak.
There may even be times when they feel as though they are morally superior to others; as unlike others, they are not keeping anyone down in life. This might be the only way that they are able to experience positive feelings.
Held Back
Due to feeling as though they are being kept down by others, they could have an entitlement mentality. They are not going to be able to fulfil their needs and to achieve their goals because of these people, so these people will have a duty to give them things.
After all, it won't be as if one is choosing to experience life in this way; it is something that is out of their hands. And, what will prove this is how angry they are about how they are experiencing life.
Clear Resistance
If they were comfortable with what is taking place, and happy with not being able to fulfil their needs, they wouldn't be getting angry. However, even though part of them doesn't want to experience life in this way, it doesn't mean that a bigger part of them wants their life to change.
What they may find is that experiencing life in this way is what feels comfortable at a deeper level. Consciously, then, one will want their life to change but, unconsciously, this can be what feels safe.
A Closer Look
It might be hard for them to comprehend how feeling powerless and helpless, for instance, can feel safe; especially as its causing them lead a miserable existence and to experience so much pain. The thing about their ego is that it can end up feeling comfortable with anything; the only thing that matters is that it is familiar.
To this part of them, what is familiar is associated as what is safe, and, the reason why experiencing these feelings can be what feels safe, can be due to what took place at the beginning of their life. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, setting them up to gradually become emotionally attached to feeling this way.
Awareness
When one doesn't understand how what is taking place at a deeper level is influencing their life, it will be normal for them to feel like a victim. It will appear as though other people are victimising them, even though they are the ones who are victimising themselves.
If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or healer.
Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10038995
Tuesday 27 November 2018
How To Unlock Your Hidden Creativity
By Reshali Balasubramaniam
Maybe you feel just like you're not a creative person generally, or maybe you merely desire a little a push to get the solution you're seeking either way, there are many small actions you can take to become more creative. These tips can make you see things from different perspectives and develop the habit that will make you feel more productive and inspired.
Here are ways to unlock your hidden creativity:
Brainstorm with Others
Sometimes all it requires to get from exhausted to motivate or from a relatively ineffective idea to the perfect solution to your entire problems is a few moments of chatting about your ideas with another person. Having a brand new perspective can assist you remember ideas you might have forgotten, develop ideas you currently have, and come up with things you never would've considered by yourself. If you are really stumped, make an effort to have an instant brainstorming period with a pal or a coworker. Ask when you can run some ideas past them and find out if indeed they have any thoughts.
Speak To Yourself
It isn't about having imaginary interactions with yourself. It's about conversing through your ideas and thoughts so that you can do better. Spend some time speaking what you're considering a loud, or describing things you read or listen to back again to yourself. It can help you to learn and process things better and in new ways.
Make Lists
Write down everything you want or need relating to what you're focusing on sometimes the act of writing things out and looking at them can assist you work out how to deal with something from a fresh angle. Jot down any ideas you have, then think about how precisely those ideas will continue to work with what you will need to accomplish. Proceed through your list until you select a remedy that works or discover a way to incorporate them.
Keep a Notebook with you
If you wish to become more creative, you will need to be sure you're for motivation to strike since it can strike everywhere. Keep a notebook and pen on or with you all the time all the time so you can jot down any ideas you have when they come your way, otherwise you may forget them. Plus, always getting a notebook means you will have a location to write those lists you will be making.
Ask Yourself Questions
Whenever you feel just like you hit a creative wall, try asking yourself questions about whatever it is you're focusing on or trying to resolve. Even if indeed they appear like foolish questions you have response to, ask yourself anyways just like you were another person who was interested in assembling your project. Forcing yourself to ultimately articulate what you're focusing on, either a loud or in writing can assist you see what areas you will need to focus on and what must be changed. If you ask yourself a question you do not know the response to, you might locate a new perspective.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9962291
Monday 26 November 2018
Create Momentum in 3 Minutes Flat
By Jeanna Gabellini
It's common to experience fulfillment in some areas of your life while feeling like you're backpedaling in another area.
Have no fear, if you want to move forward in that one area.
Here's something you can do right now. Seize the moment! It'll only take about one minute longer than it takes for you to read this article.
Bring to mind the optimal outcome you want. Just spend a moment articulating, in one or two sentences, the end result. For example, "I found my perfect house on the water and the financing easily fell into place." Notice I put this in past tense, as if it already happened.
Now, what can you find that's working well about the current situation? What can you appreciate?
I began looking for a house before my financing was in place and before my mate was on board with this goal. It looked like an impossible dream at the time. When I was house hunting, I focused appreciation toward my realtor, who was patient, enthusiastic, and compassionate. I appreciated that many people gave me creative ideas for my financing. Every house gave me a new design or decorating idea.
Make the obstacles less significant.
Remember that no matter what aggravating evidence is revealed to make it look like your goal is being stomped on by the Universe, don't give it too much attention.
You'll always find a way to get your outcome if you release the obstacles as relevant.
Whenever I found a house that piqued my interest, either the price tag was several hundred thousand above my budget, the view was the size of a postage stamp, or my mate would find something wrong with the deal. I kept holding out that the Universe would find a way to bring together all the pieces in an ideal way.
When you're not feeling inspired or ease around the goal, stop all action and attention to it.
This is the time to go get involved in the areas of your life that are working well.
Trust me, you will not benefit from trying to make something happen when you are feeling agitated. Even if the area you need movement in is finances. Your finances can't improve when you've got your panties in a wad about them. You're only a vibrational match to trickles of income when your attitude is in the dumps.
Every moment is an opportunity to acknowledge that there are good things happening in your life. There might only be one or two things you can find that seem to be okay. Give some energy there. You're always in transition, and this moment is only temporary. The good stuff is coming, but you have to chill out in the meantime.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9989710
It's common to experience fulfillment in some areas of your life while feeling like you're backpedaling in another area.
Have no fear, if you want to move forward in that one area.
Here's something you can do right now. Seize the moment! It'll only take about one minute longer than it takes for you to read this article.
Bring to mind the optimal outcome you want. Just spend a moment articulating, in one or two sentences, the end result. For example, "I found my perfect house on the water and the financing easily fell into place." Notice I put this in past tense, as if it already happened.
Now, what can you find that's working well about the current situation? What can you appreciate?
I began looking for a house before my financing was in place and before my mate was on board with this goal. It looked like an impossible dream at the time. When I was house hunting, I focused appreciation toward my realtor, who was patient, enthusiastic, and compassionate. I appreciated that many people gave me creative ideas for my financing. Every house gave me a new design or decorating idea.
Make the obstacles less significant.
Remember that no matter what aggravating evidence is revealed to make it look like your goal is being stomped on by the Universe, don't give it too much attention.
You'll always find a way to get your outcome if you release the obstacles as relevant.
Whenever I found a house that piqued my interest, either the price tag was several hundred thousand above my budget, the view was the size of a postage stamp, or my mate would find something wrong with the deal. I kept holding out that the Universe would find a way to bring together all the pieces in an ideal way.
When you're not feeling inspired or ease around the goal, stop all action and attention to it.
This is the time to go get involved in the areas of your life that are working well.
Trust me, you will not benefit from trying to make something happen when you are feeling agitated. Even if the area you need movement in is finances. Your finances can't improve when you've got your panties in a wad about them. You're only a vibrational match to trickles of income when your attitude is in the dumps.
Every moment is an opportunity to acknowledge that there are good things happening in your life. There might only be one or two things you can find that seem to be okay. Give some energy there. You're always in transition, and this moment is only temporary. The good stuff is coming, but you have to chill out in the meantime.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9989710
Sunday 25 November 2018
Hope Out of the Loneliest Experience of My Life
By Steve Wickham
Some days, weeks and months become etched into the folklore of our lives.
The week of 4-10 October 2003 is one among two of the most significantly harsh lived experiences that have been carved into my psyche thus far.
Each day had its own memorialised narrative. Each 24-hour period profound in the breaking of me, which ultimately had the effect of remaking me, not that I knew anything but the despair of these occasions at the time.
The loneliest experience of my life was moving the few belongings I had left out of my parents' house and into the company vehicle I had at the time and driving to the dingy little flat I had rented.
This little flat, for me, on 10 October 2003, had the presence of death about it. There was no life within its walls. It was a spiritually vacuous place.
I stayed there six months, though many nights I could not sleep there.
It was a real and present reminder that my life at that time had completely imploded. It was a Friday, and I shifted alone. It was two days after I had a calamitous breakdown that felt as if our worlds were ending, yet there was no sympathy from whom sympathy was sought.
It was a day after my father had had surgery that would push his mental health to the brink over the coming months. It was one of those rock bottom times that all families endure. Even after 15 years it is hard to comprehend just how hard that time was.
It was the loneliest time of my entire life. I truly don't know how I held on, other than through the receipt of love that was poured into me, much of which came from unexpected sources.
What inspires me about my own story is that there were myriad times I wanted to give up. There were occasions when I seriously considered ending it all. I have massive empathy for anyone who has been on the receiving end of this kind of hell, whatever the outcome.
This period was merely the beginning of a long and tiresome campaign for recovery. It was a crusade to recover the concept of normal. And it took years. Perhaps in some ways it is an ongoing work.
But the loneliest time of my life came when I felt completely abandoned and forsaken. And yet I know God did not take me there without reason, for as I look back I can see him there, I just couldn't see it at the time.
15 years ago, this week, I cannot believe the contrast between that life, then, and this life, now, even amid losing Nathanael in 2014. I could not have contemplated then being in the situation I am in now.
And that is life.
It is in the loneliest seasons that great change is birthed, the sort of change we would never choose, but the sort of change that inevitably chooses us, and when we move with it, great is the transformation in us.
We never think we have what it takes to make it through such change.
If we are wise even though we are weak, however, we will rely on God, the provision of caring companions he provides to get us through, and our own increasing resources of resilience.
If only I go back there to that time, to sling that heavy bed on the roof rack, and how it took every ounce of my physical strength to do it, and how I did so in tears, I am thankful for that version of me that kept going.
If you are in that place now, or you know someone at their rock bottom, be encouraged, and be an encouragement. The night is darkest just before dawn, and the sun will rise on your day soon.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10021331
Some days, weeks and months become etched into the folklore of our lives.
The week of 4-10 October 2003 is one among two of the most significantly harsh lived experiences that have been carved into my psyche thus far.
Each day had its own memorialised narrative. Each 24-hour period profound in the breaking of me, which ultimately had the effect of remaking me, not that I knew anything but the despair of these occasions at the time.
The loneliest experience of my life was moving the few belongings I had left out of my parents' house and into the company vehicle I had at the time and driving to the dingy little flat I had rented.
This little flat, for me, on 10 October 2003, had the presence of death about it. There was no life within its walls. It was a spiritually vacuous place.
I stayed there six months, though many nights I could not sleep there.
It was a real and present reminder that my life at that time had completely imploded. It was a Friday, and I shifted alone. It was two days after I had a calamitous breakdown that felt as if our worlds were ending, yet there was no sympathy from whom sympathy was sought.
It was a day after my father had had surgery that would push his mental health to the brink over the coming months. It was one of those rock bottom times that all families endure. Even after 15 years it is hard to comprehend just how hard that time was.
It was the loneliest time of my entire life. I truly don't know how I held on, other than through the receipt of love that was poured into me, much of which came from unexpected sources.
What inspires me about my own story is that there were myriad times I wanted to give up. There were occasions when I seriously considered ending it all. I have massive empathy for anyone who has been on the receiving end of this kind of hell, whatever the outcome.
This period was merely the beginning of a long and tiresome campaign for recovery. It was a crusade to recover the concept of normal. And it took years. Perhaps in some ways it is an ongoing work.
But the loneliest time of my life came when I felt completely abandoned and forsaken. And yet I know God did not take me there without reason, for as I look back I can see him there, I just couldn't see it at the time.
15 years ago, this week, I cannot believe the contrast between that life, then, and this life, now, even amid losing Nathanael in 2014. I could not have contemplated then being in the situation I am in now.
And that is life.
It is in the loneliest seasons that great change is birthed, the sort of change we would never choose, but the sort of change that inevitably chooses us, and when we move with it, great is the transformation in us.
We never think we have what it takes to make it through such change.
If we are wise even though we are weak, however, we will rely on God, the provision of caring companions he provides to get us through, and our own increasing resources of resilience.
If only I go back there to that time, to sling that heavy bed on the roof rack, and how it took every ounce of my physical strength to do it, and how I did so in tears, I am thankful for that version of me that kept going.
If you are in that place now, or you know someone at their rock bottom, be encouraged, and be an encouragement. The night is darkest just before dawn, and the sun will rise on your day soon.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10021331
Saturday 24 November 2018
Message From the Universe: Time for Its Manifestation
By Daniel A Amzallag
"If you were able to look back at your most brilliant successes, stunning comebacks, amazing catches, and smokin' ideas, and you were to find that virtually all of them seemed to materialize out of thin air, when you least expected them, and that they had exceeded even your greatest expectations at the time, how excited would you be about the new year and whatever else I've got up my sleeve?
Hubba, hubba -
The Universe"
As we are halfway into 2018, we tend to look at our accomplishment and determine what is left to do until year end. We look into the good and the bad, and some regret many decision made. Focusing on what is really important to tackle for the remainder of 2018 and take a step forward to make things happen. The reality is that all what you do today will seem little to you, but looking one year into the future, the changes are pretty massive. The key is to continuously taking these small steps as it is much easier to just give up. Make sure that giving up shouldn't ever be a part of your thoughts, at any given time.
Life isn't easy and no one really knows what's in store for them from now till the end of your existence. You may work your butt off but feel like you are walking backwards. Others may feel like they haven't really done much in this year but yet have advanced dramatically into their personal and professional life. It is not about how much you work, it is about how smart you work. Oh yes, let's not forget the "Being Lucky" part of the equation as well. Yes. I know not many like to hear the word lucky, and that is because many have had any luck in their life, so if they have to depend on it, they will certainly feel miserable for eternity. Luck is definitely an important ingredient that can change your present or future without you having any control. It is certainly very crucial for you to accept that fact and not fight it, just like trying to control human nature. Work on adapting, embracing the changes that come into your life and be grateful that it wasn't worst. There is a lot of great opportunities in store for you, and the key is to always keep moving forward, no matter what happens.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9984958
Friday 23 November 2018
The Secret Sauce to Achieving Goals
By Daniel Remon
Are You Setting Specific Effective Goals?
You can set big goals, but make sure you can then break them down into smaller 'micro' goals. Once you've set a goal, then you need to be specific so you know what steps you need to take, and work backwards to create a schedule of actions needed to succeed. Actions make the goal setting system effective.
Are Your Goals Inclusive?
Focusing on only one part of your life is something you need to consider. When goals are multifaceted, you can have an impact on all areas of your life. You will find there is synergy across multiple domains, and you can easily achieve more than one in different areas with the same actions. There is no point achieving financial goals if you are not happy. Your personal life, happiness also needs to be considered. Aim for being complete, happy, and focused. Therefore, make sure your goals are inclusive and have an impact on other areas of your life.
Is Your Action Plan Relative?
Once you create the schedule, you need to truly consider how relative it is of reality. Say your goal is to be healthy and reduce your cholesterol by 10 points in six months. This means you need to exercise and eat right. If you don't schedule in the time needed, you won't achieve this goal. It doesn't happen by luck, or magic. Think of these as 'resources'. Time is a resource. A personal trainer, nutrition coach are resources to help you achieve that goal.
Are You Learning from Your Mistakes?
Often when setting goals, instead of learning from failure, people give up. Using the example above, once you implement your schedule to reach the goals that you have set, when you notice there are things you've forgotten to take into account, don't give up. Learn from the failure and modify your schedule to be more realistic.
You will probably have to rewrite some of your goals and your schedule, and this is the whole point of goal setting. Adapt, modify where you need to. Many people believe failure is something negative, however failure is the mother of all learning. So take it on the chin, learn and adapt to be even better.
Are You Accountable and Evaluating Often?
Accountability is key. Schedules are very important to the success of reaching any goal in life. Build a 'smart' calendar of tasks and activities that get you from where you are now to your goal. Make it a daily habit, a ritual, something you do every single day. You can even develop a simple checklist to check off every day to keep you on track. Identify what's not working, modify and also keep doing things that are working well for you. You can even ramp up the intensity of whats really working well for you to achieve your goals faster.
Are Your Goals Empowering?
Use positive language, ALWAYS! When writing a goal it's important to write them in a positive sense, and in a way that empowers you. Writing down a goal and then changing the words to sound more positive to make it more empowering. For instance, "losing weight" seems like a good goal, but for some people it might signify deprivation. So instead, you might frame the goal as "Look amazing in my bikini for my summer holidays."
Do You Have Too Many Goals?
Keep it simple. Don't try to have too many goals all at once. Everyone has a personal life experience, preferences, needs and wants. If you have set goals in too many areas of life at once, you will probably become overwhelmed and stuck. Break it down, achieve, set new goals, and move on. You don't need to do everything in one day. Aim for the small wins that lead to bigger achievements.
As you break down bigger goals into 'micro' goals, you will find yourself achieving something every day. Getting your 30 minutes of exercise every day is a WIN! So keep the momentum going and make it a daily habit.
Changing your lifestyle. Achieving any goal or simply aspiring to improve in any area of your life is a process. You must apply a conscious awareness to everything you do, and how you think and feel. So before kicking off your new goal strategy, work through these questions and set the foundation for success!
Daniel Remon is the founder and CEO of Fitcorp Global, an innovative health, fitness and performance company specializing in result driven coaching and training programs in Bangkok, Asia and the Middle East.
An NLP Practitioner and certified Results and Wellness Coach, Daniel has formed the ultimate team of personal trainers and wellness professionals and the only result driven performance facility in Asia. Fitcorp focuses on corporate wellness, executive coaching, personal training, sports specific training, youth fitness, health and weight loss retreats and golf fitness training.
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Are You Setting Specific Effective Goals?
You can set big goals, but make sure you can then break them down into smaller 'micro' goals. Once you've set a goal, then you need to be specific so you know what steps you need to take, and work backwards to create a schedule of actions needed to succeed. Actions make the goal setting system effective.
Are Your Goals Inclusive?
Focusing on only one part of your life is something you need to consider. When goals are multifaceted, you can have an impact on all areas of your life. You will find there is synergy across multiple domains, and you can easily achieve more than one in different areas with the same actions. There is no point achieving financial goals if you are not happy. Your personal life, happiness also needs to be considered. Aim for being complete, happy, and focused. Therefore, make sure your goals are inclusive and have an impact on other areas of your life.
Is Your Action Plan Relative?
Once you create the schedule, you need to truly consider how relative it is of reality. Say your goal is to be healthy and reduce your cholesterol by 10 points in six months. This means you need to exercise and eat right. If you don't schedule in the time needed, you won't achieve this goal. It doesn't happen by luck, or magic. Think of these as 'resources'. Time is a resource. A personal trainer, nutrition coach are resources to help you achieve that goal.
Are You Learning from Your Mistakes?
Often when setting goals, instead of learning from failure, people give up. Using the example above, once you implement your schedule to reach the goals that you have set, when you notice there are things you've forgotten to take into account, don't give up. Learn from the failure and modify your schedule to be more realistic.
You will probably have to rewrite some of your goals and your schedule, and this is the whole point of goal setting. Adapt, modify where you need to. Many people believe failure is something negative, however failure is the mother of all learning. So take it on the chin, learn and adapt to be even better.
Are You Accountable and Evaluating Often?
Accountability is key. Schedules are very important to the success of reaching any goal in life. Build a 'smart' calendar of tasks and activities that get you from where you are now to your goal. Make it a daily habit, a ritual, something you do every single day. You can even develop a simple checklist to check off every day to keep you on track. Identify what's not working, modify and also keep doing things that are working well for you. You can even ramp up the intensity of whats really working well for you to achieve your goals faster.
Are Your Goals Empowering?
Use positive language, ALWAYS! When writing a goal it's important to write them in a positive sense, and in a way that empowers you. Writing down a goal and then changing the words to sound more positive to make it more empowering. For instance, "losing weight" seems like a good goal, but for some people it might signify deprivation. So instead, you might frame the goal as "Look amazing in my bikini for my summer holidays."
Do You Have Too Many Goals?
Keep it simple. Don't try to have too many goals all at once. Everyone has a personal life experience, preferences, needs and wants. If you have set goals in too many areas of life at once, you will probably become overwhelmed and stuck. Break it down, achieve, set new goals, and move on. You don't need to do everything in one day. Aim for the small wins that lead to bigger achievements.
As you break down bigger goals into 'micro' goals, you will find yourself achieving something every day. Getting your 30 minutes of exercise every day is a WIN! So keep the momentum going and make it a daily habit.
Changing your lifestyle. Achieving any goal or simply aspiring to improve in any area of your life is a process. You must apply a conscious awareness to everything you do, and how you think and feel. So before kicking off your new goal strategy, work through these questions and set the foundation for success!
Daniel Remon is the founder and CEO of Fitcorp Global, an innovative health, fitness and performance company specializing in result driven coaching and training programs in Bangkok, Asia and the Middle East.
An NLP Practitioner and certified Results and Wellness Coach, Daniel has formed the ultimate team of personal trainers and wellness professionals and the only result driven performance facility in Asia. Fitcorp focuses on corporate wellness, executive coaching, personal training, sports specific training, youth fitness, health and weight loss retreats and golf fitness training.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9048484
Thursday 22 November 2018
Wednesday 21 November 2018
Wisdom From the Universe: Learn How to Direct Your Energy and Focus
Are you aware of your thoughts and the focus of what you are thinking about at any given time, or do you believe your thoughts are randomly occurring? Have you ever considered there is an energetic connection between what you are thinking and what you are feeling? Would you like to experience better feelings and in turn, shift your attention away from thoughts that are upsetting and/or emotionally distressing?
There is a phrase used by humans and when it is expressed, it is given as a pass, to accept, forgive, or explain something a person has said or done. That phrase is "being human". If you were involved in a relationship and it ended, resulting in strong emotional outbursts or tears, someone might say to you, "that's okay, you are only human".
It is believed there are inherent "natural" reactions to life events and circumstances, as if human minds are programmed to act in this manner automatically. But the reality is that the mind is directional by nature, guided by the intentions of the human who directs or guides or instructs it. A person can condition their mind to respond to situations in a particular manner, which in turn becomes a practiced habit and therefore may appear to be a human response versus a learned response.
This means the mind is and can be trained. Every day, and with everything you do, you are training your mind, and at an energetic level. There are several possible states you can train your mind to be in and it is divided between positive and negative energy. There are different versions of positive and negative energetic states of mind. A person who worries about finances is training the mind to focus on the fear of impending failure. A person who worries about health is training the mind to focus on the negative energy of the fear of the unknown.
But the person who decides to focus on happy memories, their accomplishments, and what they have learned in life, they are training their mind to focus on the positive energy stream. When the mind is trained to look inward and feel good, negative situations do not likely prompt the response typically expected, from upset to anger. That is due to a trained focus, the directional flow towards positive, productive energy. The converse is also true. A trained negative focus can prompt irrational, loud, aggressive, responses which can flow unchecked.
Can the Mind Be Trained?
For most people, the idea of a trained mind may seem odd. But this is no different than religious institutions teaching people to pray. That is a form of directional flow, even if it is to a perceived being. It is a matter of turning the attention of the mind and training it to stay in one direction on a consistent basis. This is also called attunement.
By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
It is also possible to become practiced at directing the mind towards a positive energetic flow but then have moments when the mind is diverted to something negative. There are many negative influences surrounding humans, from what is available online to what can be seen on the news.
A Connection to Emotional Intelligence
Even those who are the most well-practiced can feel a pull towards negative energy and if they are not careful, they too can be drawn in. But with practice, the emotional discord can be felt and recognized quickly, and focus towards positive energy restored. A name has been given for this ability and it has been called emotional intelligence. What this phrase does is to explain the process at a superficial level, something most people can understand. But what is really going on is much deeper than that as it occurs at an energetic level. The reason why is that thoughts alone are not enough to change emotions felt, there must also be a shift in the connection to the energetic flow, from negative to positive.
Being Connected to Positive and Negative Energy
Then the question some humans raise is this: Why should I care so much about feeling connected to the positive energetic stream at all times? The answer is simple. It is where feelings of pure happiness and love and well-being flow. You see evidence of those who are attuned to a negative energetic flow all around you, including everyone who has done something that society would label evil, hateful, unthinkable, bad, wrong, and so on. For many of those people, a negative energetic flow has occurred for so long it is now a practiced feeling.
The result of an ongoing connection to a negative energy flow is generally very self-destructive to the human body and its well-being. It deteriorates the mind and can lead to outward manifestations, such as actions taken which negatively affect others. This can be small actions, from negative comments to antisocial behavior, to unthinkable or unforgivable actions. In contrast, a practiced focus towards positive energy helps to establish harmony within the body and with others. It ensures a peaceful existence within and it is usually manifested outward with others. There are varying degrees as a person can flow in and out of this state, depending upon their level of discipline.
Learning to Change Your Focus
Because you are reading this now, it means you care about how you feel. Pay attention to how you are training your mind and what you are creating as a point of focus. You will know how you feel within the connection to a positive or negative energetic source by the emotions you experience. You do not need to experience bliss or even pure happiness at all times. Even a sense of balance and contentment is enough to establish stability and a focus towards the best in life. Your mind follows the direction you lead it and produces thoughts accordingly. Nothing is produced randomly.
This knowledge tells you that if you want to change how you feel and what you are experiencing now, it is time to take better control of the focus you give to your mindset. You do not need affirmations or anything more than to shift to thoughts of something that allows you to experience a positive emotion. Then you must guard your mind from the external environment and the negativity which would distract your focus. You decide what is important to know for life and what you can do without to protect your well-being, especially if you are now struggling with a problem of chronic negative thoughts.
After mental housekeeping, or evaluating external influences, be prepared to pay more attention to internal influences and how one negative thought can take you down a path of many more negative thoughts. As you ready yourself internally and externally, you are now prepared to better hold a focus towards the good in life, the best in yourself and others, and this will help you stay connected to the positive energy stream.
A universal truth is this: Through an ongoing connection to the positive energetic stream, the insight and wisdom of Higher Order Collective Consciousness will flow easily to you and through you. This helps you feel as if you can face each day, no matter what opportunities and challenges it may bring to you as you have an energetic connection to the Source of Life energy which has all knowledge, all wisdom, and gives life to all humans.
The external environment around you may remain the same, with its problems, financial challenges, societal noise, and negative influences. But when you are positively focused and energetically balanced, you are connected, attuned, and capable of remaining in harmony. Even if your focus should shift, for a minute, a day, or a week, you know how to train yourself back into to the positive energy stream and you can shift your focus back again. With time and practice, you will soon learn to focus just by how you feel. Then you will live in energetic harmony, balanced internally, and listening uninterrupted for the wisdom you need to live the life you have planned.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10034351
There is a phrase used by humans and when it is expressed, it is given as a pass, to accept, forgive, or explain something a person has said or done. That phrase is "being human". If you were involved in a relationship and it ended, resulting in strong emotional outbursts or tears, someone might say to you, "that's okay, you are only human".
It is believed there are inherent "natural" reactions to life events and circumstances, as if human minds are programmed to act in this manner automatically. But the reality is that the mind is directional by nature, guided by the intentions of the human who directs or guides or instructs it. A person can condition their mind to respond to situations in a particular manner, which in turn becomes a practiced habit and therefore may appear to be a human response versus a learned response.
This means the mind is and can be trained. Every day, and with everything you do, you are training your mind, and at an energetic level. There are several possible states you can train your mind to be in and it is divided between positive and negative energy. There are different versions of positive and negative energetic states of mind. A person who worries about finances is training the mind to focus on the fear of impending failure. A person who worries about health is training the mind to focus on the negative energy of the fear of the unknown.
But the person who decides to focus on happy memories, their accomplishments, and what they have learned in life, they are training their mind to focus on the positive energy stream. When the mind is trained to look inward and feel good, negative situations do not likely prompt the response typically expected, from upset to anger. That is due to a trained focus, the directional flow towards positive, productive energy. The converse is also true. A trained negative focus can prompt irrational, loud, aggressive, responses which can flow unchecked.
Can the Mind Be Trained?
For most people, the idea of a trained mind may seem odd. But this is no different than religious institutions teaching people to pray. That is a form of directional flow, even if it is to a perceived being. It is a matter of turning the attention of the mind and training it to stay in one direction on a consistent basis. This is also called attunement.
By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
It is also possible to become practiced at directing the mind towards a positive energetic flow but then have moments when the mind is diverted to something negative. There are many negative influences surrounding humans, from what is available online to what can be seen on the news.
A Connection to Emotional Intelligence
Even those who are the most well-practiced can feel a pull towards negative energy and if they are not careful, they too can be drawn in. But with practice, the emotional discord can be felt and recognized quickly, and focus towards positive energy restored. A name has been given for this ability and it has been called emotional intelligence. What this phrase does is to explain the process at a superficial level, something most people can understand. But what is really going on is much deeper than that as it occurs at an energetic level. The reason why is that thoughts alone are not enough to change emotions felt, there must also be a shift in the connection to the energetic flow, from negative to positive.
Being Connected to Positive and Negative Energy
Then the question some humans raise is this: Why should I care so much about feeling connected to the positive energetic stream at all times? The answer is simple. It is where feelings of pure happiness and love and well-being flow. You see evidence of those who are attuned to a negative energetic flow all around you, including everyone who has done something that society would label evil, hateful, unthinkable, bad, wrong, and so on. For many of those people, a negative energetic flow has occurred for so long it is now a practiced feeling.
The result of an ongoing connection to a negative energy flow is generally very self-destructive to the human body and its well-being. It deteriorates the mind and can lead to outward manifestations, such as actions taken which negatively affect others. This can be small actions, from negative comments to antisocial behavior, to unthinkable or unforgivable actions. In contrast, a practiced focus towards positive energy helps to establish harmony within the body and with others. It ensures a peaceful existence within and it is usually manifested outward with others. There are varying degrees as a person can flow in and out of this state, depending upon their level of discipline.
Learning to Change Your Focus
Because you are reading this now, it means you care about how you feel. Pay attention to how you are training your mind and what you are creating as a point of focus. You will know how you feel within the connection to a positive or negative energetic source by the emotions you experience. You do not need to experience bliss or even pure happiness at all times. Even a sense of balance and contentment is enough to establish stability and a focus towards the best in life. Your mind follows the direction you lead it and produces thoughts accordingly. Nothing is produced randomly.
This knowledge tells you that if you want to change how you feel and what you are experiencing now, it is time to take better control of the focus you give to your mindset. You do not need affirmations or anything more than to shift to thoughts of something that allows you to experience a positive emotion. Then you must guard your mind from the external environment and the negativity which would distract your focus. You decide what is important to know for life and what you can do without to protect your well-being, especially if you are now struggling with a problem of chronic negative thoughts.
After mental housekeeping, or evaluating external influences, be prepared to pay more attention to internal influences and how one negative thought can take you down a path of many more negative thoughts. As you ready yourself internally and externally, you are now prepared to better hold a focus towards the good in life, the best in yourself and others, and this will help you stay connected to the positive energy stream.
A universal truth is this: Through an ongoing connection to the positive energetic stream, the insight and wisdom of Higher Order Collective Consciousness will flow easily to you and through you. This helps you feel as if you can face each day, no matter what opportunities and challenges it may bring to you as you have an energetic connection to the Source of Life energy which has all knowledge, all wisdom, and gives life to all humans.
The external environment around you may remain the same, with its problems, financial challenges, societal noise, and negative influences. But when you are positively focused and energetically balanced, you are connected, attuned, and capable of remaining in harmony. Even if your focus should shift, for a minute, a day, or a week, you know how to train yourself back into to the positive energy stream and you can shift your focus back again. With time and practice, you will soon learn to focus just by how you feel. Then you will live in energetic harmony, balanced internally, and listening uninterrupted for the wisdom you need to live the life you have planned.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10034351
Tuesday 20 November 2018
The Seven-Step Decision Process
Ever struggled with a decision? Dealing with one now? Ever made what you thought was a poor decision that turned out well? Ever made a good one that turned out poorly? I'm sure you don't need my repetitive babble as you have better things to do today, like spending time deciding or maybe spending over ten hours of your life today interacting with a device! Yep, these ten hours on your iPad, iPhone or computer etc. are decisions made on how you choose to spend your time whether wisely or aimlessly.
Making decisions is the easy part of the decision process and as a result, you would think most people would be able to handle this first step in life's decision process.
A process is a series of steps in every area of life whether - cooking, exercise, travel, health, relationship building, career development, business growth etc. and decision making is no exception. To achieve a favorable outcome from any decision, each step in the process must be taken in order and with thought, evaluation, and purpose and all driven by pre-determined desired results or outcomes. But first a quote from one of my mentors, Charlie "Tremendous" Jones - "Stop trying to make right decisions, make the decision and then make it turn out right."
So, what are the seven steps to an effective and successful decision process?
-Consider the process: desired outcomes or results, potential risks and/or rewards, time-frames, available resources, courage, passion, desire or fears associated with it, previous similar decisions and outcomes. Get it? You just don't make it without a little pre-thought.
-Decide; this is the easy part - say yes or no - maybe is not a decision, not now is not a decision, when things get better or change is not a decision, I hope it will all work out is not a decision, someday I will is not a decision, if my inaction doesn't work I'll do something is not a decision.
-Plan; planning is taking all the details, facts, lessons, considerations, resources and deciding on the best, the ideal, the only etc. approach. Here is where you map out and blend the various steps in the process execution; the expected outcomes, the benchmarks, the guidelines, the rules, how you will handle potential roadblocks, hazards and/or setbacks, mistakes or failures, how to manage resources of time, money, people and any other certain or uncertain resources.
-Act; now it's time to get moving executing the plan developed. You begin. You get started; no waiting, no delaying, no excuses, no fears, no hesitation - just get moving.
-Monitor; this is the time for discipline, observation, awareness and record keeping. Without these actions how will you know what works, what doesn't, what might have or what needs to be trashed? This is also a time for monitoring the path to success. If you didn't set a timeframe or time or complete time/date you will tend to get distracted, sidetracked and even lose passion, attention or the desire to keep going.
-Evaluate; Now it's time for review - what worked, what didn't, what took too long, what cost too much, what took too much time or used too many resources. What needs to change? If it is changed how will we know we will get better or different results the next time? Is the entire project, program - whatever - worth it? Will it pay off adequately with additional time, resources, people or patience? Don't skip this step or if something fails - you will tend to fail again if it is tried again in the future. If it took too long or too many resources how do, we or can we still accomplish it with less or fewer resources? Important questions if you want a better track record of success and less failure, disappointment in the future.
-Act again; Simple - take the learning from each step above and blend it into your re-try. But, follow the same steps above or again, if it fails you may never know why and could set yourself up for repeat future failures.
By Tim Connor
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9991649
Making decisions is the easy part of the decision process and as a result, you would think most people would be able to handle this first step in life's decision process.
A process is a series of steps in every area of life whether - cooking, exercise, travel, health, relationship building, career development, business growth etc. and decision making is no exception. To achieve a favorable outcome from any decision, each step in the process must be taken in order and with thought, evaluation, and purpose and all driven by pre-determined desired results or outcomes. But first a quote from one of my mentors, Charlie "Tremendous" Jones - "Stop trying to make right decisions, make the decision and then make it turn out right."
So, what are the seven steps to an effective and successful decision process?
-Consider the process: desired outcomes or results, potential risks and/or rewards, time-frames, available resources, courage, passion, desire or fears associated with it, previous similar decisions and outcomes. Get it? You just don't make it without a little pre-thought.
-Decide; this is the easy part - say yes or no - maybe is not a decision, not now is not a decision, when things get better or change is not a decision, I hope it will all work out is not a decision, someday I will is not a decision, if my inaction doesn't work I'll do something is not a decision.
-Plan; planning is taking all the details, facts, lessons, considerations, resources and deciding on the best, the ideal, the only etc. approach. Here is where you map out and blend the various steps in the process execution; the expected outcomes, the benchmarks, the guidelines, the rules, how you will handle potential roadblocks, hazards and/or setbacks, mistakes or failures, how to manage resources of time, money, people and any other certain or uncertain resources.
-Act; now it's time to get moving executing the plan developed. You begin. You get started; no waiting, no delaying, no excuses, no fears, no hesitation - just get moving.
-Monitor; this is the time for discipline, observation, awareness and record keeping. Without these actions how will you know what works, what doesn't, what might have or what needs to be trashed? This is also a time for monitoring the path to success. If you didn't set a timeframe or time or complete time/date you will tend to get distracted, sidetracked and even lose passion, attention or the desire to keep going.
-Evaluate; Now it's time for review - what worked, what didn't, what took too long, what cost too much, what took too much time or used too many resources. What needs to change? If it is changed how will we know we will get better or different results the next time? Is the entire project, program - whatever - worth it? Will it pay off adequately with additional time, resources, people or patience? Don't skip this step or if something fails - you will tend to fail again if it is tried again in the future. If it took too long or too many resources how do, we or can we still accomplish it with less or fewer resources? Important questions if you want a better track record of success and less failure, disappointment in the future.
-Act again; Simple - take the learning from each step above and blend it into your re-try. But, follow the same steps above or again, if it fails you may never know why and could set yourself up for repeat future failures.
By Tim Connor
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9991649
Monday 19 November 2018
How Do You Want To Be Remembered
Please - I'm not being morbid - just asking a simple question.
Trust me - the years pass much more quickly than most people realize or are willing to accept. I don't care your chronological age as that is not the determining fact as to when you will check out of here so back to my question - How do you want to be remembered after you are gone?
First of all, who remembers us and why depends on many factors; our relationships (family, kids, siblings etc.), careers (customers, fellow workers, bosses etc.), where we lived (neighbors, friends, acquaintances etc.), and yes even a few total strangers that might have crossed our paths quickly and briefly.
Then there are our actions (things done and not done), behaviors (good, bad, stupid, thoughtful, selfish, kind, egotistical, compassionate etc.).
And of course, there are our words (things said and not said, kind words or hurtful words etc.).
And how about our beliefs attitudes, prejudices and opinions (did we always have to be right or could we accept mistakes, were we always talking, or did we ever listen and care, could we disagree without anger or validate others for who they were, did we live with a spiritual foundation or did we assume there is no God etc.).
Yes, there's one more - our goals, desires, dreams, and plans. Did we include others or exclude them, did we rely on others or did we always go it alone, did we give credit when it was due or always keep it for our selves, did we share our victories or assume we deserved all the benefits regardless of other's guidance etc?
OK, I hope I have made my point - there are numerous factors to who will or will not remember us, why they will or will not remember us and what they will remember us for - if they do.
I'm going to generalize a bit so hang in there with me.
There is an ancient Native American legend that states 'you will only get into Heaven leaning on the shoulders of someone you helped while you were on earth.'
Regardless of your opinion of this statement consider - if you helped no one in any way - what are your chances? If you helped one hundred people - go for it.
As I go through my last life chapter I have spent a lot of time considering this question and is it too late to change what those who were in my life - for many years or even a few minutes - will remember about me or even care.
Ever wondered how many people will attend your funeral? Full house or a lot of empty seats?
You've heard it I'm sure - It's never too late to make a new first impression. Does this rule also apply - It's never too late to change your legacy? I don't have a clue but what I do know is how you live your life while you are here become the guidelines for your legacy or how, why, if, when etc. you will be remembered.
I'm not referring here to all those famous folks like - Billy Graham, Mother Teresa, Babe Ruth or Henry Ford etc. I'm talking about us normal folks who are doing our best to live a life of dignity, happiness, success, compassion, and love rather than fame and fortune.
So, here's a thought - make a list of all the people in your life that matter - current or past, relatives or friends - get it - anyone or everyone. Now, write down the words that you think each one of them might use to describe you, your legacy or what you meant to them while you shared life with them if they were giving your eulogy. Got the courage to do this? If no, why not? If yes, go for it.
And here's a final thought if you can handle it. Now share the words, memories etc. you wrote down with each person and ask them for their response (agree, disagree, like, don't like etc.).
By Tim Connor
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9990400
Trust me - the years pass much more quickly than most people realize or are willing to accept. I don't care your chronological age as that is not the determining fact as to when you will check out of here so back to my question - How do you want to be remembered after you are gone?
First of all, who remembers us and why depends on many factors; our relationships (family, kids, siblings etc.), careers (customers, fellow workers, bosses etc.), where we lived (neighbors, friends, acquaintances etc.), and yes even a few total strangers that might have crossed our paths quickly and briefly.
Then there are our actions (things done and not done), behaviors (good, bad, stupid, thoughtful, selfish, kind, egotistical, compassionate etc.).
And of course, there are our words (things said and not said, kind words or hurtful words etc.).
And how about our beliefs attitudes, prejudices and opinions (did we always have to be right or could we accept mistakes, were we always talking, or did we ever listen and care, could we disagree without anger or validate others for who they were, did we live with a spiritual foundation or did we assume there is no God etc.).
Yes, there's one more - our goals, desires, dreams, and plans. Did we include others or exclude them, did we rely on others or did we always go it alone, did we give credit when it was due or always keep it for our selves, did we share our victories or assume we deserved all the benefits regardless of other's guidance etc?
OK, I hope I have made my point - there are numerous factors to who will or will not remember us, why they will or will not remember us and what they will remember us for - if they do.
I'm going to generalize a bit so hang in there with me.
There is an ancient Native American legend that states 'you will only get into Heaven leaning on the shoulders of someone you helped while you were on earth.'
Regardless of your opinion of this statement consider - if you helped no one in any way - what are your chances? If you helped one hundred people - go for it.
As I go through my last life chapter I have spent a lot of time considering this question and is it too late to change what those who were in my life - for many years or even a few minutes - will remember about me or even care.
Ever wondered how many people will attend your funeral? Full house or a lot of empty seats?
You've heard it I'm sure - It's never too late to make a new first impression. Does this rule also apply - It's never too late to change your legacy? I don't have a clue but what I do know is how you live your life while you are here become the guidelines for your legacy or how, why, if, when etc. you will be remembered.
I'm not referring here to all those famous folks like - Billy Graham, Mother Teresa, Babe Ruth or Henry Ford etc. I'm talking about us normal folks who are doing our best to live a life of dignity, happiness, success, compassion, and love rather than fame and fortune.
So, here's a thought - make a list of all the people in your life that matter - current or past, relatives or friends - get it - anyone or everyone. Now, write down the words that you think each one of them might use to describe you, your legacy or what you meant to them while you shared life with them if they were giving your eulogy. Got the courage to do this? If no, why not? If yes, go for it.
And here's a final thought if you can handle it. Now share the words, memories etc. you wrote down with each person and ask them for their response (agree, disagree, like, don't like etc.).
By Tim Connor
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9990400
Sunday 18 November 2018
Being Successful In Life Today With A Millionaire's Mindset Means Reprogramming The Subconscious
Are you on the right track to achieve success? Stop for a while, take a look at the map, see the directions, consult somebody or look for assistance.
After that start your journey towards the ways to be successful with full self-confidence.
I mean do so without the tiniest doubt of being derailed.
Their tracks are entirely different from each other leading to various destinations; the location of success and the location of failure.
Either one can learn the best ways to be successful or take an incorrect track doom and gloom, but the best secret to achieve success is to keep oneself on the ideal path.
A very sharp, clear and bright picture of where you are heading is great motivation for an enthusiastic individual to remain vigilant and keep himself focused on the right path versus all odds and obstacles.
It's true that absolutely nothing can be achieved without effort, however, effort alone can not guarantee you to achieve success.
The world is full of poorly paid unskilled workers who are working hard, but not getting enough benefit.
Striving without planning is similar to taking an elevator from the middle of a multi-story structure without knowing which floor you really need to get off at.
It can take you to the leading floor or ground you in the basement.
The majority of people are not able to set goals and objectives simply due to the fact that they have no future vision, no huge dreams and no specific success strategies.
These poor, miserable people have no choice, but to follow the crowd aimlessly.
The unfortunate part of the story is that the crowd is growing larger day-by-hopeless-day without having anyone to lead them to the ideal path to achieve success.
Enjoying the Success Process
Previously I discussed how many were having fun, for example, trading penny stocks and that as a hobby were finding success.
When we can put some enjoyment into what we're chasing after being successful seems to be a result.
Due to the fact that many can not commit themselves fully to the job they are appointed to, these directionless people are lost and don't know for sure what they want.
No surprise, these people are frequently fired by their companies, remain mostly unemployed, survive on social welfare and other public assistance and charities, broke in the end and ultimately buried under heavy debt.
One must distinguish between right-minded and wrong-minded; either achieve success or settle for failure.
The Course in Miracles states, "You are the mirror of truth, in which God Himself shines in perfect light. To the ego's dark glass you say but need, 'I will not look there because I know these images are not true'."
Bringing Passion and Purpose to the Scene
Because we are not allowing the light of our passion and purpose to be in charge, far too often we as humans are filled with uncertainty of the dark.
You just need to keep inspired and keep on moving to the destination you set for yourself when you are on the path of certainty.
The desperate and dark travels through life many take are entirely different from each other leading to different destinations; to achieve success or the destination of mediocrity.
Either one can be on the ideal track to achieve success, or on the path where wealth creation is never accepted into the mind.
The millionaire secrets will help to keep you OFF the wrong-minded track, where you can never find ways to be successful in life, no matter how much effort one puts in.
Effort needs to be invested in keeping yourself inspired and continually reprogramming the subconscious when you are on the right-minded track with a millionaire mindset.
(I like to suggest searching the net for more helpful material on, answering what makes someone successful, wealth creation, and uncovering the secret for financial freedom now.)
By James Nussbaumer
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9937531
After that start your journey towards the ways to be successful with full self-confidence.
I mean do so without the tiniest doubt of being derailed.
Their tracks are entirely different from each other leading to various destinations; the location of success and the location of failure.
Either one can learn the best ways to be successful or take an incorrect track doom and gloom, but the best secret to achieve success is to keep oneself on the ideal path.
A very sharp, clear and bright picture of where you are heading is great motivation for an enthusiastic individual to remain vigilant and keep himself focused on the right path versus all odds and obstacles.
It's true that absolutely nothing can be achieved without effort, however, effort alone can not guarantee you to achieve success.
The world is full of poorly paid unskilled workers who are working hard, but not getting enough benefit.
Striving without planning is similar to taking an elevator from the middle of a multi-story structure without knowing which floor you really need to get off at.
It can take you to the leading floor or ground you in the basement.
The majority of people are not able to set goals and objectives simply due to the fact that they have no future vision, no huge dreams and no specific success strategies.
These poor, miserable people have no choice, but to follow the crowd aimlessly.
The unfortunate part of the story is that the crowd is growing larger day-by-hopeless-day without having anyone to lead them to the ideal path to achieve success.
Enjoying the Success Process
Previously I discussed how many were having fun, for example, trading penny stocks and that as a hobby were finding success.
When we can put some enjoyment into what we're chasing after being successful seems to be a result.
Due to the fact that many can not commit themselves fully to the job they are appointed to, these directionless people are lost and don't know for sure what they want.
No surprise, these people are frequently fired by their companies, remain mostly unemployed, survive on social welfare and other public assistance and charities, broke in the end and ultimately buried under heavy debt.
One must distinguish between right-minded and wrong-minded; either achieve success or settle for failure.
The Course in Miracles states, "You are the mirror of truth, in which God Himself shines in perfect light. To the ego's dark glass you say but need, 'I will not look there because I know these images are not true'."
Bringing Passion and Purpose to the Scene
Because we are not allowing the light of our passion and purpose to be in charge, far too often we as humans are filled with uncertainty of the dark.
You just need to keep inspired and keep on moving to the destination you set for yourself when you are on the path of certainty.
The desperate and dark travels through life many take are entirely different from each other leading to different destinations; to achieve success or the destination of mediocrity.
Either one can be on the ideal track to achieve success, or on the path where wealth creation is never accepted into the mind.
The millionaire secrets will help to keep you OFF the wrong-minded track, where you can never find ways to be successful in life, no matter how much effort one puts in.
Effort needs to be invested in keeping yourself inspired and continually reprogramming the subconscious when you are on the right-minded track with a millionaire mindset.
(I like to suggest searching the net for more helpful material on, answering what makes someone successful, wealth creation, and uncovering the secret for financial freedom now.)
By James Nussbaumer
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9937531
Saturday 17 November 2018
To Prepare Yourself For A Better Tomorrow, Do All You Can To Be Your Best Today
The Aggregation Of Small Habits Leads To Greatness
Do you realise your best is yet to come? How do you feel when you read that statement? Do you think: "My best is behind me"? But what if you don't know what you're capable of unless you continue to move forward towards your goals and dreams? Let me give you an example. When Michael Jordan failed making his high school basketball team, do you think his career was over? Perhaps he thought so at the time because not making the team might have seemed like the end of the road for him, but it wasn't. It was the beginning of his career as one of the greatest basketballers of all time. Why? Jordan loved to play basketball and spent hours practicing and fine tuning his skills. The setbacks and defeats he experienced were part of the process to achieve greatness. They were inflection points in his career and why your best is yet to come, as long as you continue moving towards your goals. Warning: you must believe your best is still to come and keep taking the right course of action.
Your best will come from your habits, practice, growth, setbacks, victories and knowledge gained over the years. To prepare for a better tomorrow, we must commit to the tasks of today that lay the foundation for tomorrow. Nothing good can come of delaying that which we must attend to now. Whilst many of our daily tasks or habits can be tedious and time-consuming, with the right mindset they will transform our efforts into achievement. We must do our best whatever that looks like, knowing the aggregation of small habits leads to greatness. This is the essence of what motivational author and speaker Brendon Burchard refers to in High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way where he writes: "Being on your A game means that you are giving your best effort with full focus on the singular task at hand. To get it, you need to stoke the internal and external demands of necessity. Specifically, you assume the identity of a high performer and you set up situations that require full immersion." How does this idea appeal to you? Is this something you're prepared to invest in or are you already taking inspired action in your life? Whatever the case, investing in ourselves means committing to that which makes our hopes and dreams come alive.
Focus On Priorities That Make You Come Alive
We are the vessel upon which our tomorrow is created or conversely, one in which we will live with regret. Either way, regret is nothing more than ineffective action because we have squandered our time on things that don't matter. To be your best today, requires bringing your whole self to every situation. What do I mean by whole self? I mean the entirety of your being, including your mind, body and spirit. The person who brings their whole self to their task is inspired by a greater purpose for their life. A person who brings their whole self to their undertakings unites with their deeper intent, so each action is purposefully guided and emanates from passion and direct intention. We are the habits of our yesterdays and the victors of our tomorrows. What we plant in our mind and sow into our hearts becomes the seeds of greatness tomorrow.
So what are you committed to? What actions are delivering you tangible results? We must be clear whether our labour compels us to move forward or keeps us stationary. Stagnancy is a misdirected purpose in the form of resistance because we are frightened by the success of tomorrow. Yet, this is the purpose of daily actions and habits: to sharpen the saw as the late Dr. Stephen Covey wrote in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It is the opportunity to refine, review and reward ourselves for actions we undertake that bring our hopes and dreams alive.
Nothing good can come of setting aside that which can be completed now because what we put off for tomorrow compounds and soon enough we face yet another fear. Our task is to minimise fear from our lives, so we can focus on our highest objectives through purposeful action. We ought to pursue things that make us come alive, not make us feel weary and uninspired. We must do away with commitments and obligations that hinder our progress or better still, delegate them to others so we can focus on that which makes us come alive. We must bring forth the song within our heart because this is the song that touches those whom associate with our work. So I ask you: what are you putting off today that may inhibit your tomorrow? Can you commit to the smallest task, even when you feel less inclined to? Without doubt, if we are inspired by some greater purpose, then the smaller tasks will fuel our actions because a better tomorrow is possible when we commit to be our best today.
By Tony Fahkry
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10033325
Do you realise your best is yet to come? How do you feel when you read that statement? Do you think: "My best is behind me"? But what if you don't know what you're capable of unless you continue to move forward towards your goals and dreams? Let me give you an example. When Michael Jordan failed making his high school basketball team, do you think his career was over? Perhaps he thought so at the time because not making the team might have seemed like the end of the road for him, but it wasn't. It was the beginning of his career as one of the greatest basketballers of all time. Why? Jordan loved to play basketball and spent hours practicing and fine tuning his skills. The setbacks and defeats he experienced were part of the process to achieve greatness. They were inflection points in his career and why your best is yet to come, as long as you continue moving towards your goals. Warning: you must believe your best is still to come and keep taking the right course of action.
Your best will come from your habits, practice, growth, setbacks, victories and knowledge gained over the years. To prepare for a better tomorrow, we must commit to the tasks of today that lay the foundation for tomorrow. Nothing good can come of delaying that which we must attend to now. Whilst many of our daily tasks or habits can be tedious and time-consuming, with the right mindset they will transform our efforts into achievement. We must do our best whatever that looks like, knowing the aggregation of small habits leads to greatness. This is the essence of what motivational author and speaker Brendon Burchard refers to in High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way where he writes: "Being on your A game means that you are giving your best effort with full focus on the singular task at hand. To get it, you need to stoke the internal and external demands of necessity. Specifically, you assume the identity of a high performer and you set up situations that require full immersion." How does this idea appeal to you? Is this something you're prepared to invest in or are you already taking inspired action in your life? Whatever the case, investing in ourselves means committing to that which makes our hopes and dreams come alive.
Focus On Priorities That Make You Come Alive
We are the vessel upon which our tomorrow is created or conversely, one in which we will live with regret. Either way, regret is nothing more than ineffective action because we have squandered our time on things that don't matter. To be your best today, requires bringing your whole self to every situation. What do I mean by whole self? I mean the entirety of your being, including your mind, body and spirit. The person who brings their whole self to their task is inspired by a greater purpose for their life. A person who brings their whole self to their undertakings unites with their deeper intent, so each action is purposefully guided and emanates from passion and direct intention. We are the habits of our yesterdays and the victors of our tomorrows. What we plant in our mind and sow into our hearts becomes the seeds of greatness tomorrow.
So what are you committed to? What actions are delivering you tangible results? We must be clear whether our labour compels us to move forward or keeps us stationary. Stagnancy is a misdirected purpose in the form of resistance because we are frightened by the success of tomorrow. Yet, this is the purpose of daily actions and habits: to sharpen the saw as the late Dr. Stephen Covey wrote in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It is the opportunity to refine, review and reward ourselves for actions we undertake that bring our hopes and dreams alive.
Nothing good can come of setting aside that which can be completed now because what we put off for tomorrow compounds and soon enough we face yet another fear. Our task is to minimise fear from our lives, so we can focus on our highest objectives through purposeful action. We ought to pursue things that make us come alive, not make us feel weary and uninspired. We must do away with commitments and obligations that hinder our progress or better still, delegate them to others so we can focus on that which makes us come alive. We must bring forth the song within our heart because this is the song that touches those whom associate with our work. So I ask you: what are you putting off today that may inhibit your tomorrow? Can you commit to the smallest task, even when you feel less inclined to? Without doubt, if we are inspired by some greater purpose, then the smaller tasks will fuel our actions because a better tomorrow is possible when we commit to be our best today.
By Tony Fahkry
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10033325
Friday 16 November 2018
Wisdom From the Universe: Discover How to Unlock the Power of Your Mind
Are you aware of the full potential your mind has now to bring you happiness, to help you find peace, and to allow you to know more about your future?
The mind of a human being is a wonderous living organ. From one perspective, it keeps the body functions active without direct control or conscious command. From another perspective, it is a vast neural network of thoughts and ideas, flowing freely, sometimes reaching conscious awareness, and sometimes not.
The other aspect of the mind is that of a holder of knowledge. It is often viewed as a repository or filing cabinet. The information is stored in a subconscious neural network and accessed through patterns of conscious thoughts.
But what the mind is in reality is the activity of the brain. It is the electrical impulses flowing through the circuitry of brain. The entire brain runs on an internal electrical system, powered by positive and negative energy. And most important of all, the origin of the source of the internal energetic system which causes the brain to generate electrical impulses, and in turn a system of thoughts, is the source of life energy, often called God.
A universal truth is this: The source of life energy is the Collective Consciousness of Mankind, consisting of positive and negative energy, the totality of all thoughts, ideas, wisdom, knowledge, and memories of all living things which have ever been and will be. This Collective Consciousness, or universal source of life, will sustain all of life in the universe now and always.
Many people wonder about the mind's ability to sustain a body as the body goes through a natural aging cycle, and what relation the mind may have to sustaining the brain even as the physical body ages and/or goes into decline and fails. These mysteries are typically explained first to the general masses in religious terms, as a soul and a destiny which has been determined by a higher evolved being.
From a scientific perspective, every human being must grow, evolve, age, and die, as is the rhythm and cycle of nature. It is difficult for most people to believe they may have already decided on a plan and a purpose for their lives, that they may have come from an energetic source to experience a specific form of life and in a very specific manner. For most people, this flies in the face of living in accordance to some being's will.
But having this knowledge can be freeing as it opens life in new and meaningful ways. It takes the fear out of not knowing what tomorrow may bring, and it takes away the need to plead in earnest to someone or some entity for help.
The Source of Life
There is a life force, life source, life essence, and an origin of life. It is the energetic source that sustains all of life, flowing all around us at all times. You will notice it when the wind blows, when you put your hand in the river, or you feel rain falling from the sky. You know intuitively there is energy all around you.
The Source of Life as Energy
The energetic source of life is bound together by the memories and thoughts of mankind, which are a form of energy. There was positive and negative energy, from which consciousness evolved, followed by extensions into physical forms. The physical forms were chosen to create new memories, flowing to the collective energy, which in turn created a Collective Consciousness of Mankind.
Within this Collective Consciousness of Mankind are negative memories and thoughts, along with positive memories and thoughts. All energy must be balanced with positive and negative energy. Within positive energy a higher form of energy evolved from the wisdom, insight, and teachings of mankind, a Higher Order Collective Consciousness. It is part of a fluid Collective Consciousness energetic field and it is accessible by the mind of any man, woman, or child at any time.
The Human Mind as a Transmitter and Receiver
The human mind is always transmitting and receiving impulses and signals, as long as the brain is still alive and active. In turn, mankind is connected to the Collective Consciousness at all times, even without consciously realizing it. Some people are more attuned to this energetic source, when they are not afraid to listen.
Those who pray can listen and receive wisdom from the source of life energy; however, it is done with a label on it as the truth can be too challenging to accept, that someone else or some other being is not dictating control of their lives.
Some people prefer to focus on negative thoughts and that blocks access to wisdom from Higher Order Collective Consciousness. Negative energy is destructive in the long-term. It creates deteriorating effects on the mind and the human body.
Positivity and the Mind
There is so much written about the concept of positivity as people seem to understand the importance of a positive focus and mindset. Yet if it is so well understood, why must so much be written about it? Because most is written from a superficial rather than energetic perspective. A change has to come from a point of focus internally and a willingness to attune to positive energy, such as the positive energy associated with happy memories, and redirect attention to the best in their life. When that happens, wisdom, insight, creativity, and happiness flow through.
But for many people, a habit of a negative focus being maintained for so long becomes a natural feeling, as if it feels good to feel internally disrupted and in turmoil. The longer this condition and state of mind goes on, the more challenging it is to change it.
Unlock the True Potential of Your Mind
If you want to understand the power of your mind, unlock the true potential it holds, you cannot just state a few words or look at a few photos. Even if you can think happy thoughts, you still need a plan for change. To begin, find some way to be distracted.
You can accomplish this goal by writing, painting, singing, decorating your house, riding a bike, swimming, exercising, shopping, walking, going out in nature, spending time with your pet, or anything else similar that you can do on a regular basis which allows your mind to be distracted from the outside noise of life. As you get into an emotional free zone, use this time to be purposeful and find happy memories to focus on and guide you to a place of intent to change.
These can be memories with family and friends, or memories of your greatest accomplishments. Cultivate those memories, remember the feelings and the minute details about what occurred. Bring them to life again within your mind. As you practice this technique more often, you will find yourself beginning to tune your mind towards the positive energy stream and flow from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind, along with Higher Order Collective Consciousness, and wisdom will now flow much more freely to you and through you.
You will now find yourself knowing how to face situations in your life and why you can live in peace as you will feel the growing connection and an attunement to the best of the life source energy. The questions about your life will diminish and you will trust yourself more. It will feel like a gut instinct but you will know its true source. Now is the time to begin to unlock the true power and potential of your mind. It only takes your belief and a willingness to accept your life without limits, and your mind without control.
By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10033232
The mind of a human being is a wonderous living organ. From one perspective, it keeps the body functions active without direct control or conscious command. From another perspective, it is a vast neural network of thoughts and ideas, flowing freely, sometimes reaching conscious awareness, and sometimes not.
The other aspect of the mind is that of a holder of knowledge. It is often viewed as a repository or filing cabinet. The information is stored in a subconscious neural network and accessed through patterns of conscious thoughts.
But what the mind is in reality is the activity of the brain. It is the electrical impulses flowing through the circuitry of brain. The entire brain runs on an internal electrical system, powered by positive and negative energy. And most important of all, the origin of the source of the internal energetic system which causes the brain to generate electrical impulses, and in turn a system of thoughts, is the source of life energy, often called God.
A universal truth is this: The source of life energy is the Collective Consciousness of Mankind, consisting of positive and negative energy, the totality of all thoughts, ideas, wisdom, knowledge, and memories of all living things which have ever been and will be. This Collective Consciousness, or universal source of life, will sustain all of life in the universe now and always.
Many people wonder about the mind's ability to sustain a body as the body goes through a natural aging cycle, and what relation the mind may have to sustaining the brain even as the physical body ages and/or goes into decline and fails. These mysteries are typically explained first to the general masses in religious terms, as a soul and a destiny which has been determined by a higher evolved being.
From a scientific perspective, every human being must grow, evolve, age, and die, as is the rhythm and cycle of nature. It is difficult for most people to believe they may have already decided on a plan and a purpose for their lives, that they may have come from an energetic source to experience a specific form of life and in a very specific manner. For most people, this flies in the face of living in accordance to some being's will.
But having this knowledge can be freeing as it opens life in new and meaningful ways. It takes the fear out of not knowing what tomorrow may bring, and it takes away the need to plead in earnest to someone or some entity for help.
The Source of Life
There is a life force, life source, life essence, and an origin of life. It is the energetic source that sustains all of life, flowing all around us at all times. You will notice it when the wind blows, when you put your hand in the river, or you feel rain falling from the sky. You know intuitively there is energy all around you.
The Source of Life as Energy
The energetic source of life is bound together by the memories and thoughts of mankind, which are a form of energy. There was positive and negative energy, from which consciousness evolved, followed by extensions into physical forms. The physical forms were chosen to create new memories, flowing to the collective energy, which in turn created a Collective Consciousness of Mankind.
Within this Collective Consciousness of Mankind are negative memories and thoughts, along with positive memories and thoughts. All energy must be balanced with positive and negative energy. Within positive energy a higher form of energy evolved from the wisdom, insight, and teachings of mankind, a Higher Order Collective Consciousness. It is part of a fluid Collective Consciousness energetic field and it is accessible by the mind of any man, woman, or child at any time.
The Human Mind as a Transmitter and Receiver
The human mind is always transmitting and receiving impulses and signals, as long as the brain is still alive and active. In turn, mankind is connected to the Collective Consciousness at all times, even without consciously realizing it. Some people are more attuned to this energetic source, when they are not afraid to listen.
Those who pray can listen and receive wisdom from the source of life energy; however, it is done with a label on it as the truth can be too challenging to accept, that someone else or some other being is not dictating control of their lives.
Some people prefer to focus on negative thoughts and that blocks access to wisdom from Higher Order Collective Consciousness. Negative energy is destructive in the long-term. It creates deteriorating effects on the mind and the human body.
Positivity and the Mind
There is so much written about the concept of positivity as people seem to understand the importance of a positive focus and mindset. Yet if it is so well understood, why must so much be written about it? Because most is written from a superficial rather than energetic perspective. A change has to come from a point of focus internally and a willingness to attune to positive energy, such as the positive energy associated with happy memories, and redirect attention to the best in their life. When that happens, wisdom, insight, creativity, and happiness flow through.
But for many people, a habit of a negative focus being maintained for so long becomes a natural feeling, as if it feels good to feel internally disrupted and in turmoil. The longer this condition and state of mind goes on, the more challenging it is to change it.
Unlock the True Potential of Your Mind
If you want to understand the power of your mind, unlock the true potential it holds, you cannot just state a few words or look at a few photos. Even if you can think happy thoughts, you still need a plan for change. To begin, find some way to be distracted.
You can accomplish this goal by writing, painting, singing, decorating your house, riding a bike, swimming, exercising, shopping, walking, going out in nature, spending time with your pet, or anything else similar that you can do on a regular basis which allows your mind to be distracted from the outside noise of life. As you get into an emotional free zone, use this time to be purposeful and find happy memories to focus on and guide you to a place of intent to change.
These can be memories with family and friends, or memories of your greatest accomplishments. Cultivate those memories, remember the feelings and the minute details about what occurred. Bring them to life again within your mind. As you practice this technique more often, you will find yourself beginning to tune your mind towards the positive energy stream and flow from the Collective Consciousness of Mankind, along with Higher Order Collective Consciousness, and wisdom will now flow much more freely to you and through you.
You will now find yourself knowing how to face situations in your life and why you can live in peace as you will feel the growing connection and an attunement to the best of the life source energy. The questions about your life will diminish and you will trust yourself more. It will feel like a gut instinct but you will know its true source. Now is the time to begin to unlock the true power and potential of your mind. It only takes your belief and a willingness to accept your life without limits, and your mind without control.
By Dr. Bruce A. Johnson
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/10033232
Thursday 15 November 2018
8 Tips To Cope With Very Bad News
It's not easy. It's never easy. And nothing can really help you forget the situation. But there are a few little tricks that might somehow soothe you or make you find some extra strength and there are some other things that you should try and avoid in order to not feel even worse.
Let me try and summarize a few tips for you. Remember, this is not about your sick loved ones now, but about you...
Think up two or three positive thoughts or recall two happy or better yet, funny memories and keep them ready to tell your loved one if the moment arises. You have to think of them when you're alone because life tends to get busy or overwhelming when near a sick person. Grab the opportunities to give them little gifts of happiness throughout the day. Have some stories, anecdotes or memories ready at all times. Be ready to force a change of subject in the conversation when you feel that you and the patient are going in circles around the same old themes. That will act as a flush of fresh, invigorating breeze.
Whenever you're with your loved sick ones, focus all your attention on them and try not to think about your pain. It can never match theirs. And don't let mental digressions divert you from your real chore which is keeping yourself strong enough to help the person you love. It's easy to ask oneself "why us, why me?" It's in fact an unavoidable question. But it's a question that has no answer and looking for one obsessively will not solve the problem and will deduct from your energy reserves. When that question (or similar ones) pop into your head, look at it squarely for a couple of seconds and then let your thoughts tell it to leave you alone. Turn your attention to more fruitful endeavors.
Keep busy. Don't sit around letting questions attack you. Don't stay in bed if you're awake doing nothing; grab a book or get up to bake some cookies. Anything is better than letting destructive or depressive thoughts and tortuous questions engulf you. One of my favorites is writing something for my loved ones when my mind doesn't seem to find any peace. The mere act of sitting at the computer or holding the pen in my hand helps me focus and fight negative ideas. Another favorite one of mine is, of course, reading. Reading soothes my mind so much! It helps me run away from my reality for a little while and has proven to be a great way to reduce stress. But whatever you read must be of interest to you. Don't try to take any book laying around in your house. Choose something that has meaning and you really want to know about.
Meet up with friends who can support you too. Find moments to vent your anger and sadness away from your sick loved one but supported by friends or others who care for you. Let others share your pain and comfort you, too. Don't play hero all day long; it's exhausting and you need to save up your energy.
If not with friends, try to vent your anger and distress by running, exercising, walking or practicing any sport you like or engaging in any manual activity of your choice. Doing something physical helps the mind focus. It's OK to feel angry and frustrated, it's only natural. And crying is also good. But no matter what you do, don't let the anger and frustration accumulate inside you. Those two are very destructive forces that will only lead to more sadness. Feel them, face them and understand that what you are feeling is a natural reaction. Then vent away any unacceptable or excessive accumulations by doing something physical.
Plan little actions for each day. Some of them you will undertake, others will remain just planned. Have things to do at all times: rent a movie, order a book, organize a small reunion with friends over drinks, decide what to cook for dinner... even if your days seem completely full and overfilled, still plan ahead. Planning daily things to do with or without the patient will give you a sense of normalcy that will help bear the hours. Some of those plans you can design together with your loved one: discuss the details, talk about the choices... as you would do under any other circumstances.
There will be times when your mind and your soul will ask for quiet and peace, for silence and inactivity. Take a break. Give yourself some moments alone and don't feel guilty for taking them. Let your thoughts and raw feelings rest a bit. But make sure those times don't turn into self-punishment. If you feel that your mind is starting to go in circles around unanswerable questions again, put a stop to it. One thing is enjoying a quiet moment; something else is letting depression catch up with you.
And finally, let your loved one know that you are there, that you are the same old you and that you're together in this. Sometimes, when the pain is big, we withdraw from our loved ones because it's too much to bear. Try not to do that. Sail the ride together. Let the love you share hold you together. It's OK to show them that you are sad or even angry, as long as you can also show them that you are hopeful and that you still cherish these moments together. A happy moment treasured now is worth more than many, less meaningful others shared before.
Life is sometimes unbearably hard, you're right. And we should never pretend it's not. But it's our task to look for the small, good things around us to help those who are sick. Use these little tips to help you go through your dark days.
Enjoy life, yes, even under these terrible circumstances, enjoy the good moments in life.
By Jessica J Lockhart
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9966659
Let me try and summarize a few tips for you. Remember, this is not about your sick loved ones now, but about you...
Think up two or three positive thoughts or recall two happy or better yet, funny memories and keep them ready to tell your loved one if the moment arises. You have to think of them when you're alone because life tends to get busy or overwhelming when near a sick person. Grab the opportunities to give them little gifts of happiness throughout the day. Have some stories, anecdotes or memories ready at all times. Be ready to force a change of subject in the conversation when you feel that you and the patient are going in circles around the same old themes. That will act as a flush of fresh, invigorating breeze.
Whenever you're with your loved sick ones, focus all your attention on them and try not to think about your pain. It can never match theirs. And don't let mental digressions divert you from your real chore which is keeping yourself strong enough to help the person you love. It's easy to ask oneself "why us, why me?" It's in fact an unavoidable question. But it's a question that has no answer and looking for one obsessively will not solve the problem and will deduct from your energy reserves. When that question (or similar ones) pop into your head, look at it squarely for a couple of seconds and then let your thoughts tell it to leave you alone. Turn your attention to more fruitful endeavors.
Keep busy. Don't sit around letting questions attack you. Don't stay in bed if you're awake doing nothing; grab a book or get up to bake some cookies. Anything is better than letting destructive or depressive thoughts and tortuous questions engulf you. One of my favorites is writing something for my loved ones when my mind doesn't seem to find any peace. The mere act of sitting at the computer or holding the pen in my hand helps me focus and fight negative ideas. Another favorite one of mine is, of course, reading. Reading soothes my mind so much! It helps me run away from my reality for a little while and has proven to be a great way to reduce stress. But whatever you read must be of interest to you. Don't try to take any book laying around in your house. Choose something that has meaning and you really want to know about.
Meet up with friends who can support you too. Find moments to vent your anger and sadness away from your sick loved one but supported by friends or others who care for you. Let others share your pain and comfort you, too. Don't play hero all day long; it's exhausting and you need to save up your energy.
If not with friends, try to vent your anger and distress by running, exercising, walking or practicing any sport you like or engaging in any manual activity of your choice. Doing something physical helps the mind focus. It's OK to feel angry and frustrated, it's only natural. And crying is also good. But no matter what you do, don't let the anger and frustration accumulate inside you. Those two are very destructive forces that will only lead to more sadness. Feel them, face them and understand that what you are feeling is a natural reaction. Then vent away any unacceptable or excessive accumulations by doing something physical.
Plan little actions for each day. Some of them you will undertake, others will remain just planned. Have things to do at all times: rent a movie, order a book, organize a small reunion with friends over drinks, decide what to cook for dinner... even if your days seem completely full and overfilled, still plan ahead. Planning daily things to do with or without the patient will give you a sense of normalcy that will help bear the hours. Some of those plans you can design together with your loved one: discuss the details, talk about the choices... as you would do under any other circumstances.
There will be times when your mind and your soul will ask for quiet and peace, for silence and inactivity. Take a break. Give yourself some moments alone and don't feel guilty for taking them. Let your thoughts and raw feelings rest a bit. But make sure those times don't turn into self-punishment. If you feel that your mind is starting to go in circles around unanswerable questions again, put a stop to it. One thing is enjoying a quiet moment; something else is letting depression catch up with you.
And finally, let your loved one know that you are there, that you are the same old you and that you're together in this. Sometimes, when the pain is big, we withdraw from our loved ones because it's too much to bear. Try not to do that. Sail the ride together. Let the love you share hold you together. It's OK to show them that you are sad or even angry, as long as you can also show them that you are hopeful and that you still cherish these moments together. A happy moment treasured now is worth more than many, less meaningful others shared before.
Life is sometimes unbearably hard, you're right. And we should never pretend it's not. But it's our task to look for the small, good things around us to help those who are sick. Use these little tips to help you go through your dark days.
Enjoy life, yes, even under these terrible circumstances, enjoy the good moments in life.
By Jessica J Lockhart
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